You're getting married! Now, which ceremony is right for you?
There are so many kinds of nuptial rites to choose from. Do you want traditional? Multi-cultural? Or short and sweet?
BY: Rob Kerby
A WINE CEREMONY
Or perhaps you want something completely different from such a traditional ceremony.
Here is an offbeat rite fromFrance’s wine country, adapted by J.K. Schwehm who says that this was originally used to join two vineyard owners in marriage.
In this brief ceremony, red wine and white wine in two small carafes are placed next to an empty carafe with a wineglass on a small table near the couple. The center carafe, called the Marriage Carafe is sometimes a bit larger than the two outside “individual” carafes. If the individual carafes are carried in the Wedding Processional the Marriage Carafe or Wine Glass is already sitting on the table and only the two individual filled carafes are carried forth.
First, the Bride walks in carrying the white wine. The Groom carries the red wine. They or their attendants place their carafes on the stand where the empty carafe and glass are waiting. (A variation has both the Bride and Groom carrying in empty carafes which they place next to the large empty carafe. After the three carafes have been placed, the parents of the couple step forward with bottles of wine. The Groom’s parents pour red wine into one carafe, the Bride’s parents, white.)
The wedding proceeds with traditional or non-traditional greetings offered by the officiating person (who, even if you are being very non-traditional, still must be legally authorized in that jurisdiction to perform weddings). The greetings are followed by whatever exchange of vows have been agreed upon – again, traditional or not.
Then, the couple goes to the stand. Each takes their carafe and pours some wine into the larger carafe. The Groom then takes the larger carafe with the combined red and white wine and pours some in a glass for the Bride.
The Bride then takes the larger carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a glass for the Groom.
He toasts his Bride with, “Now Our Lives Are One” and drinks from the glass. She responds the same.
They place the wineglasses back and face back to the officiant. Who states:
This ceremony represents the two individual lives which are now combined like the two wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives as one.
He may also announce that immediately after the service others may drink the new wine of their commitment to one life if they so desire.
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