You're getting married! Now, which ceremony is right for you?
There are so many kinds of nuptial rites to choose from. Do you want traditional? Multi-cultural? Or short and sweet?
BY: Rob Kerby
A LONGER CIVIL CEREMONY
Here is a civil ceremony that is somewhat longer. Whereas the short form might be used in the judge’s office between trials, this ceremony might be used in a less formal setting, such as a home wedding or nuptials held at a country club:
We are here today in the presence of family and friends to share with Bride and Groom the most important moment in their lives. We do this as the legal requirement to be married in this State but this ceremony does not alter the love required to be husband and wife. Without the love between these two people we would not be here today.
What is marriage? It has been said that marriage is that relationship between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual and the obligation reciprocal. Bride and Groom, you are now to bring together the best parts of your individuality, uniting spirit, talent and experience to create something better than either of you alone can offer. You must and I’m sure will, work hard to maintain this union.
By this ceremony you will become husband and wife, but the soul of your marriage depends on the constant renewal of the choices and promises out of love for one another you make today.
Life together will sometimes be playful and effortless, sometimes frustrating and difficult. Each day your relationship will strengthen if you choose to continue to love and honor one another.
Love is something beyond the excitement of romance and being in love. It is a committed, thoughtful decision. Love is nurturing. Love is listening. Love is caring about your partner. Love lightens burdens because you divide them. Love intensifies joys because you share them.
If you truly love you will always be loyal to one another. No matter what the cost always believe in one another, always expect the best of one another and above all else, always support one another in every day living.
Bride and Groom came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and most importantly, the fun of true friendship.
The step which you are about to take is the most important into which human beings can come. It is a union of two people founded upon mutual respect and affection. Your lives will change, your responsibilities will increase, but your joy will be multiplied if you are sincere and earnest with your pledge to one another.
It is the wish of everyone here today that your marriage bring each of you much happiness. Happiness in marriage doesn’t just happen though. You must work on it. Remember to say “I love you”, hold hands whenever you get the chance and at no time take the other for granted.
Family and friends, we are witnesses to the union of two individuals who choose to commit to a life together. Our responsibility as their friends and witnesses is to provide them as a couple with our love, support and approval.
For the beauty around us, the strength it offers and the peace it brings, we are grateful and honored to be a part of the life you have chosen to live as husband and wife from this day forward.( Recognize loved ones present or departed optional here)
Will you Groom have this woman to be your wedded wife, to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her and forsaking all others, for so long as you both shall live? (I Will)
Will you, Bride take Groom to be your wedded husband, to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him and forsaking all others, so long as you both shall live? (I Will)
Take hands and repeat after me: I, Groom, take you, Bride, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, to love and to cherish, from this day forward.
I, Bride, take you, Groom to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer of for poorer, to love and to cherish, from this day forward.
Rings please… Place the ring on the Bride’s finger and say: With this ring, I thee wed. Place the ring on the Groom’s finger and say: With this ring, I thee wed.
In as much as Bride and Groom have consented together in wedlock and have witnessed the same before this company and pledged their vows to each other, by the authority vested in me by this State, I now pronounce you husband and wife. (Kiss)
The Civil Ceremony in the Judge's Office
A Longer Longer Civil Ceremony
A Basic Christian Ceremony
A Longer Christian Ceremony
A Wine Ceremony
The Seven Steps
An Interfaith Ceremony
A Super Short Ceremony