How to Let Go of Past Loves

Shut the Door on the Uninvited Guest

Practice separating your “self” from your “thoughts.” It does not matter whether or not your thought is “true.” It only matters whether the thought interferes with your happiness.

Think of persistent thoughts as you would a neighbor who drops by without calling to tell you your car is parked in front of your house. Say, “Thanks, Mind, for the boring and obvious update.” In other words, respond without resistance—a mental yawn.