Happy Couple

When we are younger, we are primarily interested in finding someone who is attractive, who can support us and who will treat us like a queen. Then, you wise up and find out life is not always as we dreamed as little girls. Sometimes relationships don't last and you may be contemplating dating again. Why shouldn't you? You're committed, confident and know how to handle the pitfalls of a relationship. By 30 you’ve had a few relationships and learned what you want and what you won't tolerate. It’s important to know the qualities to look for in a man and when you become older you won't settle for the nonsense like you did during your 20s. Everyone has experienced breakups and mishaps, but mid-life is a time to live again and to find true companionship without the drama. Guys, take notice of what a mature woman wants in a relationship.

They want honesty.

The popular dating site Zoosk looked through 2,645,930 profiles and 234,688,001 messages to see what women in their 30s, 40s and 50s were looking for in a mate. The top contender for women was a man who was honest. "Unlike men, however, every age-group of women mentioned honestly more often than any other trait when describing what they’re looking for." Women want men to be emotionally honest with them. A mature woman knows that in a relationship there needs to be honesty. It's not worth playing games with someone who twists the truth. A woman who has been down this road before will not bargain with childish behavior such as dishonesty.

They pick their battles.

An older woman will know what battles to pursue and which ones to let go of during a dispute. She knows to not react immediately, to choose the right time to talk and to not yell. A mature gal also knows how to evaluate the consequences of getting into an argument. She may ask herself: “Will I care about this tomorrow?" to gauge the conversation first before addressing concerns. Foolish conversations will lead nowhere, and a mature woman wants her man to take the same attitude in this area. "Address the situation as soon as you see an issue arise. Some arguments are simply a difference in perspective," abcnews.go.com reported. A mature woman is not perfect, but she wants to pick her battles for the safety of the relationship.

They don't play games, they want to love.

Who has time to play games? When we are younger, we played mind games and it took up a lot of time and it leads to heartbreak. If you’re a man who is attracted to drama, a mature woman is not for you. According to Zoosk, women of all ages are interested in finding a loving partner. "Loving is the 13th most popular character for women in their 30s, the 11th for women in their 40s and 9th for women over 50." Older women don't have time to waste on men who don't want a commitment. She knows what she wants, is self-assured and will not be involved in a relationship with someone who is not ready to put in the work or someone who plays emotional games.

They keep their gal pals.

When we're younger we sacrifice good friends for the sake of a relationship. And those relationships are forever lost due to people drifting apart. Since we can't go back in time to restore the friendships we had, a woman now knows that she will never risk a bond like that again. In our 20s, our girlfriends are like soulmates and we feel like we're kindred spirits. But the truth is when a serious relationship with a guy comes into play the bond seems to break because there's a lack of investment in the friendship. It’s important that you always remember that your friends were there before you met someone. Spending time with them will always be important and now that we're older, we need to find a balance with our friendships and in our love life.

They don't care about money.

A mature woman doesn't care if you have a lot of money, but she won't give up her independence either. A mature woman will enter the relationship with financial confidence and needs a man who will not be intimidated by this. At this time in life, she wants a man for companionship and money is secondary. She wants someone who is thoughtful. It not about the gifts, it about remembering their favorite food or doing acts of kindness. Not everyone marries a person who is thoughtful and this is important to her and she knows it's a two-way street. She knows that the man she's with needs to be treated with respect and kindness. This includes compliments, offering encouragement, sending notes and text messages to connect through the day.
Money can't buy you this kind of emotional support.

They take "I love you" seriously.

A mature woman knows the value of saying "I love you." When we were younger we tossed those words around like candy to get what we craved or to push ourselves into feeling love for someone that was never there. When she says that she loves you, she means it and it's special, not a tease. There will be no doubt in the guy's mind that this woman loves him with a pure heart.

Finding balance, love and commitment is part of a mature woman's mantra. She expects to find the same in her love relationships. She been through the ropes and is certainly done with the mindless games she's experienced in the past. Is she perfect? No way. Still, she's honest enough to know what she wants in a man and how she wants to live her life.
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