If you want to know everything about your partner...
Do you ask questions about your partner? Do you show interest in his or her hobbies, thoughts, childhood, and dreams?
When you love someone, you want to know more about them—you display a sense of curiosity about their past and future.
Lust, though, tends to focus on sexuality at the expense of learning about one another—everything else is deemed a waste of time. It’s utilitarian.
You can tell love is real, even in the exciting rush of a new relationship, if you and your partner tend to pay attention to the details—things like remembering a favorite food or story or recalling a particular mannerism.
Love doesn’t feel practical. It involves using your time to do things and have conversations that don’t directly benefit you.
But that’s the beauty of love, isn’t it? It doesn’t have to be practical. It’s not constrained by what benefits us the most.
So if you find yourself gushing over all your partner’s quirks, that’s a great sign you’re in love.