In the beginning, divorce offers primarily pain, loss, and tears.
It is a cataclysmic combustion of angst and emotion yet eventually it translates into an opportunity. It is a chance to open up to far greater lessons which may bring about a more mature view on relationships.
At the very least it offers a less idealist lens through which to peer at love.
It is not unusual that wonderful lessons are born of hearty pain. And divorce fosters such a magnitude of emotional discomfort it forces you to make necessary changes in yourself, your life, and your current and future relationships.
It is a detox of sorts or what could be considered a healthy relationship cleanse.
This stems in part from hard earned lessons of self-discovery. Initially you go to counseling certain all the fault is with your spouse. If you are dedicated enough to remain long enough you learn this is only partially true. Hence, it is a perfect opportunity to learn difficult truths about why you chose the partner you did and how you arrived at this difficult relationship crossroad.
It is a humbling experience to understand tough lessons about family of origin and the roles people play in relationships. And the fact, that your own life experiences often determine how you choose the one you love.
Thus, making divorce less about overall blame and more about self-empowerment and self-improvement. It is a chance to feel less victimized and more accountable. It can promote the awareness of much needed personal boundaries and self-protection.
Divorce also flips the mistaken perception relationships are strictly about two people.
Instead, it forces the realization relationships stem from one person. And exactly how emotionally healthy that individual is determines how healthy the spouse they attract themselves to.
Therefore, the exciting truth is you do have more control in attracting yourself to healthy and happy relationships. This is the result of the ever-indomitable heart relenting long enough to listen to the ever more rational head.