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How Great Thou Part

Do you remember the first time your mom dropped you off at school?

You cling to her leg with tears streaming down your face.

And whimper…

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Please don’t leave me?

This place looks scary?

Why can’t I stay with you?

But your mom promises if you just stick it out it will be worth it.

You are going to learn all of these new things and have all these great new experiences.

She pries your fingers away from her leg.

And then she utters the proverbial mom catchphrase…

“I’ll be back. I promise.”

You spend most of the day peering out the window wondering when she will be back. It seems like forever. You know she’s out there somewhere. If only you see or talk to her the rest of the day would seem bearable.

Just the reassurance she really hasn’t forgotten you.

And finally, when it seems all is lost and you are exhausted from way too many teachers and starving since lunch was ages ago – she pulls up. You scramble to get into the safety of that car and back beside the woman who makes your whole world make sense.

All is right with the world again.

Five years ago, God dropped me off.

I clung to Him with tears streaming down my face.

And I whimpered…

Please don’t leave me?

This place looks scary?

Why can’t I stay with you?

But He promised if I would just stick it out it would be worth it.

I was going to learn all of these new things and have all these great new experiences.

Not unlike elementary school, I didn’t love all of my lessons and I spent a fair amount of time looking out the window wondering where God was.

I just wanted the reassurance He hadn’t forgotten me. 

All these years later, new experiences still seemed scary.

And finally when all seemed lost God pulled up.

And all was right with the world again.

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There’s nothing newsworthy about siblings or people who love one another arguing.

But when you are reality television celebrities it seems all is fair in love and war.

First, let’s stare down the saddest of the sister sling’s – “You’re the least exciting to look at.”

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Nothing could be further from the truth.

All of the Kardashian’s are ‘gene blessed.’ Kourtney is not only gorgeous she has one of the greatest gifts beauty can bestow. While age diminishes the light of most, it only seems to increase her beauty.

While many will comment on this Kardashian Katasrophe…

The love between them is undeniable.

In truth, it is probably one of the greatest reasons for their longevity.

If the world couldn’t discern this they would not have captured such a lasting televised legacy.

They are infinitely connected.

They show up for one another, are fiercely loyal, are fiercely protective, are fiercely supportive, are fiercely caring, are fiercely loving, yet they can be fiercely critical.

Their dilemma lies somewhere between a lack of respect and good communication and their devotion to one another.

First, let’s speak to their devotion to one another.

One of their undeniable strengths is their connectivity. A love which has no boundaries. One which does not know where one of them stops and the other starts. They have been there for one another throughout many losses and ups and downs. They have the degree of caring and intimacy which makes it difficult to see one another suffer in any way nor veer too far from one another in any way.

Second, let’s speak to respect and communication.

Relationships which involve disrespectful communication, unfortunately, send one universal message.

I LOVE you but I don’t LIKE you.

Essentially this seems to be what Kourtney is trying to communicate – she feels bad about herself in certain situations.

Why? Because a lack of respect begets a resounding call to ‘judgment.’ It includes terminology such as, “She Always,” “She Never,” “Everyone thinks so,” “Why doesn’t she?” “We all do.”

It’s a ‘group’ terminology.

A crowdsourcing of communication.

Disrespectfulness says, “I can convince you what you are thinking or how you are behaving is wrong because look how many people I have crowdsourced to agree with me in order to prove this point.”

The bare bones of it?

In solving both dilemmas?

The close connectivity compromise and disrespectful downfall?

Ego.

When one lets go of their own ego long enough to allow someone else to be who they are, a tolerance emerges.

An exuberant and joyful tolerance of individuality.

Something which can be truly hard in unbelievably close-knit and loving families.

In other words,

I love myself enough to allow you to be who you are. I am no longer threatened. If you take a different path, I realize we will remain just as close. I do not need you to be exactly like me. I now understand it is an immature ego which accompanies a need for control. I realize I sometimes confuse love and control. Not because I do not love fully but because control makes me feel safer, as if you will always be here. I know we can be who we were each meant to be without telling one another what that is.”

The Kardashian sisters are safe.

They will always be there for one another.

Like most families, an elevated awareness of respect and good communication can only improve their already close and loving relationships.

But disrespectfulness requires deprogramming.

It will take time, awareness, and counseling, to actually listen to and hear one another when they are upset. If showing up on time is important to one of them, it should be important to all of them.

Herein, lies respect.

I do not have to agree, but I do need to respect what those I love find important, worrisome, stressful, etc.

So Kardashian fans take heart.

This family still loves one another.

They are just so close and so interconnected it’s difficult for them to allow one another to do what they want.

No, not because it comes from a bad place but because all of these years they have been such a tremendous support system to one another they have a difficult time letting go.

Rather than judge them…

It’s actually possible to love someone so much you have difficulty allowing them to be who they are if it means they seem to be straying from the infrastructure which made you all whole.

Big families are complicated.

Big sister families even more complicated.

It doesn’t mean what was said isn’t horrible and hurtful.

It just means what we have long known.

Love is complicated.

 

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Ask any parent of divorce their greatest heartache and they will tell you it’s their children’s suffering.

Ask any child of divorce their greatest heartache and they will likely spare their parent’s the truth.

I’ve ridden both sides of this heartache.

In many ways, making it worse knowing exactly the type of pain my children suffer.

When I began writing about this topic to comfort and expose the true angst, I asked my boys if they would be okay with me writing about it. I think because all three are writers themselves and because they are confident enough to share if it means others might be helped – they said yes.

I never imagined such a long journey for them. 

I have said many times, I believed initiating a divorce would free them not hold them captive an additional five years.

I cried through this song by RaeLynn.

As parents, we all wish we could have done better for the greatest gifts we have ever received.

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When we are in the thick of it, slinging the mud of adversity we pray for help.

And we pray and we pray.

I did.

I prayed until I wondered if I was praying properly. Should I ask God to help me get through this? Should I thank God for helping me get through this? Should I say a Novena? Should I pray to the Saints?

pexels-photo-289998It’s pretty safe to say I did all of those things and more and I took comfort in it all.

I wore out my proverbial Catholic saddle shoes.

Do we pray for grace? Do we pray for respite? Why do bad things happen? Why does some suffering last for so long? Why do some prayers get answered and others do not? How do we know exactly what to pray for? Especially when our path seems less than clear for far too long?

We know this is a part of our spiritual growth.

But what if it could also be called a ‘spiritual process?’

In other words, perhaps there is no one way to pray but rather an evolution of prayer while experiencing difficulty.

Not just the suffering but the struggling with just how we spiritually attack it.

Think about that for a moment.

It’s actually comforting. Why? Because we often can’t find our way through the heartache so we dig even deeper into our faith. In doing so, we get more and more confused when our prayers don’t seem to be answered or the pain and adversity don’t lessen.

So we begin to let confusion in. Why aren’t our prayers being answered? What are we doing wrong? Are we not praying enough? In the right manner?

I do not think that is the case.

Any period of prolonged suffering will not be sustained by one approach. Suffering is a journey. One rooted in our faith but complicated by the human condition.

I have learned a lot throughout this period in my life which required a beefed up level of prayer.

And it has been a spiritual process.  

The initial resistance of my situation followed by

The pleas for help

Turned into an acceptance of pain and

A prayerfully confused struggle to endure it when finally

A willingness to accept it and a hopefulness once again took hold

While I asked God for the grace to learn what I was meant to learn

And in doing so I could thank God for things finally getting better and moving forward

And then ultimately knowing it was time to stop praying for things to get better

And absorb all the lessons I had learned – both life and spiritual – both good and bad

And say, “I’m ready God.”

And embrace the new doors God has been preparing me for.

To turn this excruciating spiritual process into my spiritual evolution. 

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Some years back we were vacationing in Myrtle Beach.

My youngest son was just seven years old at the time.

The day was beginning when we sat down to read a chapter in his CCD book.

During my own childhood, the most I witnessed of CCD were the kids racing to the classrooms after Sunday Mass. I got to head home for my mom’s traditional pancake breakfast. After all, I spent the entire week immersed in plaid uniforms and Catholic education.

pexels-photo-207697The decision to send my children to public school is not a choice I took lightly

And I won’t deny I second guessed this decision more than once.

I remember one day at daily mass watching the elementary school children file row by row into the church. Their uniforms neatly pressed and tucked.

My friend ‘Lucy’ sat beside me. Also, a Catholic school girl, we were entranced as we watched this familiar choreographed procession. When the kids were seated we both turned to one another with the exact same thoughts. “Did we make the right decision? Would our children have the same devotion to the Catholic faith we have?”

Would having just one day a week to absorb the entirety of our faith be enough?

That early morning in Myrtle Beach my little guy and I read the whole chapter and turned to the homework in the back of the book.

We answered several questions when we came upon one which was somewhat vague in nature, at least to a seven-year-old little boy. Or should I say, to his grown mother? Because in hindsight, he knew the correct answer immediately.

The question and I paraphrase was “How do we pray to God?”

“I want a hole in one,” says my son.

He is obviously thinking of the putt-putt golf excursion we have planned that evening so I try and redirect.

“No, honey that isn’t what the question is asking. You aren’t asking God for something it’s asking you how do you pray to God?”

I spend a few more minutes trying different explanations to no avail.

“I want a hole in one,” says my son yet again.

I decide it’s time to call it a morning. Either the question isn’t precise enough for him to completely understand or I am not the best substitute CCD teacher.

We spend the rest of the day out and about and eventually make our way to play golf. All three of my boys are laughing and having fun.

We get ready for our final move of the course. 

It’s not an easy hole. 

It’s down a slope and about two to three yards long.

We all take a shot at it and miss and then my youngest son steps up.

Our mouths hang open with complete shock.

There in front of our eyes, my little guy’s white golf ball plops perfectly into the hole.

The rest of us shout in amazement.

Did you see that? Can you believe it? How is that possible?

My youngest is quiet. There are no screams of joy or jumps into the air.

“I can’t believe you just made that hole in one,” I say.

“I asked God for it,” he confidently replies.

A content smile now covering his cute little mug.

I am speechless.

I have no memory of our morning conversation – until he utters those words.

My youngest son brazenly leads the way to our car.

We all file into the seats and silence fills the air while we digest what has truly happened.

That day I learned three things about being a Catholic.

Not to tell my son how to pray – I am pretty sure God was clearing that up for me.

That faith isn’t based on a few days in a classroom – it’s much deeper than that.

And if you pray boldly it’s another way of saying you pray with devout belief.

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It’s undeniable many of our relationship decisions are rooted in our childhood.

And yes, it’s good to learn about why we make the choices we make, what influences shaped us, etc.

But sometimes we just need to cut ourselves a break. 

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We were babies after all.

At least the majority of us, when we were making these lifelong, complicated decisions of who to permanently attach ourselves to.

The only problem?

We didn’t know it.

We were playing dress up on the exterior with the emotional interior of a toddler.

What on earth could go wrong with this scenario?

Amazingly, nothing for the vast many.

Somehow, their physical exterior caught up with their emotional interior and they continue to enjoy relationship bliss.

However, there are the others.

The ones who really didn’t understand who or what they were getting themselves attached to.

And therefore, eventually emotionally outgrew one another.

That’s a really nice way of saying the relationship crashed and burned.

But here’s the good news.

Yes, we need an emotional education to learn and make better choices. Improving ourselves and the relationships in our lives is a great and admirable goal. It’s inspiring to think we can achieve happier and more respectful partnerships. But part of growth can also involve self-forgiveness. Letting go of past decisions and mistakes.

And letting the universe occasionally take one for the team.

 

3 Reasons to Give Yourself a Break in a Breakup

 

We Were Young

What on earth did we know?

We just knew the hot guy or hot girl across the party was staring at us.

And at the time, it seemed like a really great thing.

Forget family of origin or other similarities which were really drawing us closer!

They were hot, funny AND they liked us!

A trifecta! A win-win!

 

We Were Clueless

We grew up in big families where everyone talked over one another.

And yelling seemed to be an odd form of affection.

We didn’t understand those big families were code for ‘slightly complicated.’

What did we know about communicating and respect?

That was the spice of small families and who would want to miss out on all this robust complicated fun?

 

We Were Uneducated

Look, no one was talking statistics when we rushed in to show them the ring.

They just sipped champagne with us.

Come to think of it, they weren’t chatting about it prior to the rock either.

The seasoned married couples just smiled politely, it was the era of  ‘no dirty laundry.’

Instead, they just hung it out to dry.

 

We Were Defiantly Optimistic 

Actually, we might have been arrogantly optimistic.

What? Us make the same mistakes as our parents??

Like, never!

If they fought we wouldn’t even argue. If they ignored one another we would be Besties.

If they didn’t let us get a dog, we would own five.

If they had six kids we would have a more manageable three.

We knew it all or did we?

 

We Were Naive

Look, life isn’t complicated.

It just needs some planning.

We sow a few oats and get married later. That’ll work.

That’s us, always thinking – improving our odds.

Children need even more planning so we’ll delay that as well.

Now we have everything under control.

As long as we keep ahead of life’s curve, we got this relationship thing mastered.

Yet, life can’t be controlled. At best, it can be forecasted or shall we say anticipated?

 

 

Self-Forgiveness is just one step away.

Let the universe take this one for the team.

We were babies.

We just didn’t know it.

We had so much growing up to do.

With that said, better now lock eyes with the hottie who’s no longer playing emotional dress up.

The team can only take so many losses.

 

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I listen and it sounds all too familiar.

A mother I know can’t stop beating herself up.

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Will her children suffer permanently since they don’t see their father enough?

Will her son be okay without a present male influence in his life?

Are her children experiencing typical adolescent angst or is it a result of the separation and divorce?

Do her children know her outbursts are born out of fear and love and outright stress and fatigue rather than true anger?

Will her relationships with her children suffer?

Will they blame her for their family falling apart?

What is it about this structural family change which makes one parent assume total responsibility?

Of course, adults should accept responsibility for their actions but there is a difference between ‘accountability’ and ‘beating one’s self up.’

No individual sets out to choose divorce.

It is an unfortunate result.

A destination arrived at when all other options have been exhausted.

One person can fight all they want to save a relationship. It’s exhaustive and futile and sadly, a battle taken on by far too many when ultimately two have to fight for one successful whole. Certainly, there are some marriages which end with a joint decision but far more end because one person stopped caring long before the other.

The evolution of life can’t be controlled.

So many things cause the end of a marriage.

Here are at least Three Reasons Single Parents Should Give Themselves a Break:

You’re Present

Your marriage may be over but your commitment to your children and your family is not.

You never left them. You just left a relationship which was unhealthy for them to continue to be immersed in.

You are there day in and day out. 

Parenting is a combination of love, security, stability, accountability, advocacy, and support of all kinds – emotional, physical, and financial.

Children recognize love. 

They understand the parent who is continually available to them emotionally and who makes their world safe.

You’re Strong

Being a single parent is not for the faint of heart.

Gone are the shared burdens.

They are replaced by quiet pillow conversations of one. 

There is no one to whisper your emotional, financial, or parenting concerns to late at night.

If you are tired you must keep going. If you are worried you must discount those fears.

And you chose to go it alone rather than let your children continue to see a poor example of a loving relationship.

You’re Human

Babies are brought home with the love and hope for the future they intrinsically represent. 

Every single person who marries hopes to defy the odds or they wouldn’t walk down that aisle.

Life is built upon growth which stems from many twists and turns, some new and exciting and others filled with change and loss.

Any single parent can bear witness to the incredible guilt which accompanies choosing divorce and the sense of failure.

It’s a sense of letting not just your children but yourself down.

And worse, you can’t correct it.

You can’t restore your children’s idyllic childhood.

But you can reinforce your love for them, their unique gifts, how special they are, and how God somehow believed this was their intended path.

 

It’s this type of faith which restores empowerment.

Your children see you surrendering to God’s plan and confidently modeling this was meant to be.

And that as long as you have God and each other you still have everything.

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Anyone who has experienced the complicated journey of divorce has more than likely known their fair share of moments of stress and duress.

Be it struggles over co-parenting, finances, etc., it may feel as if individuality is temporarily suspended in favor of another dictating your life.

Or perhaps there is less spousal conflict and more a sense of personal loss and identity crisis from remaining in a bad situation too long.

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Or simply a general sense of not knowing how to start over or which new direction to pursue. 

Regardless, of what particular aspect of loss, change, vulnerability, fear or frustration weighs on you most heavily, one thing is for sure.

It is difficult to think clearly through a time of exhaustive emotional transition and additional family and financial responsibility.    

The day to day is difficult enough for the average parent to maneuver let alone adding heartache and stress to the point of distraction.

Therefore, having short and specific prayerful mantras can ground anxiety and fears. 

This is a powerful way to keep worries from wandering. 

And reinforce your faith.

Why?

Because in times of suffering it isn’t uncommon to pray with fear.

Please let things get better.

Please let this stop.

Why won’t this stop? 

It can be an angst-filled version of prayer reinforcing your sense of temporary hopelessness.

As opposed to faith-filled affirmations assuring you there is both hope and a purpose to this particular suffering.

These are also powerful tools the minute any type of fear or anxiety threatens to steal a bit of your strength and focus while you rebuild your life personally, emotionally, spiritually and professionally.

5 Prayerful Mantras for Divorce

Lord, thank you for making this other person powerless in my life and restoring my sense of empowerment.

Lord, thank you for reminding me this other person is not in control, You are in control.

Lord, thank you for restoring my God-given gifts and taking me further towards my purpose.

Lord, thank you for restoring me, emotionally, spiritually and physically.

Lord, thank you for healing my children and I and restoring our warm, loving, respectful, and close relationships.

Lord, thank you for restoring my children’s joy, confidence, spirituality, sense of empowerment and hope through this.

Lord, thank you for lifting these struggles and allowing this pain to subside into purpose.

Lord, thank you for giving me the grace to accept these unwanted changes in my life.

Lord, thank you for the wisdom these are not the devastating losses they appear to be but changes I could not make alone

Lord, thank you for deeming it all I needed to learn and time for new doors and windows to fly open.

 

These prayerful mantras are just the beginning of reinforcing faith, not fear.

Every single individual is a child of God and deserves to be happy and has God-given gifts which often evolve through periods of great suffering.

The essence of suffering is self-reflection, restoration, and purpose.

It’s just extremely difficult to keep our eyes on that bigger picture while our world feels as though it is falling apart.

Whether you pray these mantras or personalize some for your own particular situation they should reinforce focus and hope and faith.

Lord, I am turning to you in faith not fear because you made me who I am and have given me both gifts and challenges meant to open new doors leading me further to my purpose.

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Suffice it to say agreements don’t always get honored.

Of course, I knew this was coming, I just didn’t realize it would happen so quickly.

I think this is a nice way of saying what many in divorce experience – ruthless divorces are often tag teamed by continuing antics.

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It’s about control and money.

Needless to say, I have spent the past week in a whirlwind running interference.

Primarily in the area of housing which may now be a crisis rather than the formerly agreed upon plan.

Those in my world, supportive and caring and understanding as ever – have watched as my children and I deal with yet another unnecessary crisis.

I’m not gonna lie.

It feels like a significant setback, like walking backward in time. 

Just when I was about to start writing about all the new, exciting and inspiring purpose that can evolve from unwanted change.

And then tonight as I lay restless, I remembered a mantra I began repeating to myself when things were at their worst. When I felt beyond frustrated and hopeless that I was more controlled by a man in divorce than I had been in marriage. When all I was fighting for was a chance to be free and start over and the bare essentials to do so. Not savings or retirement or big numbers just the bare minimum.

This mantra reinforces I was allowing the control (no matter how bad the situation was) I was making it even worse by being swept up in fear. Regardless of what he could do, my faith tells me only one person is truly in control.

God is in control.

Therefore, my mantra…

“Blank (insert name)” is not in control. God is in control.

As I said this tonight, fear and anxiety fell quiet.

This is a temporary hiccup.

This was always God’s timing.

Despite the mistakes, I made along the way, despite my now ex-husband’s prolonged resistance, despite my inability to free myself from a marriage, despite this huge, complex journey…

God was taking me towards this moment.

This time of simultaneous closure and new beginnings. 

Which reinforces not just doors but windows are flying open.

And one person can try and close them…

but what’s that quote??

“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

God is in control.

This interference, aka hiccup, is only going to reinforce this new beginning.

 

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People are human and therefore will talk about one another.

It’s a matter of just how often and who and what you are talking about.

In other words, it should lean towards the exception and not the rule.

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Perfection in this department may not be one hundred percent attainable. 

There will always be moments of high pressure and frustration or major events in life such as moving, weddings, babies, and new jobs. These will bring out the best and the worst in every individual.

However, talking about people, in general, is not a good behavior.

Of course, we know and understand this – we just lack the awareness for why we do it.

 

5 Reasons People Talk About One Another

 

Frustration

You’ve stayed in a bad situation too long, be it a friendship, a relationship or a professional environment.

And this can mushroom outside of itself in many ways.

At first, it’s complaining about the spouse, in-law or boss who is not treating you well. but the angst spreads because you continue to remain in a frustrating environment.

This is probably one of the easiest ways to stop talking about others.

However, it often means you must bring about some type of change in yourself or your environment which is never easy.

What external adjustments might your life need? Do you need marital counseling? Do you need to find a new job? Do you need to change departments within your current job? Do you need to leave a marriage or relationship? Do you need to see less of a friend? Or perhaps not see them at all?

What internal adjustments might you need? Do you need to ignore or not engage an in-law who mistreats you? Do you need to increase your boundaries in your personal or professional relationships? Do you need to self-protect in your marriage? These types of personal changes can be much harder. They may require the help of a spouse who asks their families to be more respectful of privacy and boundaries or a good counselor to give you ideas to handle certain situations.

 

Control

Control works one of two ways.

It’s either one individual who is controlling or one individual who is being controlled.

Both can bring about unwanted chatter.

A controlling individual generally believes there’s one way the world should be viewed and lived.

Therefore, if others do not conform or follow their beliefs they will talk about it because nothing exacerbates a controller more than NOT being able to control.

Further, these types of individuals tend to possess ego which prevents them from viewing others for their true selves and instead they project onto others. This also leads to talking about others because of their internal frustration – everyone is not like them which makes them talk about and judge others.

Likewise, a person who is controlled may manage it fairly well for a certain number of years but ultimately may find the control unbearable and begin to talk about those who they allow to control them.

Unfortunately, both of these situations are difficult to change.

It’s extremely difficult for a controller to stop their behavior and likewise one who has grown accustomed to being controlled.

But it can improve with insight and counseling.

 

The Inability to Resolve Conflict

Good communication is often a learned skill.

Few grow up in homes with the type of respect and truly great communication it takes to have better relationships.

However, taking the time to learn how to listen to and actually hear others can bring incredible peace to your life not to mention lower any need to talk about one you love.

Because often the inability to resolve conflict with one person prompts a person to feel the need to be heard by another individual.

Surely, they will understand your point of view.

Yet, if the conflict is resolved either immediately or in a timely manner there’s absolutely no need to vent your frustration elsewhere. 

This is both easy and hard to eliminate.

It’s easy because there is a proven solution. Learning great respect and communication. It’s difficult because books are just a baby step to this because most people can’t see all of their own communicating deficiencies. Even the most reflective individuals. A good counselor is really the road to the proper education.

But it will be the gift which keeps giving in your life not to mention lower your need to talk about others. One because once you learn it you can use it in all aspects of your life and it increases awareness of disrespectful situations you no longer want to put yourself in.

 

Low Self-Esteem

You don’t have to suffer from lifelong self-esteem issues to experience mere ‘moments’ of low self-esteem.

Yet, there are still others who do struggle with true self-esteem issues.

Either way, this is surely a cause of talking about others.

And the reason not complicated.

If you don’t feel good about yourself it’s difficult to feel good about others.

But the solution is complicated for those with real rather than temporary esteem problems.
Underlying Unhappiness

You’re just not happy and you’ve been unhappy for so long you’re not sure how you got to this place.

Or sadly, something has transpired in your life which you never properly processed and the unhappiness carries forward.

Therefore, it’s just easier to talk about others and in some ways, it feels like an outlet.

It takes three things to improve this situation.

Awareness, counseling, and support.

Unhappiness is easy to fight and it often makes it last longer. But unhappiness is an expected part of life.

It is temporary when dealt with.

 

We are human and full of emotion and therefore, we will talk about others.

But we can minimize it will self-awareness.

Most of us don’t really want to talk about anyone else in other than a good manner.

We just get bogged down by life at times and don’t always realize we are talking about someone else not because they truly bother us but because we have failed to make some type of change in our own personal lives.

 

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