Withholding affection can cause irreparable damage in a relationship. Ask any guy and he’ll tell you stories of rejections that cut him to the bone. When a lover withholds affection, it’s a particular kind of rejection that can affect a person’s self-esteem or thought process. Whether affection means being really touchy-feely, asking each other intense questions about meaningful things, or helping each other through obstacles, being absent and unaffectionate hurts the person you’re with and can really hurt your relationship. If there’s an intentional lack or even absence of affection, then it can cause serious doubts to show up in the relationship that are big enough to devastate it. If either of you is doing this to the other, it’s important that you get to the heart of the issue. You and the person you’re with should always feel loved, valued and appreciated.