Do you dump on your spouse when it comes to dinner, putting the kids to bed, etc. or do you make parenting the less selfish endeavor it should be? Do you selfishly not support your spouse in discipline where it is critical to present a united front rather than letting personal relationship differences interfere? Do you spend time enough time with your children or do you leave your spouse alone with them too much because you are busy with work and other things?
Parental shifting is when you make one spouse the primary parent, regardless of whether that parent has the more important career or one is a stay at home parent.