Whether you saw it coming or not, a break up is never easy. In fact, more times than not, a break up can cause you to question everything in your life. You may find yourself questioning whether you’re good enough within other aspects of your life that you normally would be confident in. If you allow it, rejected feelings endured from a break up can send you into a state of depression. Even though everyone around you is telling you that it’s going to be okay, your heart is uttering something different. However the reality, even though it may not feel like it, is that one day you will be able to put the pieces back together and feel whole again.
While you’re mourning your relationship, turn to prayer to move on after a break up. You’ll discover a newfound view on relationships; moreover, you’ll discover a closer bond with your relationship with your Lord and Savior as well. Psalm 34:18 represents the Lord’s love for you as His child. The scripture says, “The Lord is near to those who are discouraged; He saves those who have lost all hope.” More than ever, the Lord is listening to your words and striving for you to see that. You may be asking yourself, “Why is God allowing me to hurt?” As a child of Jesus Christ, it’s imperative that you understand every instance in your life has a meaning – ultimately, there is a lesson to be learned. God’s plan is reiterated in Jeremiah 29:11, “I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.” Everything will eventually make sense and that moment of awe is right around the corner.
The worst thing that you can do, while going through a break up, is to allow yourself an indefinite period of self-pity. It’s understandable to be heart broken and sad; however, it is inexcusable to allow the sorrow to take over your life. Without pain, you would never truly appreciate the glories of life and the feeling of true love. Try this prayer – you’ll find that the wise words cover the array of feelings and emotions you’re experiencing.
Lord, thank You for being You and for Your willingness to be here with me during this time. It's been difficult lately with this break up. You know that. You've been here watching me and watching us together. I know in my heart that if it was meant to be it would have happened, but that thought doesn't always mesh with how I feel. I'm angry. I'm sad. I'm disappointed.
You are the one I know I can turn to for comfort, Lord. Provide me with reassurance that this was the right thing for me in my life, as it is right now. Lord, show me that there are so many great things in my future, and offer me solace in the thought that You have plans for me and that one day I will find the person that fits with those plans. Assure me that You have my best intentions in mind, and while I don't know what all of those intentions are, this wasn't a part of them. That one day you'll reveal someone new that will make my heart sing. Allow me the time to get to that point of acceptance.
Lord, I just ask for Your continued love and guidance during this difficult time, and I pray for the patience of others as I work through my feelings. Every time I think of the happy times, it hurts. When I think of the sad times, well, that hurts, too. Help those around me understand that I need this time to heal and work through that pain. Help me understand that this, too, shall pass for me. That one day the pain will become less, and remind me that You'll be there right with me the whole time. Though I may have difficulty letting go, I pray that You surround me with people that help me through and lift me up in prayer, in love, and in support.
Thank You, Lord, for being more than just my God in this moment. Thank You for being my Father. My friend. My confidante, and my support. In your Name, Amen.
Break ups are the furthest thing from easy. Use this time to reevaluate who you are what you want to be as an individual. Assess things from a different lens, by identifying where you are in life and where you want to be. Most times, when you’re in a relationship, an individual makes decisions around their partner. While this understandable, it’s’ important to identify what you really need and want out of life – make sure you’re striving to achieve happiness for you and not someone else. As odd as it may sound, learn to embrace this difficult time and look for ways you can cultivate a stronger bond with your Lord and Savior through prayer. Accept that you will need to be patient and learn that time will heal all wounds.
Surround yourself with good people. Keep in mind that positivity is just as contagious as negativity; therefore, it’s crucial to be around individuals that will lift you up. You’ll discover that sometimes tough love is the best kind of love. Matthew 7:13 says, “Broad is the road that leads to destruction.” Think of the road of destruction as your broken heart. It’s important that you do not allow yourself to stay on this road for a long amount of time. If you make sure that you have a troop to cheer you on and rally behind you, then you’ll find it much easier to identify with hope. Above all, keep in mind that your heart is not going to heal in a day, a week, and maybe not even in a month. Furthermore, the pieces may not fit together like they once did. However, these pieces and newfound order will help you identify as a stronger and more established Christian. Your Lord and Savior will never give you more than you can handle – even though it may not seem like it at the time, there is a reason for every action in your life.