I heard in a church sermon once that there’s a difference between good anger and bad anger. Good anger is feeling angry about someone who is doing wrong towards you or someone else. Bad anger is just being angry for no reason at all. People can also have a crockpot anger. These are the people who have trouble dealing with their anger. Anger can come out of nowhere, over the littlest things, and at the worst moments. It is our job to learn how to control our anger whenever it happens to arise.
Anger can also be described as poison running through our bodies. It can consume us and rob us of all joy that used to be present in our lives. Ask God to help you control your anger so it doesn’t take away the peace, love and joy that are present in your life.
You can’t shove responsibility for your anger on someone else. You must be responsible for your own emotions and the consequences that they may bring. You also can’t be angry towards others and be right with God at the same time. It just can’t work. God forgives all our sins, so we can forgive others for their mistakes against us. Only then, can we find true peace within ourselves and with people we love, not to mention, be right with God at the same time.
Questions that you can always ask yourself when you feel something is bothering you include: Is my anger directed towards a person? Does it have justifiable cause? Does it seek good to hold tightly and do bad to another person? It is never a good thing to seek revenge out of anger towards anyone.
Anger can make people do some horrid things if they aren’t careful. Anger robs you of the joy of so many moments in life. If you waste time being angry over some things you will literally be wasting your life. God didn’t intend for our lives to be wasted by the pain, resentment and bitterness, not to mention animosity, that anger can bring.
You can’t live with anger and be a healthy person at the same time either. You can be subject to many health problems such as high blood pressure, heart attacks and strokes. You literally can’t function. It says anger abides in the bosom of a fool in the Bible. Ecclesiastes 7:9 “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
There is also the verse of being quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to be angry in James 1:19: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” This signifies to all of us that we should hold our tongue, especially if we feel anger rising within ourselves. For once those words come out of our mouths, there is no taking them back. Take the time to put into perspective the reactions that will or can happen if you speak out in anger against someone. Do you really want to lose a relationship, strain a relationship, or lose a friend over some not so carefully chosen words?
The only victory over anger is being able to identify the anger you have by asking yourself why you are angry and to think about why were so angry and figure out the best way to handle your anger.
You might find yourself angry with God because of your financial pain, physical pain or mental or emotional pain that you may be going through. But the important thing to remember is that God never actually willingly causes us the pain we experience these things to happen in order to see how you react. Your emotions determine whether you ask for His help or away from Him in bitterness. God will always help you understand your emotions and your situations better.
God has never said that it is wrong to feel anger in any aspect, but it is important that we learn how to react to it in healthy ways. These include things such as: taking deep breathes, going for a walk, listening to music, or going for a therapeutic drive, as well as talking to someone who will understand how you feel.
You must be able to confess your anger and figure out why you are still angry. What other emotions are you feeling? Are you hurt, rejected, fed up, angry at something or someone that happened to you with someone in the past? Do you fear getting involved with something? Do you fear change? Do you fear failure? Are you angry at yourself for the way you feel about any of your fears? Do you have needs that are unmet? Are you afraid of what may happen in their future? Has there been something going on in your life that you just can’t seem to shake off the feelings from? Ask God to help you through it and ask for His guidance as to how to approach each of and any of these situations. He has ways to provide for you that no one can even fathom.
Purposely deal with any anger that you may have. Deal with it quickly because the more you cling to the feeling of anger the more destructive it’ll become.
Take an emotional time out-stop. Go do something to get your mind off your anger. Get away from whatever is bothering you. God doesn’t want us living as angry people. Put your anger away. Ephesians 4:31: “Be angry and yet do not sin.”
Take the anger off your shoulders. God will enable you to take the anger away in different ways. Whether it is by forgiving yourself or someone else. God can take the anger away from you if you just ask Him to take it away. He can heal your heart of any form of anger.
You can even benefit from the anger by learning from it and preventing it from happening again. As long as you learn from the anger, you can change and grow from it.
Anger is a form of suicide. You can be slowly killing yourself, day by day by being angry. However, if you’re able to stop being angry, you can also be a light in someone else’s darkness. You can also be a witness to someone else about what you learned from getting over the anger. Let God handle it in His ways and you will see the rewards spiritually, emotionally and physically. Don’t let Satan have control of your emotions.
“Anger is never without reason, but seldom with a good one.”-Benjamin Franklin.