The Queen of My Self

By Shiloh Sophia
Every woman is the Queen of her own heart.
It isn’t something she does, it is who she is.
She must decide how
to govern her own domain.
She seeks friends and allies that honor
who she is and who she is becoming.
She has the power to create miracles.

She does not know how
or when her needs will be met,
but she trusts the will of the Divine.
Being the Queen of one’s domain
is not about being
the ruler over anyone else’s life or ideas.
And it isn’t even about
calling herself a Queen.
It is about self honor. It is about choice.
It is about knowing her limits
and setting her boundaries.
It is about learning how to live
with what comes her way,
with as much grace,
majesty and justice as she can.

And sometimes, yes,
she has to have her own way!
She knows she has a calling to greatness within her.
She leads her own life as grand experiment
in happiness, in creativity, and in abundance.
She offers her gifts to others,
but not to her own detriment.
She rests as she needs to,
ruling one’s own life takes energy.
She chooses to embody wholeness,
her sovereign essence,
even when she feels fragmented
by all there is to do, and be.

She holds the prayers of the world within her
because she cares what happens –
with all beings
even though she cannot reach them all.
She reaches whom she can.
She often feels like she is not pulling it all off,
and sometimes she isn’t.
But she keeps reaching anyway.
She keeps opening her heart
and being in her own power.
She governs her life in gratitude.
She is the Queen of Her Own Heart
and she knows that, and that
is a very good thing.

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

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