“The lover says, I cannot love anyone else, I cannot give up loving, I cannot give up this love, for it would be the death of me and I would die of love.”   Soren Kierkegaard in Works of Love Many people have a fear of abandonment, but love addicts are terrified of it. They also…

Most of the time, love addicts are very susceptible to dating anyone who they are attracted to and who shows some interest in them. Because they are love addicts and feel they need romantic love to be happy, they will settle for less than what they want. They will allow themselves to keep dating someone…

It is not uncommon to enter into a relationship with someone who seems like Mr. or Mrs. Right during the dating phase only to find out they have an addiction problem once you are married or living together as partners. Unfortunately, many addicts are experts at hiding their addictive behaviors. Addictions to pornography, sex, shopping, gambling, and work are much easier…

In many codependent relationships, addiction is part of the relationship. In Ramona M. Asher’s book “Women With Alcoholic Husbands: Ambivalence and the Trap of Codependency,” the issue of the interactive nature of the relationship, the effects of the addiction and the behavior of the codependent are explored. One of the factors this book, which is written from the interviews…

Many people know someone who is a narcissist. The American Psychological Association has listed narcissistic personality disorder or NPD in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders since 1968. While there are relatively few diagnoses made, leading researchers estimate around 1% of all adults show symptoms Narcissism is more than just run of the…

Most people have at least one person in their life who seems to be in the same horrible, dead-end relationship over and over again, but the partner seems to change. Upon a closer look, it is as if the individual is attracted to only one personality type and one that is very negative, destructive and uncaring. Each relationship…

It is very reasonable for anyone to want to have their ideas, choices, achievements, or even their opinions validated by those around them. After all, what is the first thing we do as children when we accomplish something? We look to our parents for recognition (validation) that we did a good thing. Validation is part…

As a psychotherapist and life coach specializing in addiction recovery, I am frequently asked by family members what they should or should not do. Often family members are worried that taking a particular action or even making a specific statement to the addict in recovery can create the risk of a relapse or may somehow…

Most people have had moments of being embarrassed and perhaps even humiliation in their lives. This is usually a result of doing something we see as foolish or wrong, or perhaps even unethical and unsavory. It is not about the act of doing something wrong; it is the way we perceive the action and how…

One of the benefits, and also the potential pitfalls, of the always connected, always in-touch lifestyle people lead today is the ability to connect with people very easily and literally 24/7/365. A new friend or a potential partner could be just one social media post away, or you may meet someone on a trip to the…

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If you think you might be codependent or a love addict, get Sherry’s FREE Ebook, “The Truth about Codependency” https://wakeuprecovery.com/codependency-quiz/ Sherry maintains a private practice in Westlake Village, and is a sought after transformationn and recovery coach. For more information visit www.sherrygaba.com or sign up today for Sherry’s online group coaching program for codependents for $19/month https://wakeuprecovery.com/become-a-member-co/

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