We are intended to be in relationship with the ongoing movement of life. But when you look at life as though nothing will change, it won’t. The more you push away what you don’t want, the more you keep it in place. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn8iQ8D8H_o&t=14s
Look closely at any moment of your mental or emotional suffering and you will see that the lesson in it is invariably connected to a certain willfulness of yours expressed as insistence or resistance.