A marriage counselor once said that “often what ends a marriage is that one person emotionally outgrows the other.”

As we get older some of us grow with our life experiences and some do not. Adding to that – often the spouse that emotionally outgrew the other contributed to the other not growing up.

If you do too much of parental responsibilities in a relationship then there isn’t much hope of the other person accepting responsibility for them.

Why should they?

They left home with someone solving all of their problems and then married someone who will solve all of their problems.

I wish I had known this when I was younger.

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