Have you ever heard someone say, “You’re just like your mother” or “You did better than so-and-so”? Whether we admit it or not, comparisons surround us—and we join in all the time. We compare how we look, how we perform at work, how we parent, even how we worship. The pull is strong. But here’s…

A friend recently asked me how to bring up the subject of mental health with someone she cares about. She noticed her friend wasn’t eating well, seemed withdrawn, and had lost interest in activities he used to enjoy. She wondered if he might be clinically depressed but didn’t know how to start the conversation. Mental…

  “We need to talk.” It sounds simple—maybe even obvious—but too many people avoid these four words. When something feels off in your relationship, the most important person to talk to is your partner—not your friends, not your family, and not social media. Talk to the person involved in the conflict If something bothers you,…

My first college roommate was difficult—and not exactly welcoming. Her very first words to me weren’t “Hi” or “Nice to meet you,” but rather: “This is my boyfriend, ______, and stay away from him.” I remember being stunned. First, I didn’t know her boyfriend. Second, why would I even think to “take him away”? And…

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