For many of us in the U.S., this marks more than six months that we have been in quarantine. I refer to it as ‘self solituding’ and the experience has been both terrifying and comforting. In mid-March, as the buds were beautifully blossoming, I was turning inward, attempting to wrap my mind around the possibility […]
This morning, while in session with a therapy client, I was speaking about the importance of mindfulness in maintaining structure and functionality in our lives. There are some days during which a running dialogue is taking place in my head, between …..well … me and me. I will say, “Okay, time to get up, take a shower, gather your stuff together …” and so my day goes. Since I wear many hats and go various places once I leave the house, I pack up whatever is needed. If I am seeing clients, I consider the issues they may bring to the session. If I am pondering an article, I will often write it out in my mind, even before I put fingers to keyboard. That way, when the time comes to do the actual work, I have already started the process and it makes it that much easier to complete. The other benefit of that process is that I can channel my energy in a constructive manner, without being haphazard and scattered.
I told her that it reminded me of the on-ramp to a highway. Only one car at a time can safely enter. If two or more attempt to merge into a line simultaneously, then a collision is likely to occur. Our minds are very much like that traffic-jammin’ trail. So many cluttered thoughts wanting to get on the road and arrive at a destination. How can we simplify and stay safe and sane?
Be aware that random thoughts show up at the speed of light and sound. We experience something like 50,000 thoughts a day. Many of them are unconscious, negative and perseverative.
Just like when you are driving, look both ways, into your side view and rear view mirrors to see what is around you, in front of and behind you. Your past and present may also be merging, so be sure to yield right of way to the current reality. If you are continually gazing behind you, you won’t be as likely to choose to live in this moment.
Notice internal ‘traffic signals’ that tell you to slow down, ground to a halt, or move ahead.
Trust your intuition. It will not steer you wrong.