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Here you have them: three of my much-loved, and absolutely perfect nieces & nephews. These are my heart-sister’s daughter & son, and my niece’s husband. With them? Their beaming aunt, who is even prouder of the adults they’ve become than she was of their childhood projects & accomplishments.

My niece, her beloved, and my nephew drove in just to see us! How cool is that? They were all together working on their grandmother’s house; they oversee her affairs. Just one of the many ways they are wonderful. Not because they have to, but because they adore their grandmother, and are just the nicest folks.

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Digression (you’ve grown to expect them, I hope? 🙂 ): I always wanted children. I would have had four or five if I’d had money & time. In that order. I certainly would have had three if we hadn’t lost one in a miscarriage. From the time I was very small (maybe eight?), I told my mother: I will have children. But nowhere in my future life had I imagined how much I would love these children of other mothers. No one could have told me how precious my nieces & nephews would become.

For those of you less fortunate than I am — not to have nieces & nephews? how lonely! — I am so sorry. Adopt! Become a surrogate aunt! I have those — I call them my ‘fairy godmothers.’ They are the women who inspire me: the grandmother of these three (my heart-sister’s mother, who is a total pistol of a nonagenarian!), my first poetry teacher, a woman who serves on a journal’s editorial board with me, the mother of another dear friend. They are like aunts, in their own way.

Not to mention I have my own wonderful aunts — two of them still alive, for which I’m infinitely grateful. As the daughter of seven aunts (and so many great-aunts I can’t count them all), I’ve been in aunt-training for decades! It takes exceptional luck to be a good aunt — what limited skills I have in that area are both inherited & the good fortune of such great rôle models. It’s mostly about unalloyed joy in the presence of the kids (they’re always the kids — even as they hit their later years), and unqualified love and admiration. My nieces & nephews know that I’m their biggest fan — none of that I have to model good parenting for you stuff…

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They also know that I am always head-over-heels happy to see them, and will spend as much time as they can spare talking about new jobs, partners, heartbreak, classes, papers, or what jewelry to wear to a job interview. As well as politics,  the economics of sustainable farming, film preservation, non-profits, raising kids, buying dogs, and anything else they come up with.

Seriously? There are few folks I’d rather spend time with than these incredibly witty, talented, nuanced and amazing men & women. So again: if you don’t have siblings to provide you with this joy, hustle! Surely some younger person around you could use a besotted aunt. Because believe me: the benefits are uncountable. Your beginner’s heart will grow at least two sizes from loving and learning.

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