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So after two afternoons of rental cars, two days of airplanes, and a packed day of looking at a house, we’re home. And boy — home seldom looked so ambivalent…

Glad to be here? Absolutely — the sheets are clean, animals are ecstatic we’re back, and I can cook! I immediately went out for the ‘necessities’ we need to replenish. You know: bread (oops!), milk (got that), coffee beans, and strawberries for strawberry shortcake tomorrow. When in turmoil? Cook. Because afterwards you get to eat it!

I have a love-hate relationship w/ my home state. It is — as the meme shows — redder than red. And I’m about as blue dog as you get. Equity and social justice are as important to me as anything I can come up with. Whereas in this state? Oklahoma is far more about ‘free’ enterprise than equity.

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via 6/22/2014

Have you seen this cartoon explaining equity vs. equality? Sure — you can give each girl one stool of the same size; that’s equality. But the girls are of different heights: for them all to be able to see over the fence, they need their individual heights (needs) addressed. THAT is equity — levelling the playing field.

That isn’t a priority in Oklahoma, I’m sorry to say. I’m even sorrier to note that it’s  not much of a priority anywhere else, either. It’s grown out of fashion, I guess. We want kids to test the same, despite poverty, violence, learning disabilities, malnutrition & illness. We want different cultures to be ‘melted’ into one pot (a metaphor I can’t stand). Me? I want a quilt top, w/colourful pieces of different sizes, fabrics, textures, weaves. I want it backed w/ something beautiful — here the metaphor can be stretched to make this American history, told truthfully. It shouldn’t (I can’t stress this enough) be religion. Or even language, initially.

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the author’s

This is an unpopular metaphorical platform almost everywhere these days. But I still believe in its appropriateness for America, and every one of our United States. And maybe in a new place, I can remember how many people do believe this. My hope is that a move will, as reflection is wont to do, remind me how much I love about my home state, as well. How beautiful it is the spiral dance of scissortails, the clouds of April dogwood. How kind & generous the people here can be. And that somehow, we’ll realise the possibilities that great Oklahomans like Will Rogers & Woody Guthrie saw in us.

In the meantime? I’m just home from the Blue Ridge Mountains, and I have to tell you: they’re awesome! And full of such unknown promise! 😉


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