When life appears to be going wrong or we are left feeling confused or lost with the direction of our where our path is headed we are often convinced that there must be something wrong with us and therefore, there is something about us that we need to fix. And so the search begins. We venture into the world of personal development and self help looking for where we are broken and how we can fix it. Perceiving ourselves as if we are flawed in some way because we can’t seem to get “it” right can lead us down a very long road that brings us in circles never to reach a destination that feels authentically fulfilling and true to our soul. Believing that there is something to fix within us or some destination that we need to reach outside of us only continues to take us further away from the truth of who we are and keeps us falling into the trap of self judgment and shame. This occurs because under the all the attempts of striving to fix or reach an outcome is the belief that states, “I am not enough just as I am”  This belief carries deep shame based energy and living in this vibration keeps us believing that in order to feel better we must fix some internal or external problem that continues to show up for us. What’s really happening is these so called problems are simply a reflection of the lack of self love and acceptance that we are not offering to the whole of our being. We may tell ourselves a good story that says, “If only I reached a certain outcome I would be accepted and more importantly feel accepted.”  It doesn’t work this way. Ever.  You can even reach the end of your life with everything checked off your list, but if this list was being checked off with the intention to prove your worth, you are setting yourself up for tremendous disappointment.

What if this were true instead?

What if we are all perfect just as we are? Flaws and all. What if every single thing that life handed to us was exactly what was needed so that we could experience profound expansion and growth? What if every human being that was placed on our path was there for a purpose and all the experiences we encountered with them were the perfect opportunities to bring us towards our calling, our purpose and ultimately our destiny? What if we were all here to serve each others growth even in what looks like the most horrific circumstances. What if every experience wasn’t looked at as “Why did this happen to me? but rather “thank you for this experience and what can I learn from it?” What if every  pain, disappointment and perceived failure was an opportunity to dive deeply into the depths of your being so that you could stop listening to your mind and begin to hear the wisdom of our soul? What if it is all meant to unfold just as it is so that you could reconnect and more importantly remember who you are and why you are here? What if what appears to be going wrong is the very thing we need to open us up to the truth of who we are? What if it’s all the so called mistakes, challenges and obstacles that actually lead us down the path that our logical mind could have never imagined. What if the universe has everything taken care of and knows exactly what it is putting in our path so that we could fall down, fall apart and then return with more gifts than we could have ever thought were possible? What if life is just trying to get our attention so that we could dig up our most powerful qualities that we once thought were better to bury within us?  What if it’s all happening to show us that we indeed have a choice in every moment to see that life is happening for us and not to us?  What if we simply forgot our brilliance and our perfection and life is giving us the opportunity to remember again through our challenges? 

Let’s look at this for a moment. When life appears to be going smooth, we are not forced to go within. Instead we succumb to extremely superficial lives. We play by the rules and travel through life with an extremely limited mindset. We follow the herd. We refrain from taking leaps and risks that will nurture our soul. We settle for what life hands us because we don’t have a reason to grow or change. We remain in a box that feels extremely confined and suffocating. We believe we are the victim of our fated experiences and therefore close ourselves off to the destiny that is meant for us.  We believe that the only thing possible for us is what we were taught to believe.

Our challenges are here to honor. It’s time that we know that every part of us has purpose and meaning. There is nothing to fix. There is nothing to prove. When we honor all aspects of ourselves, we begin to see that everything has meaning and purpose. There is nothing that we need to hide, deny or shame. There is only that which we need to embrace and bring light to so that we may grow into our fullest potential and open up to the amazing possibilities that our destiny is calling forth in us. 

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