Yeah, I have some bad news for you man….

Question submitted via Formspring:
“She was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her.  She said she doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I’m a like a brother and friend and nothing more. Her relatives are about to beat me up. But i want to continue badly.”

Does that question seem a bit odd to you?  It seemed odd to me too…but that’s all there is.  I am accustomed to people sending me questions in pieces on Formspring, but this time it looks like he only sent in the second half.

Luckily enough, there is enough to answer the question, and that answer is: She’s not interested. Move on.

Let’s break this question down into pieces.
First, you were going to propose to her, but apparently upset her. AKA she’s not interested.
She said she doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. AKA she’s not interested.
But, she somehow still thinks you are like a brother. AKA she’s not interested.
Her relatives are about to beat you up.  AKA she’s not interested.
And yet, you still want to continue chasing her!

Read that and let it sink in.  Not only is she not interested, she was angered by the fact that you are interested in her.  So, the real question is not how you can win this girl, because you can’t.  The real question is not even how is it you fell in love with a girl who’d given you no signs that she had feelings for you.

The REAL question is why is it that you want to chase a girl who tells you she has no feelings for you, doesn’t want to talk to you, and even has her family threaten you?  Why is it that you think you deserve to be treated this way, or more importantly, that you can’t find someone who’ll love you as much as you love them?

Save yourself some trouble, and move on.  It will hurt, but it’s just going to hurt worse if you keep chasing this girl.  Instead, focus on loving yourself first so that you can realize you deserve better than to waste time loving someone who doesn’t love you back.  And, taking some time to find out how women really think would be good, too.  Since, you might want to ask a girl out on a date at least once before you propose!

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B. Dave Walters Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

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