In the short video below, you’ll hear a wonderful story about a man named Steve, and the massive amount of rejection he endured on his way to changing the world
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It’s true that no one *enjoys* being shot down, but some of us are far more resilient than others.
Avoiding rejection, (and its twin – seeking approval) are two of the biggest obstacles to having peace and happiness in your life; probably the two biggest obstacles.

So, the question is: how do YOU deal with rejection?
When you are confronted with people who don’t approve of you, or something you do, how do you react?
Do you become avoidant, or maybe confrontational? Do you find yourself avoiding stepping out of your comfort zone because you’re afraid of what other people might think?

How many songs have gone unsung, books gone unwritten, and goals gone unachieved, because people were afraid that they might fail -or worse, succeed- and what other people might say when they do?

But guess what? I have some good news for you: it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
You are responsible for one person’s happiness, and one person’s only: the (wo)man in the mirror.
Note, this doesn’t mean be selfish or insensitive to the needs of others; quite the opposite. We are talking about a type of ‘Divine Selfishness’, because the more you give to yourself, the more you have to give to others.

Consider, how many times in your life have you gotten stressed out because you felt pulled in different directions? You probably felt like you HAD to do something whether you wanted to or not, in order to keep everyone else happy, right? Now think of a time that you worked towards something, maybe worked *hard*, but actually felt better afterwards than when you started. Maybe you prepared a big holiday meal for your family, or did a long day of work on your home.
What was the difference?

In one case, you did what you felt like you had to do…you reacted to the situation. In the other, you did what you chose to do, and responded to the situation.

So how does this tie back into dealing with rejection? Simple: people’s words (and actions) have what power over you that you give them. Once you are clear on who and what you are, then you can act from that place and choose how you want things to be.

And once you choose for yourself how things are, then you’ll find that other people’s rejection has no impact on you at all…just like Steve Jobs.
Does that make sense?

P.S.: farewell Steve, it was ‘insanely great’ having you for as long as we did. Peace be with you and God bless you and your family.

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B. Dave Walters
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