You know you've reached middle age when a doctor, not a policeman, tells you to slow down, all you exercise are your prerogatives, and it takes you longer to rest than to get tired.
-Friends of the Royal Perth Hospital News Sheet

From "Nothing Left Unsaid," by Carol Orsborn:

Some things you really want to get right. When my father was being taken away for a serious operation, I didn't think it was asking too much of life to be able to say or hear two or three meaningful words, like "I love you," "Forgive me," or "Good-bye" one more time.

Say these words a thousand times, and you can still come up just two or three syllables shy. We worry about the possibility that we may not say or hear everything we long for. Or that we may realize what we want to share, ask, or hear-but it will be too late.

I remember some time ago when I was studying for my brown belt in karate. My wise sensei saw how hard I was working, and how fearful I was of the test to come. He took me aside. "Understand something," he said to me. "You won't pass because of something you do special or different on the one day of the exam. You will pass because of all the years of practice you have already invested. Your everyday self is all that is necessary."

The same is true of important moments in our relationships.

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