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What Not to Wear After Age 50: The Final Say

posted by Donna Henes

By Michelle Combs Google ‘what not to wear after age 50′ and you will have your pick of thousands of articles telling you what looks terrible on your old ass body. I want to point out to the writer who […]

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No Country for Old Women

posted by Donna Henes

by Mary Saracino Howling from the mountaintops wailing from the riverbanks scooping the moon into their waning wombs the old women know that lies kill, distortions maim, hope isn’t enough to feed starving babies, school the ignorant, put and end […]

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Becoming the Queen of Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for […]

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Lost Drive?

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Cougar Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes first. […]

Cougar Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article in […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 2

posted by Donna Henes

The notion that 50 years of age could be considered a “halfway” mark is unprecedented in history. We are blessed with an inestimable gift of many more years of life than anyone who ever lived on Earth before us could […]

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters – PART 1

posted by Donna Henes

Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it ain’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life — menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts — create an […]

What Does Being a Queen Mean to You?

posted by Donna Henes

Some time ago, I asked the Queens on my Facebook page what being a Queen meant to them.  Q. What does being a Queen mean to you? A. As a little girl I wondered what it would be like to be […]

My Mother the Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Unlike my grandmother who personified the archetypal transition from Motherhood to Cronedom at menopause, her daughter, my mother, was a Queen long before her time. Her story is quite a common one now, shared by many millions of women, but […]

Embracing Age

posted by Donna Henes

As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand to […]

Who Am I Now?

posted by Donna Henes

  Who Am I Now? Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated […]

Let Your Power Out!

posted by Donna Henes

    Many of you have, I am sure, come across this fabulous writing many times. It speaks to the heart of the matter of women’s dysfunctional relationship to our own power. In my spiritual counseling as a Midlife Midwife™ […]

Sovereignty is Hard!

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

Answer Only to Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

I Don’t Really Care What You Think Today, we see many women in public life, ranging the gamut from Hillary Clinton to Sharon Osborne, who have stepped out of the shadows of their husbands and families to pursue their own […]

Auntie Gravity – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

 Auntie Gravity – Part 2 An Antic Cronish Goddess by Barbara Ardinger, Ph.D. “An’ you jus’ start thinkin’ of them lines,” She says, “as your Auntie Gravity’s rainbows, an’ remember all the colors of what you done in your life. […]

A Senior (I Should Be So Brilliant) Moment

posted by Donna Henes

A Senior (I Should Be So Brilliant) Moment This is the Letter of the Year from The Times of London: An elderly lady actually wrote this letter to her bank. The bank manager thought it amusing enough and sent if […]

Auntie Gravity – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Auntie Gravity – Part 1 An Antic Cronish Goddess by Barbara Ardinger, Ph.D.  Here is a goddess for mid-life. Sisters, do certain parts of your anatomy that used to stand right up and salute, now ignore the flag no […]

‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’

posted by Donna Henes

 ‘Midlife Crisis’ Can Become ‘Midlife Opportunity’ By Maggie Lamond Simone      “What do you want to do with your life?” It’s a question I ask my college students this time of year to help them define their goals, and I’m […]

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 2 by Aleta Pippin Myth #3 You Will Become Crabby and Self-absorbed Some people are just plain rude and as they get older, they use their age as an excuse to […]

7 Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

7  Myths About Aging You Need to Forget – Part 1 by Aleta Pippin When I was 18, I thought I’d know everything. In my 20’s I thought I had to wear my hair above my jaw line to look […]

What Are Your Thoughts About Aging?

posted by Donna Henes

The process of maturing is an art to be learned, an effort to be sustained. By the age of fifty you have made yourself what you are, and if it is good, it is better than your youth. ~Marya Mannes […]

Lost & Found in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

Despite the rude awakenings, the unsettling physical and emotional chaos of midlife and all of its frightful, presumed ramifications, an amazing number of women find this stage to be the most personally fulfilling and satisfying of their lives so far. […]

Peace Pilgrim – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

Her long walk led to a period of concentrated inner questioning about what she, one person, could do in the cause of peace. This midlife meditation culminated in her experiencing a powerful spiritual vision, an undeniable epiphany. She came to […]

Midlife AAADD

posted by Donna Henes

  Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D. or Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.   Thank goodness there’s a name for this disorder. Somehow I feel better even though I have it!   This is how it manifests:   I decide […]

Some Declarations of Queendom

posted by Donna Henes

  I have taken this ongoing discussion about the definitions and descriptions of Queendom to The Queen of My Self Page on Facebook.   Q. What does being a Queen mean to you ? A. As a little girl I […]

The Steep Path to Sovereignty

posted by Donna Henes

Coming from the tough love school of spiritual counseling as I do, I feel that it is only fair to warn you — There are no 10 Easy Steps to Sovereignty. The roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. […]

The Midlife Queen

posted by Donna Henes

Who are we supposed to be at this stage of our life when we are less likely to be bound and identified by our kinship connection to someone else — as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover? What […]

Redefining Midlife Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 2 The good news is that we can take this opportunity to look at life in a new and fresh way. This is a […]

Redefining Midlife Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  This article is by my friend and colleague, Barbara Bizou.     Redefining Midlife Part 1 “Since you don’t know when the end is going to be how can you figure out what mid-life is.” – Julia Riva We, […]

Accept Inevitable Aging

posted by Donna Henes

  As we age, we naturally change. Change, after all, is the essential stuff of life. If we embrace it with magnanimous grace and good humor, as part and parcel of the ongoing mythic adventure of our path, we stand […]

Celebrate the Autumn Queen

posted by Donna Henes

The Autumn Queen, who is past Her reproductive years, has never been differentiated in legend from the old Winter Crone, although they are clearly not the same. The Queen, though not yet old, is quite aware that the passing of […]

Autumn Equinox Ushers in the Season Of Ripe Maturity

posted by Donna Henes

The autumn ushers in the dark season. The season of diminished light. From now until the Vernal Equinox, six months hence, the nights are longer than the days. Shade and chill prevail. The year, the season, the sun, are slowing […]

I Am Not a Crone — Yet

posted by Donna Henes

Although I have been passionately devoted to the Many Splendored Goddess in Her complex multiplicity for more than thirty years now, I am not a believer in the Triple Goddess paradigm. It has never resonated with me because it belies […]

Red-Robed Priestess

posted by Donna Henes

Another book that I cannot praise enough is Red-Robed Priestess  by Elizabeth Cunningham, author of the preceding three books in the acclaimed Maeve Chronicles. After a life of passion and adventure that has brought her through slavery to the Resurrection […]

An Angel Passes

posted by Donna Henes

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed […]

Have A Love Affair With Your Self

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Self Love Quotes

posted by Donna Henes

January is Self-love month. And if it weren’t, I, Queen Mama Donna, would declare it so! So for the rest of the month I will focus on the ways that we can show love and support to ourselves. There is […]

Meditation for the Fully Realized Woman

posted by Donna Henes

  Blessings, one and all, for a New Year filled with promise. May you continue along your path to Self-sovereignty with purpose, passion, and power. With Queenly aplomb.   May you live as a Fully Realized Woman. With blessings of […]

Into the Darkness

posted by Donna Henes

Into the Darkness By Max Dashu, CA I love December. It’s a powerful time to absorb knowledge, write, create art, chant, dance. To conjoin and celebrate, feast and rejoice in community or – my great pleasure at this season – […]

Black and Blues

posted by Donna Henes

  Surely the essential quality of winter is its absence of light. And that, so much more than the attendant cold weather, is what so many people dread about it. The long, dark, isolating chill of winter understandably renders many […]

Well Being in Midlife

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Unfinished

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Poetry Granny

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Emerging Maturity – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do […]

Symptoms of Mid Life Crisis

posted by Donna Henes

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media — that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don’t need? (Not only do we […]

Boomer Women Trends

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is […]

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by article, poems and stories about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it […]

Midlife Women Are More Hopeful than Midlife Men – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called “Midlife Crisis.” Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women. Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real […]

What Could Be More Sexy?

posted by Donna Henes

    It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever […]

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Anoint Your Self for Pleasure

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Queen of Camp – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Sexy Brain

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

A Lot of Hot Women

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Peaches – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Peaches – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Loving Our Bodies

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content — or steam, whichever comes […]

Desert Cougar Queen – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article […]

Desert Cougar Queen – Part 1

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content! I came across this article […]

Calendar Girls

posted by Donna Henes

  It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content!   In 1998 Angela Baker […]

How I Transformed My Life After 50 – Part 2

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

What Are Your Experiences of Beauty and Age?

posted by Donna Henes

  June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season […]

For the Love of Our Self

posted by Donna Henes

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy. But while June is the jolly season for […]

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