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Celtic Twilight

posted by Donna Henes

This comes from a sister Queen, Jo Coffey. It is in response to an article that I wrote for this column.

It was really a lift to read your piece about the Dark Time. I have been feeling out of sorts, but it helps just to realize that other people are in the same situation, and that there are ways to work with this time.

I’m passing on these thoughts from the Irish sense of the year as a way of perhaps participating in your work at a distance.

The New Year begins at Samhain (around November 1) with death. Death is probably the most powerful portal to the Otherworld, not just for the one who dies, but for those who have some connection with the dying one.

Samhain is the death of the year, so this is the time of year that the veil between the two worlds is at its thinnest. That’s where our Halloween festivities come from, of course. Death is also a time of dissolution, a time of breaking of form, in that sense, a time of destruction.

The very next significant moment in the year is the Winter Solstice, when the elements that have been liberated by death are brought back into the cycle of life through the marriage – the cosmic sexual union – of light and darkness. The 5,000-year old temple at Newgrange celebrates just this marriage, when the light from the sun enters the womb of the earth at sunrise, the junction point of night and day.

Around the solstice and just after, the period we are now in, all things – the creatures of the earth and even the sun – are quietly and mostly out of sight growing, gathering energy and strength, getting ready to be born.

Light and dark, day and night, are the two primary energies as the Irish

understand space/time. Male and female present themselves in the first instance in these forms. I found an interesting confirmation of this recently in a piece entitled “The Golden Age” that Yeats published in his Celtic Twilight:

“A while ago I was in the train, and getting near Sligo. The last time I had been there something was troubling me, and I longed for a message from those beings or bodiless moods, or whatever they be, who inhabit the world of spirits. The message came, for one night I saw with blinding distinctiveness a black animal, half weasel, half dog, moving along the top of a stone wall, and presently the black animal vanished, and from the other side came a white weasel-like dog, his pink flesh shining through his white hair and all in a blaze of light; and I remembered the peasant belief about two fairy dogs who go about representing day and night, good and evil.”

Yeats makes the patriarchal identification of dark with evil. It’s so important to work to correct that, just as you are doing.

– Jo Coffey, CA /Ireland

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

This Night We Light

posted by Donna Henes

by Judyth Hill

the first of 8:
A Miracle…Let there…beeeeeeeeeee……Love!
And there is!

Fire is our human gift:
the Holy makes Light, and a World …and our job:
Making Love shine back!

First candle says, We Love.
Second, side by side: Be Loved
3 says, Always room for more!
4 says, Set the table, open the door,
And 5: This is how to be alive! 

6 candles we burn,
And learn to press on.
A Miracle has this at core:
The choice to Believe,
Though the heart be sore.

From darkness we see the truth of 7:
Remember Rest is always blessed.

8 flames…..but was there only
Oil for one? This story says, Light
what you can, the Holy
will do the rest. 

Each night stood another -
Did we not see that One
we set, eager to get done?
This one says,
Stand in the center of the Fires and Serve. 

Should you swerve in fear,
Find your nerve, your luminous Verve,
And Shine right there! 

The Miraculous happens each time,
We know that eight is maybe
Nine –and when we serve…
We are Divine! 

First night we light
Not one but 2,
The Miracle says,
I  Stand with You……

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

AAADD: Know The Symptoms

posted by Donna Henes

Recently, I was diagnosed with A.A.A.D.D. or
Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.

Thank goodness there’s a name for this disorder.
Somehow I feel better even though I have it!

This is how it manifests:

I decide to water my garden.
As I turn on the hose in the driveway,
I look over at my car and decide it needs washing. 

As I start toward the garage,
I notice mail on the porch table that
I brought up from the mailbox earlier.

I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.

I lay my car keys on the table,
Put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,
And notice that the can is full. 

So, I decide to put the bills back
On the table and take out the garbage first. 

But then I think,
Since I’m going to be near the mailbox
When I take out the garbage anyway,
I may as well pay the bills first. 

I take my check book off the table,
And see that there is only one check left. 

My extra checks are in my desk in the study,
So I go inside the house to my desk where
I find the can of Pepsi I’d been drinking

I’m going to look for my checks,
But first I need to push the Pepsi aside
So that I don’t accidentally knock it over. 

The Pepsi is getting warm,
And I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold. 

As I head toward the kitchen with the Pepsi,
A vase of flowers on the counter
Catches my eye — they need water. 

I put the Pepsi on the counter and
Discover my reading glasses that
I’ve been searching for all morning. 

I decide I better put them back on my desk,
But first I’m going to water the flowers. 

I set the glasses back down on the counter,
Fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote.
Someone left it on the kitchen table.

I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV,
I’ll be looking for the remote,
But I won’t remember that it’s on the kitchen table,
So I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs,
But first I’ll water the flowers. 

I pour some water in the flowers,
But quite a bit of it spills on the floor. 

So, I set the remote back on the table,
Get some towels and wipe up the spill. 

Then, I head down the hall trying to
Remember what I was planning to do. 

At the end of the day:
The car isn’t washed
The bills aren’t paid
There is a warm can of Pepsi sitting on the counter
The flowers don’t have enough water,
There is still only 1 check in my check book,
I can’t find the remote,
I can’t find my glasses,
And I don’t remember what I did with the car keys.
Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today,
I’m really baffled because I know I was busy all damn day,
And I’m really tired. 

I realize this is a serious problem,
And I’ll try to get some help for it,
But first I’ll check my e-mail… 

Do me a favor.
Forward this message to everyone you know,
Because I don’t remember who the hell I’ve sent it to.  

- Sent in by the Queens in the New Bern, NC Queen Group

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com. 

Queens Everywhere

posted by Donna Henes

The Queen

Not only in England—
Let us have queens everywhere! 

Queen of Africa
Queen of Afghanistan
Queen of America
Queen of Arabia
Queen of the Argentine
Queen of China
Queen of Columbia
Queen of Egypt
Queen of Germany
Queen of Guatemala
Queen of Iraq
Queen of Israel
Queen of Italy
Queen of Japan
Queen of Mongolia
Queen of Palestine
Queen of Russia
Queen of Spain
Queen of Syria

Queen of the World
Queen of the Universe
Queen of each and every Self— 

To You I bow down.

– Janine Canan
www.janinecanan.com

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife. She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE™

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.

 

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