Safe Place with Ruth Graham

Safe Place with Ruth Graham


How Do You Forgive Yourself?

posted by Ruth Graham

When we make a mistake it is easy to forgive ourselves – of course, depending on the mistake. I am thinking of a minor infraction – getting a speeding ticket. But if we repeat that mistake it becomes a little harder to forgive ourselves. And more than twice it becomes a real  struggle to forgive yourself.

If we continue to drive down the same stretch of road and continue to get speeding tickets you have to ask yourself ,”why”? Why do you keep making the same mistake over and over?

Of course when we fail in a big way, going against what we know to be right and against our value system, it only takes one time. We feel shame. Regret. Fear. For instance, if you are unfaithful to your spouse – it’s against your value system. You knew better but did it anyway. There is shame, regret. You are shocked at yourself. How do you forgive yourself?

I want to hear from you all – how do you forgive yourself?



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Joe Stout

    Hello Ruth!

    Do you live in Asheville? I recently purchased some property in Asheville and am in the process of building a private spiritual retreat for those seeking The Lord, or those even unaware that The Lord is calling them. (I have many friends who really have no clue.)

    Some good things are happening, once I found my way in following the guidance of God. Doors are opening to make my vision a reality.

    Anyway, if you are local, I would love to meet for coffee and to introduce myself and share life’s struggles.

    Regards,

    Joe

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mieke

    I don’t know the answer to ‘how do I forgive myself’, other than knowing that God loves me and wants the best for me. Yesterday is gone and sometimes the scar tissue leaves you stronger or less sensitive to the pain of your sins.

    I’ve known him to change my heart, my mind, my physical desires… it didn’t take will “power” on my part…it was all God. When I look at my sins and failures that interfere with real peace and security in worldly things… I long for, pray for and want changed in me…. I don’t know where to go or how to overcome or how to ‘change’ myself.

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