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Tips For Teaching Kids A Positive Money Attitude

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Children spend most of their young lives watching their parents spend money. Every household may value their money in different ways, but it is very important for children to learn how money fits into their lifestyle. Perhaps a child is observing their family spend large quantities of dollars or is living in a family where money is tight. The attitudes their parents have toward money and their financial situation will affect what their children believe about money in their own lives later on.

There is no right or wrong way to teach your child about money, only that you impart an appreciation for having whatever they may have, and some direction on how to use it and save it. I found that the same lessons had a different affect on each of my children. Their own personalities dictated whether they would have a tendency to spend much of their money or hold on to it, but I hoped my guidance had a positive effect.

Examining your own beliefs is a good place to start when teaching your kids about money.

What was your financial situation growing up and is what you experienced what you would like to impart to your kids?

Do you value what money allows you to have? Do you see money as the “root of all evil” or as a valuable tool?

Are you listening to what you are saying to yourself and others about money?

Once you examine your beliefs, you can start to make a deliberate choice about how you would like your children to view money.

 

Tips for helping your children have a positive attitude toward money.

~ Give them an allowance that is theirs to spend however they choose to.

~ Encourage but don’t force them to save a portion of their allowance for something they want later on.

~ Allow them to experience spending all of their own money without hurrying to replace it. This teaches budgeting.

~ Show your children that you have an appreciation for whatever financial situation you are in.

~ If you experience lack in your financial abundance, don’t complain about it to your kids.

~ When talking to your children about money or referring to money in their presence, keep the dialogue positive.

~ Listen to what your children are saying in regards to money, these are important clues.

~ Encourage a continuing dialogue with your kids about money. Have it be a safe subject for them to broach.

So often our children adopt our attitudes and perspectives, whether we want them to or not. Being deliberate and conscientious about what you say about money and what they see you live, may determine how they view their own abundance later on. Keep the conversations positive and uplifting so they create their own lives with a positive perspective about money.

Your comments are welcome.

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Letting Kids Create Their Own Dynasty

posted by srballantine

Little girl looking into a telescope in the mountainsIt is essential that as a parent, you remember that your children are not miniature versions of you — even though it may seem like it sometimes. While they mirror many of your traits, your children are still their own unique beings with unique perspectives, ideas, and desires.

It can be easier when your kids appear to want to do the things that you enjoy. It might even feel flattering that they want to be like you. Certainly some children will absolutely want to be like their mother or father. For some, it may only last while they’re very young. Other kids will continue to follow in your footsteps throughout school and some may even choose the same career path.

While this is great if it’s within your son or daughter’s natural inclination, you may need to make an effort to encourage them to take their own paths rather than encourage them to follow in your footsteps if they are resisting it. If it is truly in their hearts to be doctors, lawyers, or circus performers like their Mom or Dad, they will make this conscious decision on their own.

The biggest benefit for kids and parents alike is that is if they do take after their parents, they have done so on their own terms. Some great family business partnerships are achieved between the parent and adult children this way.

If you assume or insist your children will want to take over the family business, then you may not be allowing them to follow what fuels their spirits. Of course, it may be disappointing to you if your child wants no part in the family dynasty.

However, when you focus on letting your kids listen to their Internal Guidance System to select their career paths, school choices, or even their clothing, you’re creating a more important dynasty. You’re creating a family filled with happy, successful individuals leading lives that speak to them.

At times, your kids may try to test your resolve to let them determine what classes they should take or what career path they should follow. There may be moments when it seems they want you to make the decisions for them. They may even actually ask you to choose for them.

In the moment, it may seem easier to both of you to just take over, but your job as parents is to give your kids wings and the tools to learn how to fly on their own.
This includes sometimes making difficult choices, so in the event that your kids try to push your button by making a choice they believe you won’t approve of or want you to manage their life choices, don’t give in. Take the opportunity to coach your kids to check in with their IGS to get the answer.

How often have you at some point in your life, wondered about what you’re meant to be doing? After all, this is one of life’s most fundamental questions:
“What is my purpose?”

By encouraging your kids to try different things, to follow their hearts rather than expectations, you’re less apt to hear this question come from their lips. That’s a dynasty anyone can live with.

Your comments are welcome.

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

Tips~ Hit The Parental Brick Wall?

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Every parent wants the best for their child. You want them to be safe, happy, succeed in their endeavors, do well in school and be able to create the life they want. Many parents however, have a preconceived idea of how their child should achieve their happy idyllic life or even how to clean their room. Your child has different ideas and you eventually hit the parental brick wall. The tall impenetrable wall where communication ceases, and no one is having any fun.

This wall is created over time when you try to control how your kids behave, what they do and the outcomes to their actions. Any good intentions you have, however, are negated when your child disagrees and resists. The desire to control stacks each brick into place and the result will never be as you envision. It’s not a place that feels good or supports your desire to have a happy, fun relationship with your children.

If you hit the brick wall and the relationship between you and your child feels in jeopardy, there is always a solution and various ways to ease the situation. Here are a few tips.

 

            •           Make a new choice. Choose to stop pushing against the situation. You already know what doesn’t work so try a new approach. This may simply involve stopping the current argument.

            •           Choose Trust and Faith. So much of our lives involve trusting outcomes, people and situations we have no control over. Try trusting your kids with their own choices and have faith in the outcome.

            •           Love over Fear. Fear is always debilitating and never a place to make choices from. Focus on the love you have for your child and choose to put your fears aside.

            •           Empower your children. Their power lies in their ability to choose for themselves. Teach them about their Internal Guidance System and how to follow what feels good and right for them. Only they know their highest path.

            •           Remember your Internal Guidance System. Look within yourself and follow what feels good and right for you. This will help you allow your child to be more autonomous.

            •           Change your focus. What is focused on is where you remain stuck. Deliberately see your child as you wish them to be, in their best place. As you hold this focus, no matter what the current situation is, you allow the energy to flow in this way.

            •           The Art of Allowing. Sometimes, the situation at hand won’t match the vision you have for your child. The art of allowing is when you let go and allow your child to simply find their way. You’re still there, but they are in control.

            •           Take a deep breath. You may want to do this often as it helps to re-center and relax you. Know that all is well and things ultimately work out just fine with your children. Allow this to be so.

The walls we create in our lives needn’t be permanent. Our children want to be close with us as much as we want closeness with them. As we show them that their freedom is important to us and we support this freedom, we have a wonderful opportunity to be a part of our children’s growth and joy.

Your comments are welcome.

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

 

Do Children Need To Learn About Self-Love?

posted by srballantine

 

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Everyone is born with the belief that they’re the center of the Universe. You come equipped with a healthy dose of self-love, as love is all we really are. If this is the case, why is it that so many children as they are growing up, find it difficult to love themselves?

Over time, you learn that the world does not actually revolve around you. Everyone is focused on their own desires and life paths. It may seem that what you want is near the bottom of the list of what is important to anyone else, including your family members.

You are constantly surrounded by negative messages when you turn on the television and often by the world at large. Some are directly aimed at you, perhaps by someone who is stressed and just didn’t think before speaking. Others may be throwing the negativity around intentionally, looking to hurt feelings and ruin the vibrations of others. On top of that, you have the messages that are sent out to the world in general, ready to be absorbed by anyone willing to take on the burden, and not having practiced how not to.

There you may be, ready to be influenced by all of this energy that doesn’t feel good, so it’s important to know how to become immune to this phenomena. Children may become very practiced at repeating and absorbing what doesn’t feel good in the world. Over time, children will come to value themselves less.

This is why it is so important for parents to teach their children about loving themselves. This is something that is taught best by example. You must demonstrate to your children that it’s okay to value themselves and know that their desires are important. Showing them that taking care of yourself must come first so you can be an inspiration to others. This means you must practice self-love for yourself. Checking in with your Internal Guidance System will help you to recognize how it feels when you’re in alignment and acting out of love, as well as how it feels when you’re doing things you think we should, which often doesn’t feel good.

Your children will watch this behavior in you and see that you have given yourself permission to focus on what feels good to you. They will recognize that this does not make them feel less loved, but in fact you are more available to be open and loving. As they get older, they will be the first ones to remind you that you’re more fun to be around when you’re taking care of yourself.

The second step to teaching children about self-love is to show them they are loved and lovable. Of course you love your children, but you’re human. Sometimes you get tired, stressed, overwhelmed, and you don’t remember that your kids are sponges looking to absorb whatever you send their way. Show them that being human means experiencing all emotions, but never diminishes your love.

Maya Angelou instructed people to ask themselves, “Does my face light up when my child enters the room?”

This is what she was talking about. Your children can feel when you’re delighted to see them. This knowledge that they are loved raises their self-image and gives them the best foundation for a happy, loving life.

Your thoughts are welcome.
© 2014. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

 

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