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The Sun Will Come Up Tomorrow: LOA vs. Positivity

posted by srballantine

 

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What parent wants their child to be pessimistic, apprehensive, or always looking at the world as if it were half-empty? I certainly wouldn’t want that for my kids, or any kids for that matter. Neither would the parents that I talk to.

So the consensus is that everyone wants their kids to be happy and positive, right?

That’s great, but that is not necessarily empowering them to take control of their own lives. That is where the Law of Attraction comes in.

Sure, parents need to teach their children the benefits of being positive. A positive attitude will definitely take you far in this world.

As Little Orphan Annie sings, “The sun will come up tomorrow.” The sun will indeed come up, but what sort of day will the sun bring with it? While you can always put a positive spin on things — and that is a valuable and important skill to practice — you also want to attract events and people into your life that will bring you joy.

Being genuinely positive is part of being in alignment with the Universe. This step is part of learning to apply the Law of Attraction in your life, but there is more to it than that. You can teach your kids the difference, and how to use their positive attitude while applying other LOA tools to attract and achieve what they want in life.

Rather than feeling like a Pollyanna by maintaining a positive energy, see it as being in harmony with things that you want to attract. This is one reason there are many people who seem to live charmed lives without knowing a thing about the Law of Attraction. They are simply living it and expecting it.

At a very early age, kids know what feels good and what doesn’t. Unfortunately, there are many influences in their young lives that will cause them to either distrust, deny their “gut feelings”, or put the desires of other people above their own. It is possible for a child to remain positive even in this situation, but until they learn to really rely on their Internal Guidance System (IGS), they will never live to their fullest potential.

By learning to check in with their Internal Guidance System, kids will learn that they have their own compass by which they can make decisions for their lives. Their IGSs will help them know what is right for them, which may be different from what their friends or even their parents want for them.

Sometimes listening to their IGSs will take them on a path that appears to be more challenging. A positive attitude combined with a complete trust in this guidance system will allow them to persevere through tough times and result in a much more rewarding life.

What are your thoughts?

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

Other Parents Think My Kids Have Good Manners, But…

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Girl With Please SignHave you ever had an experience where your kids spent the night at a friend’s house and when they are dropped off, the parents remarked how polite and helpful your child was? While everyone wants their children to behave at their friends’ homes, sometimes you are left to wonder why they act differently there than they do at home.

Why is it that the kid who grumbles at clearing the table at home readily lends a hand for another mom? How come the youngster can remember to say “please” and “thank you” around others, but not to their own family?

Is it because you taught them to behave elsewhere and give them the freedom to “misbehave” at home?

If you are finding this sort of disconnect in your children’s behavior, it is a good time to step back and evaluate your own actions. It may be that you are indeed attracting less than perfect manners from your kids because of the messages that you are sending them.

It is human nature to relax in your own home around your loved ones. You feel safe. That’s a good thing. Sometimes this feeling safe can slide into not making an effort. This is where it is especially important for everyone to be clear on what the expectations are for all family members.

Before you think I’m merely talking about a list of chores, let me clarify.

Expectations are about behavior and responsibilities, but they are also about attitudes. These expectations will largely determine what you attract as a parent and what your children attract.

Teachers have learned that when they expect more from their students, the students do better. If the teacher has a preconceived notion that the student will not do well, their performance suffers.

The same principle may be at play here. There is no history between your child and their friend’s parent. When your children go to another home, the energy may be very different and they will therefore act differently. If that parent has an expectation that your children are polite and helpful, they are apt to fulfill that expectation. The friend’s parent praises the behavior, further supporting it.

I’m not suggesting that you treat your children like strangers. I am suggesting that you expect the best from your children and do whatever it takes to maintain that feeling about them. By shifting your energy and aligning with the highest version of your child, you will attract and support that behavior.

Then, the next time your children visit another friend, you will not be surprised at how well-behaved they are. You will know they are being their true selves, and you will be pleased because they are that way at home as well.

What are your thoughts?

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

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Ending Frustration With Your Child’s Wardrobe Choices

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purple_jacket_and_pink_bootsImagine it’s your child’s first day of school. Maybe it’s a new school, a new grade, or just their first day ever. You want your son or daughter to do well, to make friends, and yes, to make a good impression. After all, everyone knows that first impressions last, and you only want what is best for your kid.

Now imagine that your son or daughter comes downstairs having gotten themselves dressed, all excited and ready for that important first day of school. Their face is shining — clean and filled with joyful anticipation. They are clad in an ensemble that they clearly picked out with care and declare themselves ready for this important day.
Can you guess where I am going with this?

You see your darling child, and you look at them in their outfits with masked dismay and realize there is no way you would have chosen this for them. You are now faced with the dilemma of whether to allow your child to go to school dressed “like that” or upset their feelings and make them go and change.

This scenario happens every day around the world and wherever kids don’t wear uniforms to school. You want your kids to dress themselves and to wear clothes that are comfortable, but sometimes their choices are not so comfortable for you.

The key to ending this common parental frustration is to not march the child back to their room and demand they change clothes. The key is to shift your own attitude about the situation. This isn’t always easy to do on the fly, but given that aside from potential wardrobe malfunction issues, clothing choices are not likely to be the end of the world. This is an excellent opportunity for parents to practice letting kids make their own choices and let go. Clothes are one of the first ways that children use to express themselves.

Parents have the option of choosing to obsess over their child’s choices. Parents who dress more conservatively might not be thrilled at the swirling color and pattern combinations their child loves. On the other hand, more flamboyant parents may be distressed with a child who dresses like a young accountant.

Rather than focusing on having your child “fit in” or match your preferences, you should encourage your child’s creativity and personal style. By wearing clothes that feel good to your child, your son or daughter is in alignment with their Internal Guidance System. Because they feel good, their vibration is up and they are more apt to have a positive outlook on the day and create in a more positive way.

If you choose to control your child’s choice in clothing, you are telling them that you do not trust their decisions. When you make them wear clothes they don’t like or feel good in, not only is their vibration going to be lowered, but they will doubt their own ability to make choices. This doubt can creep into all facets of their lives and not just their closets.

It is true that your choice in clothing says a lot about you. Let your kid tell the world they are confident and true to their inner spirit. Clothing choices are just the beginning.

What are your thoughts?

© 2014. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

Teaching Children the Power of Acting from Joy

posted by srballantine

 

kid_jumping_hurdleAdults and children alike are here in life to create. Your life experience helps you to fine tune what creation looks like, exactly. Sometimes your desires are born out of living something negative. The negative event helps you better define what you don’t want. Other times, you know your heart’s desire and acting on that fills you with joy.

Isn’t it wonderful when you know what you want? Whether the desire is new or has been simmering in your soul for a long time, how fun is it to feel like the possibilities are unlimited?

When you feel this way, you are at your most powerful. You are in alignment with your highest good, actively attracting from joy.
Feeling good always means that you are in a place of allowing what you want to manifest. This may be an experience, a thing, or even a person.

When you are in this state, you become filled with ideas and take inspired action which then results in your attracting what you want.
By teaching your children to actively seek this place of joy, they will experience how much fun life can be. Even before your desires manifest, it is exciting to plan and research.

You are filled with positive anticipation, knowing that something good is coming your way.

If you approach your desires from a place of fear, lack, or disbelief, then you will have a very different result. Instead of anticipation, you will feel dread and anxiety. Planning and researching will be a chore to be handled rather than a pleasure.

What is it that your children really want to achieve? Do they want to go to a special camp? Do they want to become class president? Do your kids want to be in a play or join a new sports team?

You can teach your children that the best time to think about what they want is when they are already feeling good. Help them to understand that when they are feeling bad, they are cutting themselves off from the flow, and that all the planning in the world will not help.

Even though this may be counter-intuitive, sometimes taking time away from your goals is the fastest way to achieve them. Instead of trying to push through a negative feeling, it is better to take the time to feel better first. Then, once you are feeling better, you will be open to all the possibilities and inspiration the Universe has to offer.

What are your thoughts?
© 2014. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

 

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