Parenting on Purpose

Parenting on Purpose

Talking To Your Child Influences Their Vocabulary

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Talking to your child, even from their first day on Earth, is an important tool for helping them learn. You can even talk to your baby before they’re born and facilitate some kind of learning. Babies can hear and absorb many sounds and learn to recognize their parents’ voices while still in utero. Just as they absorb the food and chemicals that their mothers ingest, babies also absorb the energy that their mother feels; her fear, excitement, joy, and love.

One of the very best things you can do for your baby is to remember that they’re like little sponges, absorbing everything around them. That is true while they’re still in the womb and also once they’re born.

There is scientific evidence that shows there’s a learning gap between children of higher income and parents with fewer means. It isn’t the money that makes the difference however, it is in their vocabulary.

You may be surprised to learn that the key difference is in how many words kids are exposed to before age four. Kids who are born into middle class homes tend to hear 30 million more words than their lower income counterparts.

Words are important in learning, but they’re not the only aspect to consider regarding development in a child’s brain. The relationship that you have with your child is the most important one they’ll ever have. Talking to them and with them facilitates learning and your mutual connection. Talk to your kids, even if they aren’t old enough to carry on a conversation. Really engage with them, not just talking at them.

Look at your child, engage them, and show them your emotions. Point out things as you walk by, whether it’s in the park or the grocery store. Let them begin to experience life and expose your kids to a variety of stimuli in a safe environment. Let them hear conversation between adults. Read books out loud. Explain what’s happening around you. They don’t have to understand your every word to benefit from this meaningful exchange.

Some parents never use baby talk with their children while others use it extensively. There isn’t a right or wrong answer, except that having a hard and fast rule in either direction is probably not a good idea. People often get silly in front of babies and talk in a voice that their boss would never recognize, and that’s natural. Even if we don’t engage in baby talk, others undoubtedly will.

There’s a lot of stress on parents to parent in a perfect manner, but children don’t understand this concept anyway. Be easy with yourself knowing that you are helping teach your child important lessons in life, just by talking to them.

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© 2015. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

Having Fun Is An Important Tool

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Whenever you want to attract something into your life, you must allow it to come to you first. This means you’re feeling good, happy, joyful. One of the easiest ways to be joyful is by having fun. This may sound obvious, but you may not always recognize that fun is an important tool for yourself and your kids. It can be one of the easiest things to teach them, as children are masters at having fun!

We can’t see the future and know what’s in store for us, but if you are able to stay happy you can be confident that events and experiences will ultimately work out for you. Know this even when you’re not sure exactly how events will unfold.

It can sometimes be easy to slip into fear and worry when you don’t see a clear path in front of you. As a parent, you may want to appear strong and fearless in front of your child, but this isn’t necessarily your best teaching tool.Children will encounter fear in their lives, and it will serve them better to learn tools on how to deal with fear,not ignore it. It’s far better if you can acknowledge your fear and how you’re going to resolve it.

Your children will always feel whatever energy you’re exuding and they’ll know if you’re not being authentic with them. This can cause confusion and add to their fear if they feel you aren’t telling them the truth.

Allowing your life to unfold and trusting life’s processes can be challenging when you’ve allowed fear and worry to take hold. This is why having fun is essential. When you’re having fun, it isn’t possible to feel the negative emotions that fear brings. The two are opposing feelings and therefore, cannot be with you at the same time.

I’m not saying that you should just play and have fun all the time while you hope that life works out. Rather, when you are having fun, it’s easier to focus on your goals and intentions, which causes the energy to move at a faster pace toward what you want. The key is where you place your focus. It should always be on what you desire not what you fear.

Sometimes it’s natural to start feeling anxious. You may have nervous energy caused by an approaching deadline or your kids may feel anticipation about the future as they know their vacation or education is coming to an end.

The key is recognizing that you’re no longer feeling comfortable. This is the signal that it’s time to shift your focus. You can begin focusing on the details of what you’re looking forward to. When you start to feel good, you will be open to receive the inspiration regarding how to move forward and what actions to take.

The important thing is to focus on your desires while feeling good and listening to the inspirations you receive. You may have an idea to search the Internet for information, call a certain someone, or any variety of actions that help you better understand what you need in order to manifest what you want. When you’re feeling good and receive these inspirations, realize that this is your Internal Guidance System (IGS) helping you along the path to your desires. This can start by having fun. Enjoy yourself and teach your children the importance of having fun and how it can be used as a tool to create their lives.

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© 2015. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

Encouraging Your Child Toward Greatness

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Children often dream of having many different careers as they grow up. They might want to be a firefighter one minute, a jockey the next, then a baker, and maybe even President of the United States after that. Sometimes these career goals change over time, but sometimes children will want to be all of these things at once.

It’s wonderful for them to have these dreams, even if they change all the time. Childhood is the time to try on new ideas and new experiences. It is their opportunity to explore these dreams which will change over time as a new passion takes over.

Many times a loved one or another well-meaning person will give what they believe to be an honest appraisal of a child’s abilities in order to inject a “dose of reality.” These comments can forever alter a child’s vision of themselves.

Doesn’t it feel great to support your child’s dreams as opposed to offering a perception of what you may think is real for your child? Life can hold unlimited possibilities for you and your children. Encourage them to follow their dreams and explore all of life’s possibilities. Their lives may take an interesting turn which was not expected, and they can only experience their own power if they try.

Imagine everyone in your family is tall and your son or daughter tells you they want to be a jockey. Do you tell them that it isn’t likely? Or do you help them figure out what it is they might love about being a jockey? Maybe they love riding horses or perhaps the care and grooming of these beautiful animals. You can support what they love and help them explore many different ways to achieve this feeling.

What about careers that defy gender norms?

Countless girls were told they couldn’t be jockeys just because they were girls. It seemed an impossible dream until one day a girl became a jockey. While it still isn’t a common sight, there is no longer a rule that girls cannot be jockeys and there isn’t any rule that boys can’t be ballet dancers either. You can continue to encourage your child in their dreams even if their interest is unusual for their age, gender, or body type.

Take Misty Copeland for example. Her dream to be a ballerina didn’t start until she was a teenager. That’s ancient in ballet years. Misty was only 5’ 2” tall, and as she tells it, she didn’t have a classic ballet body and was even considered a bit stocky. In addition to all that, Misty is an African-American woman, which is a rarity in the world of ballet.

I can just imagine the dose of reality that some people might have tried to give to Misty. They may have said things like, “You’re too old to start learning ballet” or “There hasn’t been an African-American to break out of the corps in more than 20 years.”

Fortunately, Misty was able to ignore those who would’ve held her back from greatness and convince her to follow a “realistic” dream. By surrounding herself with loving, supportive people, Misty was able to fulfill her dream of being a ballerina. Today, Misty Copeland is a soloist for the American Ballet Theater, despite not fitting the mold. In fact, Misty is considered a prodigy, winning awards after only two years of training, and becoming a pro after only four years.

Your child has the ability to achieve greatness even in the simplest of dreams. Always encourage these dreams and let them know all things are possible. Be the catalyst to their unlimited potential.

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© 2015. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

Coaching Your Child~ College To The Work Force

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It used to be that when kids went to college, they had a good chance of graduating with a job in addition to their degree. Today, this is usually not the case. In fact when speaking statistically, most college graduates will not have a job ready and waiting for them after graduation.

As scary as this can be for both parents and your graduate, it is an opportunity to help coach your son or daughter through an important life transition — from college student to working citizen. By helping your child through this transition period, you will both benefit from a closer relationship and develop skills which will help with future transition periods.

It’s important to talk to your son or daughter about how it feels to be ready for the work force yet not be employed, after all the time and effort they put into getting their education. When my own daughter was in this transition period, she described it to me as being a little scary, nerve-wracking, and uncertain. Talk about feeling stressed, right?

When your children are in this position,one of the best things you can do is encourage them to tap into their Internal Guidance System (IGS). The IGS is the gut feeling and heart space within them. The IGS keeps everyone safe and moving towards what they want to achieve in their lives by helping them feel their way through choices.

In addition to encouraging the use of their IGS, another way you can coach your children through this time is to ask them questions that help them check in with their IGS. Ask them what sounds fun to them and what they are inspired to move toward. There will have been many things they studied in the process of getting their degree that can offer clues.

My daughter received a degree in English and Creative Writing and wanted to find a job that allowed her to write, as she’s an amazing writer. Writing gives her much pleasure and is one of her creative outlets, so this choice didn’t surprise me.

While I knew that my daughter loved to write and was good at it, my job didn’t end with supporting and encouraging the pursuit of that career. My support was present when she had doubts and also felt uncertain of her next step. For some kids, discovering what they love to do might have happened in one class that was part of their general education requirements or was an elective; it had nothing at all to do with the area where they actually achieved their degree. Keep in mind, some kids graduate without knowing what career they want to pursue. The process of your support remains the same.

Continue to help your son or daughter talk about what they like to do. This can lead to seemingly unrelated interests or it may fine-tune what they’ve already expressed.

You may be surprised to learn that your children know they have some skills, but aren’t sure how they can apply them in a real job. Allow them to tell you about their aspirations and fears. Keep in mind that they’ve been students for their entire lives, and unless they worked during high school and college, getting a job is a new experience for them.

Help your daughter determine the criteria she has for her dream job, even if she doesn’t know what that job will be. What kind of money does she want to make? Where does she want to live? These are ideas of what she wants in her job and in her life in general beyond her career.

Reassure your children that they don’t have to have it all figured out. These things come as people grow and gain experience. By having a starting point, they’ve expressed their desires in a way that the Universe can create said desires for them.

This is one of the most important things for both you and your son or daughter to remember. In order to create the lives they want, including that first job, they have to stay in a positive place of expectation. This means having fun so they can be open to receiving their inspiration.

Encourage your children to consider how much fun they will have at a prospective job. Some parents struggle with this concept, but it might help if you think of having fun as a tool to maintain a positive expectation, which then allows them to attract their dream jobs.

If they become too stressed and are focused on the fact that they don’t yet have jobs, then they’ll struggle to get the lives they desire. If that happens, they might just end up living with you a lot longer than you had planned. Help them stay positive!

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© 2015. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

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