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Drop Dead Diva: Judging Fat People

KICKOL-LOGO.jpgOnce upon a time, many fat moons ago, when I was at my heaviest in all possible ways (both body and soul), I took a mid-day break from the madness.
Dressed loosely in what could have been characterized as a ‘moo moo,’ I set ‘sail’ across Madison Avenue in search of a steak roll-up.
Midway across the divide, I heard the honk of a full-sized truck and the bellow of its driver, “Hey Lady! I know you’re too old to be pregnant. MOVE IT!”
Ouch! Double injury. Fat and old.
This week’s episode of Drop Dead Diva touched on the many cruel and insensitive things that are said to and thought about ‘fat’ people.
Judgment 101: The WHY of it.
Have you ever wondered why we are so fond of judging each other? We all do it. Don’t we? We judge people every day by the way they look, dress, walk, talk, think, and how they act.
We are judging machines. What’s it all about? Why do we partake in something so hurtful and low?
The Bible says, “Judge not, lest you be judged.”
One of the moral disciplines of the Buddhist Eightfold Path is “Right Speech.” Right Speech suggests that we do not “slander others or speak in a way that causes disharmony or enmity” nor should we “indulge in idle talk or gossip.”
In Talmudic tradition, it is believed that the evil tongue, “Lashon ha-ra,” is a weapon of destruction, one that spreads hatred, lies and most of all slander.
And yet we continue to judge.
Judgment stems from fear. It is a dysfunctional way of protecting ourselves. We project how we feel about ourselves onto others. We put them down so that we can feel superior and bring ourselves up.
Food for thought.
How many times a day do you judge others or have negative thoughts about others? How many times a day do you look at someone and reject them because you don’t like the way they look? Too fat? Too thin? Too ugly? Too pretty?
Join with Our Lady of Weight Loss’s KICK IN THE TUSH CLUB and me, as we practice “Right Speech” for the next 24 hours.
One day a time!
More to chew over.
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Eat This: Lose 50 Pounds
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  • Samantha

    We judge others, I think, because it makes us feel superior and then we aren’t part of the ‘problem’ that we’re judging. I’ve mostly quit judging others – FINALLY – because I’ve realized that judgment hurts me much more than the person I’m hurting. That, to me, is the real meaning of ‘judge not lest ye be judged’. The judgment of others can hurt but nothing like our judgment of ourselves.

  • Karl Mariaqwgdar

    One of the most recent and better clarifications of Right Speech is that of Miguel Ruiz, in “The Four Agreements” – I’ve found the chapter on the first agreement “Be impeccable with your word” to be a good summary of Right Speech, and translated in normal, everyday situations. Just my thouhts. Hope others are having a judgment-free right-speechful day!

  • Your Name

    When my speech against fat body is some kind of harsh (not really)it’s because i am talking with a very close friend,not to fat people in public or talking directly judging their body.I just love to laugh out loud in a very private place,that’s my intention,God knows.

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