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You Are Never Done: Life as Process

The Buddha taught that life is process. Everything is process, including what we regard to be self. Nothing exists outside of this process and when it appears to, it is an illusion, perhaps even a delusion.

It is impossible to be fully with the process of being and to be unhappy at the same time. To be in the process is to be at our happiest.

We never arrive and are always in the process of becoming. How would you like that becoming to manifest? Would you like more dissatisfaction, anguish, and suffering? If so, push against what is happening now and wish it were some other way. Would you like more peace, tranquility, and joy? If so, don’t push against what is happening now and embrace it the way it is.


Meanwhile, pay attention and act skillfully with your mind and actions so what unfolds in the moment can be readily accepted. When things arise that are beyond our sphere of influence, sticking with the process is still a transformative possibility.

The forthcoming celebration of the New Year, obscures this fact by suggesting that 2011 is done and 2012 is about to begin. It’s all one continuous process. The Earth moved around the sun once again. I’ll have more to say about this as the New Year approaches.

Enjoy the process now.

  • Shukla Kar

    As I was reading Mr. Kozak’s writting ‘You never done: Life as Process’, I felt pretty good thinking about it. Yes! Life is a process and we are enjoying the moments as presented to us. Also, searching for Peasce and tranquility truely in our reach, if we don’t push ourselves to go beyond our means.

  • Ellie

    Thanks for this lesson in process, Dr. K. And also gratitude for yesterday’s meditation retreat. Even though I whined, I am better for it and today I worked 7 straight hours without crawling out of my jammies and felt energized. Couldn’t have done it without your guidance. Peace.

  • Paul Quintero

    Very nice text! I reallyenjoyed not being complete. Gassho, Paul.

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