About a month ago I was on the radio talk show ‘Tell Me Your Story’. Host Richard Dugan and I had a great time talking about everything from Conscious Living to kids. After almost an hour, the interview was coming to a close. With 4 minutes left, Richard said to me, ‘Before we go, let me ask you this…’Who Is Christine Agro?’
It’s never a good thing to be speechless during an interview, but it almost happened. It wasn’t that I didn’t have anything to say, but I think ,since I was in ‘interview mode’ my first inclination was to answer with what I do – I’m a Clairvoyant, A Naturopath, A Master Herbalist. As thoughts formed in my head though, I found myself mentally editing with ‘…but that’s not who I am?’ I know that I am not defined by what I do. After what seemed like a long pause, although I’m assured that it wasn’t, I know I responded with something.
Richard’s question has me thinking about how we define ourselves. When we are asked about ourselves or asked to describe ourselves, we talk about what we do, or the type of person we are. We talk about the role we play: we’re a mother, or a wife, or a daughter or a sister. We talk about what we do: We’re a lawyer, or a stay-at-home-mom. We talk about our qualities: We’re a good friend or a devoted spouse. But are any of these things ‘who we are? Or are they all a byproduct of who we are?
It can be dangerous if our identity is wrapped up in what we do, the roles we play or the way that we are seen by others. If your friendship ends, does that mean you are no longer a good friend? If you get fired or your company goes bankrupt do you stop existing because you are no longer a lawyer? Or your kids grow-up and leave the home – are you still a stay-at-home-mom or do you find yourself feeling lost?
I think more importantly than defining who we are, is considering how we want to show up in our lives? How do we want our lives to unfold? What is important to us?
These questions allow us to be flexible and moveable, to define our own sense of self and embrace who we are from moment to moment. Our lives are always changing, our roles are always shifting. If we approach our lives with a sense of adventure and we continually explore how and in what way we want our lives to unfold and in what way we want to show up in our lives, we won’t find ourselves feeling empty or lost when life changes.
So maybe the question isn’t “Who Am I?”, but rather “Who Do I Want To Be?”
If you want to hear my full interview with Richard –Click here to listen….
© 2012 Christine Agro
Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms’ Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom’s Guide, a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on Facebook. To contact Christine, to schedule an appointment with her or inquire about having Christine speak please email her.