Life is always new, which means there is no such thing as an “old” problem. The only thing aged in us, with regards to what continues to make us ache, is our worn out ideas about how to overcome our […]
Though we find no evidence of anything noble in someone who has betrayed us, neither is there anything noble in our bitterness.
Our present mind knows of only two possible ways to turn when faced with a personal crisis. But neither of the directions it knows to look in ever resolve anything. Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only […]
There are many un-illumined and downward trending parts in all of us that not only seek out their unconscious counterparts (in others) but that are secretly strengthened in the conflicted company of such dark and negative energies. We can see […]
Every moment that unfolds in life presents us with an invitation to choose either the path of what will better us or a path that will make us more bitter — as when we unconsciously embrace a resentment instead of […]
The next time you experience any kind of pain — an irritation, a flash of anger, a twinge of resentment — you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Inner-life master and author Vernon […]
Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the only true solution to anger, which is to atone for it in the moment by allowing the light of revelation to transform it, instead continuing to feed it through unconscious resistance.
Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short talk that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments within ourselves.
Real compassion lies in our ability to remember that any angry, resentful person is usually just someone who can no longer bear the weary weight of his or her own carefully concealed despair.
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that if we will stop agreeing to “feed” the parts of us that produce unnecessary pain, then gradually those parts will stop growing.
The human being is created to develop in the “likeness” of that marvelous Intelligence that made us. This Divine Intelligence didn’t create anything that it fears or hates. It’s a ridiculous thought to walk around and believe (as we all […]
Your original Self doesn’t come loaded with worry, regret, fear, resentment, or, for that matter, any other self-limiting states that can grow where darkness gathers. Self-limiting thoughts or feelings have power over us only when we are tricked into believing […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how most of the unnecessary struggle and conflict that we experience in this life is due to our habitual, unconscious fixation on recurring thoughts and feelings. Click here to listen to “End the […]
Our experience of life is somewhat like a game of ping pong. Someone says something to us that we perceive as negative, and a certain “I” pops up that we identify with. The content of that “I” then directs our […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment. Click here to listen to “Blame Schmame”
Question: When I find myself feeling depressed — in the dumps so to speak — I tend to see myself as the victim of whatever situation is at hand. Then the more I find reasons to justify being the victim, […]
Be encouraged by this truth and then do the inner work to realize the freedom it holds for you: Life itself never stands in our way. It never intends to hold us down. If something is seen by us as […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the kind of direct self-observation that is essential for the individual who wants freedom from the present level of mind that unconsciously compromises itself. Click here to listen to “Break the Chains […]
If it helps, think of troubling times like these as your having been distracted while taking a long walk through the city. Maybe you were caught up with thinking about the “good old days!” Then you suddenly realize that, in […]
The truth about the past is simply that it has passed. This means that our experience of each moment — for its pleasure or pain, peace or trouble — is a direct reflection of what we are in relationship with […]
Question: I have been married for more many years. Recently, I discovered that my husband, who travels a lot for his job, has been unfaithful to me during his time away from home. I don’t want to expose that I […]
Learn the hard lessons and watch your life become easier… Conditions reveal our character, just as our character helps to create the conditions that reveal it in turn. This means that struggling to change some unwanted condition without first addressing […]
Love doesn’t resist or resent anything; it knows and sees the secret unity in all it beholds. Light doesn’t fear shadows; it gently transforms them into open space.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how freedom from unhappiness and frustration appears naturally as we learn to let go of false purposes. Click here to listen to this podcast “Free Yourself From the Pain of False Purposes”
Question: I know that my husband has cheated on me in the past. We fight over this since he was not honest with me. I still love him but cannot trust or respect him just yet. I want to make it […]
Seeing the pain in others, the suffering of this dark and debilitated world of ours, can awaken one of two impressions in a human being: a sense of resentment-tinged confusion about what kind of God allows for such darkness, or […]
Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]
Don’t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. This understanding alone nourishes your love, […]