Most of us, on a day-to-day basis, go through life carried along by a constant stream of expectations. In fact, these expectations are so common to our sense of self and its well-being that we barely even realize we have them […]
Our spiritual work is to bit by bit discover natural limitations in the thought process. What has happened in the world today is that human beings have had life replaced with the concept of living. In the concept of living […]
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it is necessary to our well-being to have enemies of any […]
No individual relationship is the (sole) cause of one’s conflict or pain; our relationships reveal the nature of an unconscious pain that we bring into them with us. To start discerning the difference between these (two) perceptions is the beginning […]
Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by […]
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
It doesn’t matter how, or where, this dark cycle of conflict got started. It is not important any longer. Why? Because once we understand that to try to hurt someone — even just to want to — is to hurt […]
Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]
Question: How can I move beyond a painful regret? Answer: Events demand decisions. Choices must be made. And we do the best we know how in any given moment. Even so, we often err and choose against ourselves. For a […]
Real compassion lies in our ability to remember that any angry, resentful person is usually just someone who can no longer bear the weary weight of his or her own carefully concealed despair.
In times of anxiety and fear, we almost always call upon someone or something to help us get through our stress. This dependency on others for strength not only weakens our soul but also steals from it the possibility of […]
If you would like to begin in earnest the good work of letting go of dark, self-punishing states, start here: Never give to another person a slice of any mental or emotional state of yours that you have not taken […]
Guy Finley reveals that true love shows me what I need to see about myself in order to be a more perfected person.
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll […]
Have you ever tried to make a change and then heard this voice in your head? “Why does it have to hurt?” Maybe some form of an addiction – drugs, alcohol, food – has begun to compromise not only your […]
If you know the content of your own heart . . . If you can be consciously aware of this condition . . . Then you not only know the secret contents Of the heart of everyone else you meet, […]
Every relationship that we have in our life — our contact with each person, place, and event — serves a very special, if yet to be realized purpose: they are a mirror that can serve to show us things about […]
Whether it’s issues concerning health, relationships, or some other heartache… letting go is the central theme of this life; we can either agree with its great lesson and learn to release our resistance to unwanted moments… or cling and cry, […]
All human enacted tragedies, and the grief that follows in their wake, are regrettable; it’s almost unimaginable that any individual could be so inwardly corrupt as to deliberately wish to hurt anyone else, let alone a group of innocents. Heinous […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the nature of a higher love that never fails to respond perfectly to what is being requested by the present moment. Click here to listen to “A Story About True Love”
Where does our longing for someone or something to love originate? Is it not with the awakening of an internal force urging us to explore and experience the deepest part of ourselves? When we say — or feel toward another […]
In this video blog by Guy Finley learn the higher benefit of discovering that the purpose of every relationship is to connect us to authentic growth through the understanding that who we have been, and what we have done in […]
QUESTION I am having trouble understanding how to leave relationships with my friends and family alone. It seems that the changes I feel are affecting them, but neither they nor I understand some of these changes. It is an extremely […]
There is one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships — one that is definitely required if we wish to continue in our own development and help others to do the same. What is this powerful catalyst that only […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how real relationship with the present moment requires both receptivity and letting go.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how getting angry over our present limitations actually prevents us from consciously meeting and transcending them.
Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can experience truer, brighter, more meaningful relationships with everyone we meet once we learn to put the needs of others before our own.
QUESTION I get so easily confused these days as I wrestle with all the ways one hears about how to handle difficult people. No one approach seems to apply or work with everyone. It seems I can only repeat solutions […]
At least twice a month I receive an email or letter telling me how much anger and hatred the person is feeling towards someone who betrayed them in some way…and asking how on earth can it be possible to live […]
QUESTION If there’s really a way to take the torment out of personal loss, I want to know about it. But the whole idea of not feeling loss also frightens me in a way that’s hard to describe. I mean, […]
It’s a little known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth but, when it comes to what we […]
Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us — because physically we are different — but inwardly we all live in the same pool. We all have pain and pleasure, we all […]
Don’t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. This understanding alone nourishes your love, […]