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The false self, ever-pursuing or struggling to protect the dream of its imagined sense of importance, doesn’t care who or what it picks a fight with; all that matters to this divided self is that it finds someone or something […]

Many times the very thing we want from those we are with—for example, respect, patience, or a just little tenderness—is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them. The “catch” […]

Judging yourself, or others… seems to prove the presence of an innocent “you” — someone superior to the inferior character now being condemned. But reproving yourself, or others… is actually the avoidance of seeing yourself as you are in that […]

There is one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships — one that is definitely required if we wish to continue in our own development and help others to do the same. What is this powerful catalyst that only […]

Perhaps you’ve worked hard to be more aware of yourself in the Now, and that for this effort you catch a glimpse of how quick you are to judge others, to criticize them for their “failings.” This pain that strains […]

As promised in the last blog, following are five ways that we can work to develop real patience within ourselves: 1. We must develop the patience to let disturbances pass by without picking them up: This means we need to […]

There is one way, and one way only, that any of us will ever know the real meaning behind the life of Christ, and that is… to share in his death. And by this, I do not mean symbolically, or […]

No relationship in life can be any more successful than what we are willing to learn about ourselves through it. The moment we turn our back on what others give us to see about ourselves, we not only walk away […]

One way to prevent yourself from going through a considerable amount of useless pain is to see the truth of the following, and then to act upon your discovery accordingly: judging others doesn’t change how much they disturb you; it […]

When it comes to dealing with others who have failed to meet our expectations, let us never forget the following: their choices in the past that may have caused us pain ought never blindly determine how we treat them in […]