Why can’t we listen without conflict? Why is there always something lurking in our minds that’s often unhappy and dissatisfied with how the moment is going? “Things shouldn’t be like this; why is this happening?” There is never purity in our present level of consciousness. As we begin seeing through this lower nature that’s always…

Imagine that we’re out to dinner, driving in a car somewhere, or maybe just lying in bed moments before it’s time to turn out the lights. All is well. Everything seems quiet. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, our partner tosses a “grenade” into our lap. Suddenly, but too late, it’s obvious: we didn’t see any…

When someone says something that is unkind or cruel, it’s because they have perceived something in you that has produced a reaction in them that is born of expectation. They are helpless to act otherwise, which stirs a similar reaction and helplessness within you as well. If you will meet those moments with the wish…

If we want to help our partner change, we must change. There is no other way. And more: unless we’re exceptionally blessed, it’s unlikely our partner has the same wish that we do: to keep growing and exploring a love that, at the start, was filled with surprising changes, but that has lost some of…

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