Any friendship based on a relationship that is “already understood” is less a friendship than it is an unstated agreement that things should change between those involved only when and if mutually agreed upon. But real friendship is no such contract; it’s a mutual consent between the parties involved to share in love’s never ending encouragement to outgrow whatever limits the growth of the soul.
Question: I had a friend for 5 years, and out of the blue I made a simple remark…and now she is not my friend anymore! I apologized, and she said she forgives me, but it’s obvious she holds a grudge. Now our friendship is over… for good. It’s breaking my heart. What can I do to get over this? How can there be no forgiveness for what I said without thinking?
Answer: Friendships should be looked at as one does a tree; without a deep and healthy root system to sustain the tree in droughts — and through storms — the tree will not thrive and survive. So it is with so-called “friends” whose caring runs only as deep as temporary circumstances allow. You are better off without this person, and should be glad to know what you now do about her! You have not lost a friend, but gained new understanding about how shallow runs human nature! Don’t be afraid to see the truth of these words. Your new understanding will eventually bring you new and truer friends who share the same wisdom as well as the love of it.
Whether it’s issues concerning health, relationships, or some other heartache… letting go is the central theme of this life; we can either agree with its great lesson and learn to release our resistance to unwanted moments… or cling and cry, and continue serving a suffering that changes nothing.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we are introduced to our own higher possibilities whenever we are willing to be awake to what the present moment wants to reveal to us about ourselves.
Click here to listen to “What to Do When Life is Picking on You”