Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Loyalty in Relationships

posted by Guy Finley

Question: Could you please share your insights on trusting your partner with regards to attempting to have a meaningful relationship? It seems that almost nobody can be loyal, and they always end up cheating or thinking the grass is greener on the other side. This could be a matter of life and death these days rather than just hurtful feelings of jealousy. Is it even possible to be truly satisfied and not have overwhelming curiosities?

Answer: You’ve asked two questions that perhaps I can answer with one idea. First, part of the “problem” of being asleep to oneself includes the fact that such a person has no inkling that he or she is not one integrated being, but is actually a composite of various desires and the sense of self that is born from these forces in his or her soul. No one who is many can act as one. To expect someone to be loyal, to have integrity, to be true, when such a person is almost by law divided into more natures than Seth himself, is to ask for sorrow. So, the first thing that we must do if we wish to cease feeling ourselves a victim is to begin the process of integrating ourselves. Once we realize the truth of our own condition, it is impossible to be deceived by anyone who remains in a state similar to the sleep life we have now escaped. This is a form of spiritual safety. But more important than that sense of security that comes from the presence of a Living Light within us is that for this same Light within us, we are liberated from the base longing of hoping to complete ourselves by someone or something exterior to ourselves. This is contentment that is not based in the opposites, but is a natural radiation of one now living in an undivided Reality.

The Pain of Being Betrayed

posted by Guy Finley


The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and become inflamed whenever certain self-supports are unexpectedly pulled out from beneath us.

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Any “I” that hates relates not to the person it holds responsible for this rage, but this “I” sits in secret relationship with ruinous negative states that have neither place nor power in this world without drawing some sleeping soul into an unconscious conspiracy called “blame.”

Let Go of the Pain of the Past

posted by Guy Finley

Without our unconscious consent, regardless of what we may have done against others, or ourselves, the past is powerless to punish us in the present moment.

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Do what is in your power: refuse to do what is not. It is not in your power to change events gone by, but you can let go of the time-bound self that wants to chain you to pain that only exists in the past!

Free Yourself from the Tyranny of the Past

posted by Guy Finley

Our task, if we want to be free human beings — if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us “what he did,” “what she didn’t do,” “what never worked out” — begins with discovering that there can be no real freedom for us until we understand the nature of the tyranny of the past that still lives within us. One of the main areas of this unchallenged dictatorship that still holds us captive is our inability to forgive.

Do you know people — maybe who aren’t even alive anymore — that you haven’t been able to forgive? Are there certain events in your life you just can’t release? What you can’t release isn’t the person or the condition that you see as being the source of your pain. What seems to be “stuck” isn’t an old situation you can’t release… it’s a thought. It’s the negative effect of a certain order of mind that, in its darkness, lives as a prisoner of a past presence.

Over and over again, certain negative images — crammed full of the conflict felt in the moment of their creation — are unconsciously revisited by a part of us that actually wants that dark visitation. Why? Because this familiar pain confirms, in a very strong fashion, our certainty of who we are by re-creating what once happened to us in life. Something in our own mind actively recollects what it does from our past, regardless of how it wrecks the present moment for us. To be punished by any past presence is to be a prisoner of our own past.

A “prisoner mentality” is part of any thought or feeling that blames something outside of you for what amounts to self-induced pain. Was there a person who did something terrible? Yes. This planet is filled with toxic, cruel human beings — victims themselves of a pain they can’t escape. But does that mean that you should spend your life running, hiding, resenting what was? No! In a word, you aren’t free of your own past because you don’t see what’s happening to you, within you, in the present.

Something, anything — be it an event, a smell, a sound, a thought — will stir the mind and call up within it the memory of a person, an event, a condition; and at that moment something in you grabs onto whatever it was that happened, and “bang!” — bitterness, sorrow, regret, or rage results. With this suffering comes “proof” to the sleeping mind (that is revisiting its own images) of exactly who (or what) is responsible for this pain. Blame feeds the fire, keeping the self in place that feels as though the pain it has is due to the person it blames.

These thoughts and feelings that come flooding back into you are not your thoughts. They have no real right to be there, running through you unattended, ruining your life. But you grant them entrance to your mind and the power to make you ache every time you consent to relive what someone did or didn’t do to you.

There is freedom in realizing — seeing the truth of the fact — that whatever is holding you captive right now has no right to do so. None! The split second that you see you’re a captive of your own mind, you have the freedom to challenge it with the new understanding that belongs to your new, true mind — a mind that can’t be made a prisoner of anything.

If you want to have real forgiveness, it begins with giving yourself up each and every time some past presence presses its will in and upon you. Use the will of your new understanding to lay down your “self” when you see it’s needed. Do this, and something new will rise where you once were — free from the past — which means you will be free to forgive.

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