Here is a life-saving fact, so welcome the healing it brings by being willing to see the truth hidden within it: There lives nothing real in our past — regardless of how disappointing or painful it may have been — that can grab us and make us its captive, anymore than dark shadows have the power to keep us from walking into the sunlight. Now, add to this fact the realization that there is never a good reason to go along with feeling bad about yourself, and you’re on your way to living in a world without self-pity. Call upon the following special self-study guides as needed. Use them to help strengthen your wish to be free of all dark self-compromising states.
1. The only thing feeling sorry for yourself changes about your life is that it makes it worse.
2. No matter how you look at it, you involve yourself with whatever you resist!
3. Being wrapped up in self-pity completely spoils any chance of being able to see new possibilities as they appear; besides, no one likes sour milk!
4. The only thing that grows from cultivating any dark seed of sorrow is more bitter fruit.
5. Feeling sorry for those who want you to feel sorry for them is like giving an alcoholic a gift certificate to a liquor store.
6. Anytime you embrace a dark inner state, you increase the size of its stake on your heart and mind.
7. Feeling sorry for yourself is a slow acting poison; it first corrupts, and then consumes the heart…choking it with dark and useless emotions.
8. You cannot separate the reasons you have for feeling sorry for yourself from the sorry way you feel.
9. The heart watered by tears of self-pity soon turns to stone; it is incapable of compassion.
10. Agreeing to live with sad regrets only ensures they’ll still be with you tomorrow.
If putting yourself first had any real power to grant you true liberty – a way to make you content, then – for all you’ve given to yourself – shouldn’t you be happy and free by now?
Asking God to help you — without first doing the interior work of seeing and admitting the truth of yourself to yourself — is like sending someone else to church or temple for you to pray for your transfiguration.
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains what it means to wait for a “Divine touch” that makes the darkest moments into something light, bright, and right for all involved.
Click here to listen to “Be There for the Breath of Heaven”
Question: I once had a radical experience with my inner life. I got to a point where I knew something had to change. I told God that I was going to trust Him (whatever that meant, because I had no clue) no matter what it took. Right there and then, my life began to change. I began to have understanding about myself and others. I had a new boldness. Then, somehow, over time, I just lost it all. My question is this: it says in the Bible something like once enlightened, and you fall away, how do you expect to repent and be crucified with the Christ again? Is it too late for me to know this precious freedom that once found me?
Answer: Nothing in the Universe can stand in the way of the one who wants to let go of who and what they have been in favor of realizing themselves in the Light of God. And anything within you that intimates (or intimidates) otherwise… does so in the fear that you will rededicate yourself to realizing a conscious relationship with the Real Life that once touched you. Start over right now. In time, as Truth allows, you will come to realize that the living Christ is always being “crucified”… sacrificing His life for the sake of the (so-called) “other.” And one can choose that same path through life, anytime one remembers what really matters in life. God is love, and love is always doing what love does: bringing together what is apart and “making” it whole (holy). Act on what you love, not from what you fear, and watch how fear fades as love grows.