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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Question: I’m so tired of living the same old life that leads me nowhere toward the peace I want. So why is it so hard to just let go of it all?

Answer: There is one very shocking fact along the Path that we can’t escape if we want real peace: Right now, this moment, everyone everywhere is embracing exactly what he or she wants. Nothing can make us cling to conflict. If we hold on to a negative thought or anxious emotion, it’s because we still find value in it. We must see this if we want to be free.

Question: I’m frequently attacked by painful memories and regrets. I feel helpless when they come over me. What should I do?

Answer: Whenever we can remember that all dark thoughts and feelings require our consent to punish us, and that these negative states are, in themselves, literally nothing without the powers we grant them in our forgetfulness, then in this same bright moment of recalling the truth of ourselves are we made the conqueror of what would overcome us!

Question: I tend to run away from difficult situations. I’ve moved, changed jobs, changed wives, but I still feel all this pressure. What’s the answer?

Answer: When we realize the truth that there is no place on earth that can be any better or different from what “I am” when I get there, then we will no longer believe in some new destination as a solution for an old suffering. Instead we will do the interior work it takes to be where we are, for at last we have understood that the only safe haven is our own awakened state.

Real Life is change itself, a ceaseless flow of creative forces expressed in ever-new forms. So, our inability to make a fresh start isn’t because Life refuses us what we need to succeed. The problem is this: before we can hope to make a “real” new beginning in life, we must deliberately release our old claims upon it; for it is only in letting go of whatever binds us to our past that we are free to realize the promise of who we may yet be.

Letting go is an act of agreement with life; it is an accord on our part with what the present moment is telling us about ourselves as it unfolds before us — and within us — asking us what it does. And what is it that life asks of us moment to moment?

It’s simple, really. Life is always asking… Will you be a witness to my story? Will you let go of your moment in the sun of passing circumstances in order to realize that just behind it dwells a Life whose Light never fades?

Will you choose in favor of entering into a Life whose story never ends, and in which fear, failure, and falling simply do not exist?

And if we wish to answer in the affirmative to these questions, then we must realize one essential truth: whatever we see taking place before us in our life — for its joy or sorrow — need no longer be accidental.

Following are what may be called the “The Three A’s of the Peaceful Life.” Welcome them as special work reminders to let God’s will be as your own. If you will take these new intentions and inner attitudes with you into your day, then you will soon realize what it means to let go and know peace.

Work to trust in the Goodness of God’s moment, so that instead of trying to dig into it with a psychological pick-ax — hoping to extract something from it that you think you must have to be happy — allow the moment to give you what you need. Your key intention here is to “allow” God’s will.

Work to watch the whole moment as it unfolds, so that instead of focusing only on what you want to see — a self-limiting perception that separates you from all that the moment might have to show you — agree to see everything the moment reveals about you and your present life. Your key action here is to “agree” with God’s will.

Work to welcome whatever the moment brings to you, so that instead of resisting its natural seasons for fear of the passing of spring or the onset of a long winter’s night — accept the moment and let it live and die as it would. The key intention here is to “accept” God’s will as your own.

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