In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we can stop being fooled into involving ourselves with fear, worry and anxiety by remembering that there are parts of us that “love” falling into those negative states.
Click here to listen to “Choose the Path of Freedom”
Question: Most of the popular spiritual “New Age” people giving advice on how to manifest the life of your dreams, etc., are telling us that we need to imagine and dream and “think positive thoughts” to be able to manifest the life we deserve. We are told to construct “dream boards” and to feel the excitement of our desires as though they have already manifested. Can you help me understand this a little better since you teach to let go of the dream states and to not project outcomes?
Answer: There is nothing wrong with visualizing the perfect golf swing, or the way one wishes his or her patio to look like after they re-arrange plants, etc. … but when it comes to imagining one’s life, there are inherent (and painful) problems. First, if one loves something… a career or a creative hobby, there is never a problem with imagining possibilities because it’s love that is active and working to create more of itself along with what is needed to achieve that perfection. When love dreams, no one screams!
But when we start to dream of some goal or ambition because, in doing so, we want to feel good about ourselves and our future, then in such dreams live fear… because the level of self that dreams of becoming whatever it envisions, dreams what it does to escape the essential emptiness that drives it on. It creates a future for itself where it imagines its contentment, because it can’t stand being what it is without imagining a time to come when it won’t feel that way! This is a hopeless cycle for the self stuck in it, as well as for the unfortunate life that it fashions in its blindness.
In short: dreams are of the finite world; they belong to passing time… as does the level of self that believes in them, and that follows them to their eventual emptiness (and attending fear). Persist with your wish to be free; true freedom may be the only thing that’s not a dream.
Question: I am overwhelmed by thinking about what I “should” be doing in my life, yet all success training mentions the importance of goal setting. Is there a correct approach to getting the “impossible” done?
Answer: The next time you hear this inner voice of imminent doom, listen instead to this higher instruction: Never again look for a way out of any anxious condition. Proceed in spite of any thoughts or feelings that would have you believe you can’t. Success only becomes impossible when you try to deal with what isn’t in your power. Renegade parts of you want you to waste your powers dealing with them. Your misguided attention to their punishing presence gives them a life they wouldn’t have without tricking you into giving them one. This means you don’t need power to deal with what’s been defeating you, only the higher understanding it takes to consciously dismiss it from your inner life. You have that power now. Start using it. Just behind your certainty that what you have to accomplish is too much for you lies a new and conscious capability to proceed one step at a time, to accomplish one task at a time, to your satisfaction.
It isn’t our “plans” to improve ourselves that empower the changes we know are needed in our lives; it is our willingness to suffer what we must that makes good our wish, that delivers us to our intended goal.
When it comes to true success in this life — regardless of whatever world it is in which we strive for excellence — there is no greater ability than to be able to do what we don’t want to do, when we don’t want to do it, and, in all cases, to do it well.