Things go wrong in life. They just do. And sometimes downturns feel like they’ll never get back to right-side up. Life is like that. So what! What we have been given is not what makes us who we are: the true measure of our soul’s success is what we make with what we are given.
The difference between learning to consciously suffer a negative state — versus unconsciously succumbing to its darkness — is the difference between learning how to saddle a stubborn mule to carry you where you wish — or — having to carry that mule on your back wherever you may go!
Evil transforms suffering into unconscious acts of blame, bitterness, and self-pity — harmful forces that punish everyone; while the Good transforms these same dark states into conscious suffering — creating humility that heals whomever it touches.
In this short talk, Guy explains how we can reclaim our enthusiasm for life, no matter what our circumstances, when we stop resisting what we experience.
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The power of a lie is no greater than the darkness in which it is received. This means that all we need to do to see through the lies — to render the darkness powerless — is to bring that lie into the Light. This will defeat the lie’s evil intention, for a lie’s only intention is to cover up the truth. And a lie is left to do that very thing — to fulfill its dark purpose — every time we leave it unchallenged.
We must learn to say “So what!” to anything that tells us we can’t possibly get past any place in our life. This means that the Light has called us to it for its purposes, and we have chosen to fight on its side.
Gradually, we learn that the darkness has no power unless it stops us and engages us in one of its lies. When we shed light on its lies, we begin to place ourselves in the hands of a beautiful principle in which the action that we take deepens our faith. The faith in turn strengthens our action, and we begin to climb. At this point, we are given the wherewithal to deal with any situation that comes our way.
The authentic “So what!” attitude is not cynical or disdainful (as we so often hear it expressed). The “So what!” we’re talking about involves seeing the truth of things that happen inside of us. When something in us raises its head and starts carrying on, trying to get our attention, we can remember that it doesn’t matter what anything dark inside of us says. We can remember that the only voice that matters is God’s voice.
Learn, as best you can, wherever you may be in your spiritual life, to start paying attention to the voices inside of you. Awaken the awareness in you that is able to detect dark creatures telling lies. Then, consciously walk past the lies. “So what! I’m still going. I will not stop, and you will not drag me into your world. I am going to enter into the kingdom of Light and your lies cannot stop me.”
Whether immature, or naïve, or whether there’s no understanding at all . . . it makes no difference. This journey is made or lost with what is in the heart. Learn to let your heart answer those things in the darkness that want to hurt you. Do that and you will gradually find yourself making your way through the darkness and into the kingdom of Light.
Question: Would you give me some specific strategies to help me when I start to feel depression pulling at me and dragging me down?
Answer: Here are three bright new actions for you to take. Each is designed to help you bring the light you need into the present darkness of what you have yet to understand about your depressed states. Use them all together and you will soon command the very forces that once compelled you to believe that your dark states were inescapable.
1. The next time depression takes you over, think toward it instead of from it. What this means is that you are to realize in the moment of being taken over by the darkness that you are simply wrongly involved in thinking about your state from the state itself. This is exactly how negative states take us captive. See the depression as a temporary imposition instead of accepting the position the state is telling you that you must accept. Work at this. Your efforts will be rewarded.
2. In that same moment when you realize that something painful has again pressed its way into you, holding you hostage to a hated image or painful regret, here is what to do: right there, right in that Now, instead of capitulating into that familiar state of feeling yourself to be a captive of what this pain tells you that you must remember (along with all of its suggested solutions for ending the suffering), choose to remember the Light. Instead of being drawn into a struggle with that unwanted sense of conflict, complete with its cast of supporting characters drawn from your past, intentionally withdraw your attention from that stage show. And at the same time as you close the curtain on it, bring all of your reclaimed attention into the Now. Come awake to the sense of your own physical body. Observe what thoughts and feelings are pressing themselves into your awareness and, while working in the Now like this, welcome into you a conscious remembrance of the Light, of God’s Life, of the whole truth as best you understand it. Choose to remember the Light. Let it fight for you. Instead of a life of endless resistance, you will learn the timeless secret of how to replace any form of darkness with the Light you have chosen over it.
3. When you feel some kind of darkness coming over you, you must muster the courage to consciously doubt the reality of this condition, even though your feelings are powerfully trying to convince you that what you feel is true. Here is a special short poem entitled “Ten Words With the Power to Help You Walk Away From Useless Suffering”:
The “feel” is real,
But the “why” is a lie!
Let this liberating insight into the secret nature of unhappy feelings find a welcome home in you. Dare to apply its wisdom to any moment when some negative state tries to brew up a storm in you, and watch how you can make even the most stubborn sufferings disappear.