DoorMats settle for crumbs—occasional attention from someone you do a favor for, romantic involvement with someone who is “better than nothing,” bits of happy times, etc. I remember clearly how that feels. Back in my Doormat days, I got used to settling for bits and pieces of pleasure. That doesn’t make for a happy or…

With the holiday season upon us, everyone is out looking for gifts to give others. Yet it’s also important to consider the gifts you can give YOU. The greatest give you can give yourself is yourself—filled with self-love. Unfortunately, many people have a hard time giving this gift is hard and are more concerned with…

I was taught it’s nice to please people. And it is, as long as you don’t sacrifice your own needs to do it, as many of us do. Putting more into pleasing others than you do to please yourself is not being nice! It’s being a Doormat. Taking care of your needs is NOT selfish!…

I’ve always been an upbeat person and known for my smile. As a child, people liked me more because of it so even when I had nothing to smile about, my mouth automatically curved up. Even when I grew up and became a full-fledged DoorMat, my basic nature was to be cheerful. It was expected…

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