Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Giving Your Talents Away for Free

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Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™.
LOAlogoBLOGThis is post 269 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.

I’m often asked to write article for websites or to speak for free. Usually I turn them down. Why? Because I value my talent and won’t give it away. That tells the Universe I’m serious about getting paid for my writing and speaking. And I do! When you give your talents and skills that earn your livelihood away for free, you tell the Universe you don’t value them. And you’ll attract more people who don’t value them either and earn less money from them.

A musician, who I’ll call Kristen, came to me because she was doing a lot of shows but not getting paid for them. She was told that she had to pay her dues. But she had a big following that came to her shows, so the clubs were making money when she played. She didn’t understand why she only attracted performance opportunities that didn’t pay. I knew why! The Law of Attraction brought her more of what she settled for.

When she stopped accepting unpaid shows, which told the Universe, she knew her talent was worth being paid for, she began to get offered money. If you have a talent or skill related to your income, you should be paid for it, no matter who tries to guilt you out. Often, people who can’t do what you do feel entitled to get your service free. But they’re not! If you’re an auto mechanic it’s not your obligation to fix your friends’ car for free. If you’re a web designer, you don’t owe anyone a free website.

Sometimes you can barter for something they can do for you, but only if it feels equitable. Love yourself enough to value your profession as a profession, which people pay for. Of course it’s OK to help out a close family member or your best friend, IF it feels good to you. But make sure you tell The Law of Attraction you expect to be paid. I just turned down a writing opportunity because the person wouldn’t pay me what I thought I should get for the amount of work. And I could use the money. But when I got low-balled I didn’t hesitate to say “NO!”

When I hung up with the person I said, “Close one door and another one opens!”  I’m excited to see what will come along now. I expect another, better, opportunity. When you value your abilities enough to expect to get paid for them, it’s more likely you will get the money you deserve for your services.

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