Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


“I love me” Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good

Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for HowDoILoveMeCover.jpgWhen I was a DoorMat, I had no self-love and never even considered that I deserved anything better than what I had. People told me I did. So did self-help books. But I knew until I told that to me it would never sink in. As I began to feel a little self-love, I wanted to do more for me. I knew that I had to do something to reinforce that I deserved to feel good. Hmmmm…. Why not tell myself that?!

So I began to say, over and over “I deserve nice things and loving behavior that feels good!”

At first the words were empty. But I continued saying this affirmation whenever I could. It took on more power when I occasionally said it in the mirror. One day after affirming this, I did something that made me feel good, and felt good! After that the words took on even more power. The more I said it, the more conscious I was about looking for ways to feel good and avoiding situations and people that triggered negative emotions in me. This became a powerful tool for building my self-love.

Say over and over “I deserve to have nice things and loving behavior that feels good!”

Feel the words. Look in the mirror. Allow the words to motivate you to look for more ways to feel good. It might take a while but if you continue to affirm those words, eventually you’ll begin to adopt that thought as your reality. Every time you say them, you’re also saying, ” I love me!”

Take the self-love challenge and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. And you can post your loving acts HERE to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE.

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.



Previous Posts

Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” People

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to leave or mean “no” or cut visits if ignored? Decide how

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks to achieving goals are the labels you put on yourself.

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.” Having DMS (DoorMat Syndrome) made me a People Pleaser wh

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when they’re trying to manifest if something doesn’t work out

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.