Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Clear Intentions


This is my fourteenth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I feel very strongly about helping you understand how to take control of the power you have and run with it. I get so many goodies since learning how to mobilize the Law of Attraction in my favor. I am so mad for the new MacBook Pro I got last week! That wouldn’t have happened without the Law of Attraction’s support.

When I talk about using the Law of Attraction, I emphasize being clear in your intentions. Today I want to elaborate on what that means. There are so many catchwords in today’s inspirations. It took me a while to understand how to use the concepts of the Law of Attraction for my highest good. Now I do!

The Law of Attraction takes your intentions literally. It doesn’t interpret to figure out what you really want. So be as clear as possible in how you word your intentions.

Just yesterday I got an email that a musician sent to his mailing list. I know he’s very spiritual and was surprised that his message sounded negative. A radio station that had supported him had new management, and they’d stopped playing his music. He expressed concern that something he’d already taped for them wouldn’t air. If it did, it could greatly help his career. He ended by asking everyone to email the station to ask them to play his music. He sounded worried.

I wrote back suggesting he be more careful about how he phrased those kind of messages. He sounded like he didn’t expect to get the station’s support anymore, which the Law of Attraction would support. He was surprised that it had come across that way, since he did still feel faithful. I know him and believe he feels that way. But the Universe doesn’t look beyond the literal message. The Law of Attraction brings you what you put out.

Your choice of words can determine what you receive.

As a writer, I’m very conscious about how they can make a big difference in how your message is perceived. Clear intentions are specific and direct. Most people don’t have them. It takes thought and care to create the most powerful mindset to attract what you want. You might think you’re being clear, and then wonder why you got something else.

“I will” is more definite than “I hope to.” The first attracts what you will do. The second keeps you hopeful.

Be clear about what you want. Don’t just pray for a job—be specific about how you’d intend to use your skills. Or write down details of what kind of work would make you happy. If you’re not sure exactly what you want, whether it’s a job, romantic partner, new location, etc., ask for what’s best for your highest good. Often the hardest part of getting what you want is figuring out what exactly that is. Ask for help with that too! Pay attention to how your thoughts affect what you receive. It’s important to hone your desires and add as many details as you can.

Write down your intention and see if you’ve made yourself very clear.

A perfect example of the importance of being specific is a couple I know named Kevin and Kimberly. Kimberly moved from Rochester, NY to New York City. In her prayers, her intention was to marry a man from Rochester. When she met Kevin in church, they knew they were meant to be together. Kimberly laughed when she said she believes her Lord has a sense of humor. She got what she asked for—Kevin was from Rochester. But she wasn’t specific – he was from Rochester, MN! Seventeen years later she’s glad she left that part to God. They have a wonderful marriage and kids so it all worked out.

If you’d prefer to get EXACTLY what you want, express it ALL!

* If you don’t want the job offer you want come to you from a city you absolutely don’t want to live in, intend to get the job where you want to live.

* If you don’t want to meet a romantic partner who drinks too much, doesn’t want kids when you do, works the opposite hours as you, or any other incompatibility that matters to you, spell out what you do want.

* If you don’t want to get an opportunity that isn’t conducive to your schedule, or to find the perfect apartment at a rent you can’t afford or to get a ton of publicity but it’s bad, pay attention to what you ask for and how.

If you’re not attracting what you want, monitor your thoughts and tailor your words to direct the Law of Attraction to exactly what you want. That gives you the best chance of receiving it. Put it out clearly and expect to see results. The power is in YOUR hands, and in YOUR words!

Law of Attraction in Action Series
Law of Attraction in Action: Concrete Use of This Power
Law of Attraction in Action: Service People
Law of Attraction in Action: Kindness
Law of Attraction in Action: Easing Your Way to Joy
Law of Attraction in Action: Smiling in Your Mirror of Other People
Law of Attraction in Action: Age
Law of Attraction in Action: Who Are You?
Law of Attraction in Action: Revenge
Law of Attraction in Action: Too Blessed to Be Stressed
Law of Attraction in Action: Recovering Your Health

Law of Attraction in Action: Respect
Law of Attraction in Action: Miracles Part 1
Law of Attraction in Action: Miracles Part 2

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  • Char

    I’ve actually had situations like Kimberly and Kevin where I put a desire out without clarifying some important things. And I got what I thought of was wrong. Now I see how I must think everything through and define all the peripherals of my intentions.

  • http://www.etsy.com/people/ellenhowardhandmade?ref=si_pr Ellen Howard

    I have been studying the law of attraction for almost a year. I am learning and it’s all good. I’m looking forward to recieving all that I need and desire. Very good points that you have made about being specific.

    I also think it’s important to feel good with ones intentions. If thoughts or intentions creat anxiety then a block gets in the way of the manefestation.

    I have so much to say but it feels negative so I’ll stop for now.

    Enjoying, Ellen

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