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Secrets, Lies, & Porn in the Church: A Q&A with “Permission to Speak Freely” Author Anne Jackson

posted by Jana Riess

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Christian women might be addicted to porn? Pastors can be sexual predators? Evangelical teens are cutting themselves?

Such are the revelations in Anne Jackson’s newest book, Permission to Speak Freely: Essays and Art on Fear, Confession, and Grace. It’s a beautifully designed collection that pairs Jackson’s own story of brokenness  with art and notes from readers of her website: postcards, post-its and scribbles confessing the secrets they feel they could never tell other people at church. Flunking Sainthood talks with Jackson about the book and her own journey.

Flunking Sainthood: When I first looked through your book my thought was, “This is postsecret.com for Christians.” So this book gathers the confessions that people have sent to you?

Anne Jackson: Honestly (and since this book is about confession, I think honesty is the best policy, right?) my biggest fear as the concept for Permission to Speak Freely developed was that it would come across as a “Postsecret for Christians.” I had a friend and mentor in the publishing industry suggest the idea to me, without him knowing the idea had already crossed my mind. I told him, “I don’t want to be the Christian knock-off of something!” He asked me what was more important: What people thought about the book, or the message behind it? Obviously, I care about the message of the book – discovering, confessing, and healing our lives’ broken spaces in community – more than I care about it being a “knock off” of another book or concept. I’ve been a Postsecret fan for years, so it definitely inspired some of the reader-generated artwork and submission, but I hope that people will take to heart the story that’s written in the book and allow the art to contribute to its overall message.

FS: What were the top three most common confessions that people sent to you for your website? And what’s the common thread to their experiences?

Jackson: I’m not sure if there were any two confessions that were identical, but the top three themes dealt with addiction, sex, and self-harm. It took months for me to process through the hundreds of confessions before I discovered their common denominator: brokenness. When something is broken in an area of our life, our community, or our world, we want to cover it up. We want to hide. We become afraid and ashamed – and we allow that shame to drive us into a fear-based silence.

FS: This book explores your own story of vulnerability, including a sexual relationship you had with a youth pastor when you were still a teenager. Was it difficult to share that story?

Jackson: It is incredibly difficult for me to go back and read those essays. For years after the abuse happened, I repressed it, and didn’t even recognize it as abuse. I just thought it was a relationship gone badly. Considering it has only been within the last three to five years that I have truly faced the abuse for what it was, my stomach still gets tied in knots thinking about it. Knowing this man is still a pastor terrifies me. However, I know I have forgiven him and have taken the appropriate steps I needed to for justice. I pray that he has found his hope and purpose in life and that his past has become a story of redemption. And that’s all I can do.

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FS: One of your book’s most surprising revelations is that you were addicted to pornography for years–you were managing a Christian bookstore by day, then secretly binging on porn at night online. How did you overcome your porn addiction?

Jackson: Even though I was managing a Christian bookstore, my faith in God was practically non-existent. I think subconsciously because of my upbringing, I was still very aware of values and morals and that’s why I experienced the occasional guilt with my habits. After a few years of the addiction controlling my online life, and beginning to affect my life offline as well – meeting men and becoming physically involved with them – whether I believed in God or not, to me at that time, was moot. Anything that had as much control over my life as this addiction did could not be healthy. I took my computer, the root of it all, and dropped it off at the dumpster outside my apartment. Over time, I began opening my heart back up to my faith and to healing. Friends I could trust surrounded me and became my allies in fighting…and those friends still have my back.

FS: After all these painful experiences, how have you managed to hang on to faith in God?

Jackson: My faith is certainly not as stable or constant as I’d like it to be. I’m a highly emotional person and sometimes allow my emotions to affect how I feel about God or how I trust him. In times that are dark and God seems far [away], I look for him in small ways – the innocent laughter of a child on an airplane, the way the rain falls down through tree branches, the aroma of honeysuckle as I ride my bike down the Natchez Trace, and through the love of friends who have carried me through the darkest times of my life. God is not usually a burning bush in my life. He’s usually a very quiet whisper. And he never shows up too early…but he’s also never late, either.

FS: You say in the book that “many times we keep our secrets hidden not only because we fear rejection and being alone, but also because we fear change.” What do you mean by that?

Jackson: Sometimes when we are afraid to confess an area of brokenness or sin in our lives, we know the changes we need to make. Recently, I was talking with a friend who was in a romantic relationship with somebody who had very different beliefs. My friend knew the relationship needed to end, despite the affection and friendship that had developed. It takes courage to make changes like this. It takes courage to say, “I need help” and to be vulnerable and accept advice from people who may be wiser than you are. It takes courage to die to ourselves so we can become fully alive in a love and hope and freedom that only come when we do push our pride away.

FS: One last question. Do you think Protestants might be more vulnerable to secret-keeping because there is so little church tradition of confession?

Jackson: As a former Protestant – now Anglican – I can definitely see how this practice of confession within a church service has profoundly affected me. Each Sunday I am in church, I hear my community confess around me one prayer, asking for forgiveness for things we have done and for things we have left undone. We follow this with a time of silence for our own private confession and then are reminded that through Christ, we are made new. After this, we take the Eucharist. Each week it’s the same. One would think it would become ritualistic and mundane; however, I find when I miss a service because of travel I find myself missing the liturgy and that element of our service.



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Lazarus

posted September 15, 2010 at 12:20 pm


“As a former Protestant – now Anglican…”
Anglicans *are* Protestants.



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Anne Jackson

posted September 15, 2010 at 1:26 pm


Not to nitpick, but…not really: http://www.christchurchanglican.org/ang_topix/protestant.html for some context.
And more specifically, I meant the typical Evangelical Protestant church.
Hope that helps clarify.



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Anonymous

posted September 15, 2010 at 1:47 pm


Not to be nit picky, but the computer was not the root of her pornography and sex addiction. Her shame was. I say this as someone who is recovering from sex addiction myself and have seen far too many people – especially those in the church – blame the ‘evil’ internet or computers or porn magazine printers for addictions. It isn’t the method of acting out that is the ‘root’ of the problem, that’s just a symptom. Addressing the real roots – the shame and unhealthy coping skills that have developed – is what saved my life and allowed me to come to any sort of recovery.



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Jana Riess

posted September 15, 2010 at 2:37 pm


I never knew about the whole Anglican-Protestant debate until a few months ago when I was editing a book by an Episcopal priest who made the distinction that there are four main bodies of Christianity (Catholic, Protestant, Anglican, and Orhodox). Huh? That was not the Holy Trinity of denominationalismI had learned about in grad school. I was taught that Anglicans were Protestants, dating back to Henry the Eighth, may his head be ever severed.
However, I did some research and discovered a whole tradition of people who don’t consider people in the Anglican communion to be Protestants — not surprisingly, some of these in history were evangelical Christians who believed that Anglicans were too “popish” to be considered Protestants. But some were Anglicans themselves, people who believed that their tradition was not quite Protestant and not quite Catholic, and that it deserved a designation all its own.
There doesn’t seem to be a definitive historical consensus on this. But isn’t it great that we never stop learning!



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Anne Jackson

posted September 15, 2010 at 3:50 pm


Anonymous,
I agree. The computer was not the root of my issues – my brokenness was. However as a 21 year old girl who was scared, shameless, and clueless even of the depth of the darkness in me, it was a moment of desperation to rid what I perceived to be the cause. And not having a computer for years to follow is something that helped me move into a life of recovery. Looking back, it was one of many mediums I used to medicate myself.



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DMc

posted September 15, 2010 at 9:46 pm


The whole protestant non-protestant debate is never ending. It all depends on what side of the fence you inhabit. A Baptist friend strongly informed me he was not a Protestant but a Pre-eminent. He believed his dogma pre-dated Catholicism. When I questioned his line of authority he said the existence of the Bible proved Baptist Pre-eminence. I did not wish to offend my friend so I did not take it any further. However, I do understand the reasons for thinking Anglicans are not Protestant. There is a great deal of gray area in this debate.



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Nancy

posted October 3, 2010 at 7:23 pm


High Anglicans tend to say they’re not Protestant.
Low Anglicans tend to say they’re Protestant.



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Gail O

posted October 4, 2010 at 8:47 am


As a Presbyterian, I also find the weekly Confession of Sin very comforting and renewing. It is both a reminder that we are sinners and that by Grace we are saved.



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