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Ron and Barb came to see me for a problem with their teen, but as they discussed the problem, I could tell within a  half hour that their marriage wasn’t happy. How did I know. I watched, listened and counted the number of negative […]

“We need to talk.”It might seem obvious, but people don’t do it. When you have a problem in your relationship, talk to the person in the relationship, not to your friends, family or others. Talk to the person in the relationship. […]

When John and Sue began to argue over a conflict involving parenting, Sue’s mom physically put herself between the two. She then quoted Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God.” Both spouses […]

Most of us have gone through difficult times with a family member, a loved one, a co-worker or even a boss. Some of you might even be on the brink of losing a relationship. But don’t give up hope. Instead, […]

Bill and Ann need to stop inflicting pain on each other. Both suffer physical side effects from their unhappy marriage. They don’t listen to each other or a therapist because they are so physiologically aroused. Their emotions overtake them. They […]

Jack left work late, didn’t call his wife and missed the school meeting. When he finally arrived home, he looked at his wife and said, “Don’t start. I’ve had a lousy day!” No apology. He walked away and his wife was angry! Not […]

John and Mary had a fight. It was intense and neither is speaking to each other. Their relationship is suffering. Can they fix this? Both said some awful things and now feelings are hurt. They aren’t talking. But, they can fix […]

Jill was fed up with her mom. Her solution? Cut off the relationship so she could be her own person. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “I don’t want to talk to my family (substitute anyone else here). […]

When Sharon talked to me, she was at her wits end with her friend, Ann. Ann is moody, unstable and easily upset. When Ann is upset, she has an intensity that makes Sharon uncomfortable. Ann’s angry outbursts often result in […]

Mary and Bill are arguing again. Mary hates how she feels when conflict happens. She wants to retreat, run or hide, or simply  avoid. Too often, she chooses to avoid, but is this a good idea? For the most part, […]