Let me explain. I’m reading this story in USA Today about the feds dropping the appeal over the morning after pill. A court has ordered the Department of Justice to comply with the sale of the morning-after pill to girls of any age without a prescription. Once the FDA receives the new drug application from the makers of the pill, it plans to approve it promptly.
Whether you agree or disagree with this decision, it is the language involved in reporting that really bothers me. If you agree that young girls should have access to the pill at any age without parental notice, you are an advocate for girls and women. And if you think young girls should involve their parents in their medical care, you oppose “reproductive justice.”
Supporters of all access for the pill cry out for “absolute rights” for all women.
So, do school children have “absolute rights” to refuse vaccinations required by law to attend public schools? What if those girls don’t want a doctor controlling their body by giving them a shot? And if my minor child decides she wants breast implants, should she have an “absolute right” to have that procedure without parent permission? I know that sounds absurd, but so do these arguments.
For most parents, the issue is about knowing what is happening to their child’s health for whom they are responsible. This is common sense, not politics!
I would never want my minor daughter involved in any medical procedure or medication without my guidance. She is still under my care, and I am responsibility for her health care. If something goes wrong or there is a side effect, is the federal government going to come to the clinic and provide her care? No, it will be the parents who are expected to deal with the fall out, but have none of the information. If I neglect my daughter’s health care, I can be hauled into court. Honestly, I see allowing girls to get over the counter prescriptions as a form of neglect. No physician is overseeing their care and this is not a best practice. No one is attending to the emotional issues involved in having sex, becoming pregnant and making decisions about the life of a child–this is neglect of the mental health of a person. And you can’t tell me otherwise because I have treated far too many women who made these type of decisions at a young age and admit they wished they had guidance, someone to talk to about their decisions (not a clinic), and more realistic options.
Bottom line, people are not opposing women just because they want some supervision over the health care of minor children. Stop turning these decisions into some kind of political agenda about womens’ rights! How about if we get really radical and consider the health of our children! Just once, I would like to read about an issue where the medical facts, the psychological and spiritual implications are presented without over the top rhetoric. There is no real dialogue about issues like this because the opposition is vilified.
Ann Higgins, director of the councils’ Center for Human Dignity, responded to the lifting of the appeal by saying this was a good move because it put the health and safety of women over politics. I couldn’t disagree more. Involving parents and physicians is putting the health and safety of young girls first and is NOT a political issue–it’s a health and safety issue.
But if the health and safety issue comes down on the wrong side of the political argument, get ready, you are labeled anti-women!
It’s June. Wedding month!
OK this is crazy. The average cost of a wedding today is around $26,000 to $28,400 according to a recent article in USA TODAY. And it appears that the bride and groom are picking up more of the costs. But is this cost worth it?
In my opinion, NO!
Why begin a marriage accruing such debt? Or why use money for a wedding that could go a long way on a downpayment of a house, a car or something you need to go about life?
Just because we can, doesn’t mean we should!
So here are a few tips, tried and true from my own wedding experience to keep the costs down.
1) Keep your guest list reasonable. Have your closest friends and don’t invite everyone possible.
2) Consider another day. Friends of mine are getting married on a Sunday. Another picked a Friday night. Venues are cheaper when you avoid the popular days and times.
3) If you know you are getting married, shop all year and shop at thrift stores. My daughter-in-law to be found lots of items at pawn shops, thrift shops or on Craig’s list. Think about it. What do people do with left over wedding items–Craig’s list!
4) Do it yourself–as much as possible. We saved money by tearing down our own venues, borrowing items from friends, making decorations,etc.
5) You may like the show, Say Yes to the Dress, but it should be titled, Say Yes to Expense! You can find bargain wedding gowns with a little digging. I saw a stunning gown the other day at a JCrew Factory clearance outlet. I bought my own gown for pennies because it had a small thread pull in the train. No one could see it but the price dropped ridiculously low.
6) Raid your friends gardens for flowers or go seasonal. Right now, a friend of mine has peonies blooming like wild fire. These would be stunning on tables at a wedding reception. Consider?
7) Offer to help your friends and they will help you. So much can be done when friends pitch in to help. I’ve help others and now they are helping me. It’s a win-win!
8) Bake your own desserts. Ahead of time, you can bake the goodies, freeze and use them. A friend of mine did this and saved tremendously on the cost of desserts. Or maybe a friend would do this as a wedding gift!
9) Bargain and negotiate. I was surprised at how much discount I could get when I negotiated rather than just accept the price offered.
10) Use on-line printers for invitations and print materials. In my experience, you can find great bargains this way.
Bottom, line, you can cut the costs tremendously and start your married life with a little more cash in the pocket.
Sounds crazy, but the DSM V (The Bible of mental disorders) qualifies caffeine intoxication as a mental disorder.
Do a quick check: Are you…
___Having gastrointestinal upset
___Experiencing irregular heart rate
All signs of caffeine intoxication. And if these symptoms cause you distress and impact your daily functioning, get the number of a therapist.
Time to detox and be ready for the headache, fatigue, concentration problems and irritability that may follow.
Caffeine intoxication can happen with about 2.5 cups of coffee (above 250mg).
You may be thinking, really, this is ridiculous, but when you consider that caffeine is inserted in many of our foods, this is a real issue. And to me, this is the story.
It’s one think for me to drink 2 cups of coffee and know I better watch my intake, but another to be completely unaware of the foods that contain caffeine.
Caffeine can be found in all kinds of foods like potato chips, sunflower seeds, beef jerky, gummy bears, marshmallows, and gum. So check labels, especially if you have children. Too much caffeine is not good for anyone and may even land you in a therapist office.