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Doing Life Together

Two Things That Will Keep You From Overeating

posted by Linda Mintle

You sit down to eat a meal. Your tablecloth is black and your dish is white. Does this make a difference in how much you eat?

Or your dinnerware is cream color and you are eating white pasta with cream sauce. Does the lack of a color contrast on your plate make a difference in how much you eat?

The answer to both questions is YES, according to a study in the Journal of Consumer Research involving 200 people age 18-39.

The researchers found that when the color contrast between the dinnerware and the food was low, participants served themselves more food. But when the color contrast was high–add a green sauce to the pasta–the serving sized reduced.So if you want to eat less, make the colors of the food on your plate a bright contrast to your dinnerware!

Second, when food was served on a plate that contrasted greatly with the underlying tablecloth, the opposite was found. The great contrast led participants to serve more food.  Remove the contrast and you will eat less!

Hey, if we want to eat less, these are easy fixes!

 

 

For more help to eat with intention, get a copy of Dr. Mintle’s book, Press Pause Before You Eat.

Do I Need a Christian Therapist?

posted by Linda Mintle

Question: I’ve got marital problems. I feel down all the time. Nothing seems to be working in my life. Maybe I need to get some professional help. But how do I pick a therapist? Do I need to see a Christian or will any good therapist do?

Dr. Linda: You need a well-trained Christian therapist who has good relationship and clinical skills. Here’s why? The world-view of a therapist makes a difference. You need someone who understands your faith and can guide you from a biblical perspective. Someone who is not familiar with your faith is at a disadvantage in directing you to health.

Therapy is not value free.  While therapists are trained to respect the values of their clients and work from the client’s worldview, it is impossible to be totally neutral when it comes to values. A therapist’s belief system matters. And in couple work, we have data that shows that when a therapist is neutral or negative about marriage, there is a higher rate of divorce.

A Christian therapist integrates faith with psychological principles, something a non-Christian therapist cannot do. Your faith is a source of power, a lens from which you view the world and relationships. Faith is integral in healing.

You are the consumer of therapy services.  It is perfectly appropriate to ask a practice or insurance company to give referrals for Christian therapists. You can also check with local churches and professional organizations like The American Association of Christian Counselors for possible referrals.  Don’t be afraid to ask. It’s vital to work with someone who understands how to integrate faith with everyday living.

Be specific when you ask about faith. Many therapists say they are “spiritual” but that covers a wide variety of religions.  Here’s an example.

A Christian woman called and wanted to see me in therapy. I didn’t have an opening and she was desperate for help. When I checked with my regular referrals, no one had room to take a new client. One of my colleagues told me she was available.  She called herself Christian but also believed in using astrology and other eastern religions.  I knew she had previously sent patients to psychics so I politely declined her offer. The young women referred specifically requested a born again Christian therapist and did not believe in psychics or astrology. Even though the therapist had good credentials and training, she would have not been a good match.

The point is you need to find someone whose values are compatible with yours. Be assertive. You want the right guidance. So much of what you do in therapy involves the way you think and believe. Someone with different views and values can create more problems than good. Look for the right therapist. The best way to find a good Christian therapist is through word of mouth. Personal referral is usually a great start to finding a good therapist.  Ask around and get started!

The Secret to Being Content

posted by Linda Mintle

Self-sufficiency was considered a virtue in Greek culture. The Greek word for content, autarkes, means to be self-sufficient or independent. However, the Bible offers a different view of this concept than the Stoic philosophers of biblical days. The Stoics believed that contentment was reached by being resigned to one’s situation. It was a term that referred to total indifference, a sort of ancient version of WHATEVER!

The Apostle Paul’s discussion of contentment in Philippians 4 had nothing to do with Stoic indifference. His contentment was rooted in his faith. The deep joy he felt while in jail came through his relationship with God and His goodness in all that happened. Paul’s union in Christ, God in Him and with Him, was the secret to being content.

Paul could rejoice in trials because of the fruit they bore and the strength and courage that resulted, not because he had some twisted need to suffer. His words to us regarding being content in any situation are backed up by his own difficult and glorious experiences in life. God strengthened him to persevere during difficult and thrive during abundance. He came to understand that contentment was learned through his relationship with God, not through his circumstances. Paul never complained that he was a victim of circumstances. He did not worry because he knew God would supply all his needs. That is why he tells us that he could be content with much or little–a striking contrast to our present day thinking.

 

Except from Letting Go of Worry, Harvest House, 2011. Click here to order.

Web Exclusive: I Love My Mother But..

posted by Linda Mintle

Dr. Linda Mintle sat down with Canadian TV host, Moira Brown, from 100 Huntley Street and discussed one of her recent books, I Love My Mother But…The interview is  a little over 14 minutes long but is a great recap of what is important in making mother-daughter relationships strong. Watch the interview here:

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