Why I Hated the Movie “Courageous”

On Friday night, I went to see the premiere of Courageous, the new movie from Christian filmmakers Alex & Stephen Kendrick (the team behind Facing the Giants and Fireproof). I hadn’t seen either of those films, and am not generally interested in purely faith-based films, for reasons of quality and for reasons of not wanting to be preached at. But I went to see Courageous. Why? Two reasons:


1. It’s about fatherhood, and I’m kind of interested in that. :)

2. Our date-night friends suggested it and we like hanging out with them.

A quick review: Courageous is too long by about 30 minutes and too preachy by whatever amount you can quantify preachiness. It started and ended with two intense, well-shot and -staged action sequences. Good edge-of-your-seat stuff. In the lengthy middle, it had a couple of moments that were funny enough to have the whole audience laughing. These comedic set pieces were clearly there to balance out a very serious story line, and often occurred (a bit ham-handedly) right after the really sad, emotional parts. But there were too many weird subplots, too many easy resolutions of complex problems, and there was far too much emotional manipulation. Because despite the uplifting you-need-to-be-a-selfless dad message — which I can totally support — this was a sad, sad movie. Regardless of your gender, it was a total weeper.



I’M SERIOUS. Stop reading if you haven’t seen it or don’t want a major plot point spoiled.

It’s handled tastefully and occurs off-screen, but a child dies in this movie. A main character. It is heart-wrenching. Look, something distinct happened in me when I became a dad — it was like a switch turned on — and suddenly I had a very real and intense aversion to small children experiencing discomfort or danger, whether real or implied. I can’t handle it. I don’t want to see it. I don’t want to think about it. I go to movies to escape and enjoy myself and there is no happy resolution on earth that can offset my dislike of a film in which bad things happen to children and we are forced to experience its effect on their parents. I hated Courageous for that reason, because it killed off a child and force us to wallow in the resulting grief.


There have to be ways to convince us not to be bad fathers without subjecting us to that.

Last week, Rod Dreher wrote a blog post called “The Conservatism of Parenting” about how having children twelve years ago had caused “a sharp and unexpected change” in his film-watching habits. A former professional film critic, he suddenly was unable to watch violence or sexually explicit material on-screen:

This was something very new. I was an observant Catholic and a conservative in every sense prior to the baby’s coming, but I was able to hold film violence at an ironic distance. Suddenly, I felt it in my bones in a way I had never done. Why? I think it was the simple fatherly act of holding my newborn son close every day, and experiencing how unbelievably fragile human life is. Watching its wanton violation, seeing the terrible abuse of the human body and the graphic murder of human beings, was literally intolerable to me. It wasn’t that I became indignant about it; it was that I literally could not watch it.


I totally get what he’s saying. I’ve never been a big fan of violent or sexually explicit movies to begin with, so that wasn’t a big change. My change was suddenly experiencing an extreme amount of discomfort in watching something traumatic happen to a helpless child. Even the suggestion of it in a movie or TV show sets me on edge. I can tell myself “It’s just a movie” all day long, but that stuff sticks with me in a way that nothing else does. I don’t want to see a family grieve their child’s death in the same way I don’t want to see explicit violence. Because it sickens me.

Which is to say, I can’t recommend Courageous. Yes, it’s decently made, if manipulative and melodramatic. Yes, it’s got a positive and timely message, but it ends in an altar call. Literally. It has too much going on, too much stilted dialogue, and for all its emphasis on the duty of fathers (good!), it practically ignores mothers (weird).


And it’s a hard, hard film for any parent to watch. If you need a good cry, then by all means go see it. If you need a reason to run home and hug your children, then by all means go watch it. But if you can’t handle that kind of stuff, like me, then let me summarize the film’s message for you and spare you the heartache:

Dads, your kids need you to be present in their lives. You only have them for a short while, so if your daughter asks you to dance with her, you need to do it. If your son wants you to go run with him, you learn to love running. Find a way to spend time with your kids because they rely on you more than you know. Don’t be selfish. Don’t work so much. Don’t ignore them. And above all, don’t underestimate the influence — positive or negative — of a father.

If you’ve seen the film, do you agree or disagree with me? Am I off-base on this?

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David Newman

posted January 17, 2016 at 10:22 am

Thank you for your review.. unlike you I don’t mind a bit of self analysis , rather I look for it, for I acknowledge I need work and a GOOD movie has me reflect on just that.

Amazing how a movie can be totally absorbed in the role of a mother.. Yet when the focus is on the father… well , just ain’t politically nor feminist(if you don’t understand what this really represents ) -ically acceptable for many.. So sad..

I loved the movie and encourage all men with the guts to look at their failings to go see it..

It , in my humble opinion, owes much of its observations and ideals .. back to the ‘Million Man March’ . One of the bravest gathering in recent history…

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James Church

posted January 10, 2016 at 12:00 pm

Thanks for your review. I personally enjoyed courageous and thought the dialogue was improved on previous Kendrick Brothers films. I agree that the focus on fathers does leave the film feeling slightly unbalanced, but I think that’s understandable because fatherlessness is a more common social problem. The off-screen death did upset me but I didn’t feel it was gratuitous and it was sensitively done. I would warn someone who had experienced the loss of a child, or a young relative to be prepared for that theme. On the whole though I felt the preachy bit was the most helpful because it pointed me back to life and to the roles I play and the importance of them for others. However, I personally take the opinion that preaching should be emotionally stirring and for positive change in the life of a person. It’s not I would say this was a life affirming film and I would commend it to others. It’s not Ghandi or even Freedom Writers, but it’s got an important message that hits perhaps closer to home.

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posted May 2, 2015 at 5:16 pm

Courageous is a great movie. To all the people that don’t understand it need to watch it again,again and watch it! It’s not about mother’s, it about father’s and faith in God. it maybe long but it has to be to make the point across. This is the real world things happen for a reason because it’s Gods plan to open your eyes! Have faith in God and GOD BLESS YOU ALL LOVES YOU EVEN IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN HIM ! Also the girl that die was showing that you should take the a moment God gives and don’t take anything for granted. The other point of that was that was he wasn’t taking the time for his son until the girls death. Always keep the faith!!!
I’m a mother and I understand it.

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posted February 22, 2015 at 12:09 pm

I have not seen the movie yet, but I completely disagree with Jason. I saw the previews and understood why the child died.The child died because
the dad left his son out and spent more time with his daughter. There is one thing I do agree with, it could be hard to se a inisent child die.

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Lois Jadot

posted January 7, 2015 at 3:54 pm

The movie is an excellent and powerful statement, regardless of anyone’s faith. Even for atheists and agnostics. One of the reasons kids – and especially boys – get into gangs or turn to crime and violence is because we are increasingly a society of absentee fathers (whether it’s a father working all the time to put food on the table, or a deadbeat dad who has 15 kids by 15 different women, or a divorce situation where, for whatever reason, the father isn’t involved in the child’s life). Boys need a father figure to TEACH them how to be men…good men; how to be husbands; how to be fathers themselves. Mothers can tell a boy how he SHOULD be, but father figures SHOW a boy how to be a man. Children learn more from example, not from people “telling” them. A single mom trying to raise a son without a father…there are THOUSANDS of men involved in mentoring programs to help young boys and men grow to become outstanding men of integrity, kindness, compassion, generosity… The Big Brother program, for one. Nearly every church has men in it who would be willing to take time with a child, to give them a father figure. Single mothers, you don’t have to do this alone! Whether the church has an organized program or it’s just an unspoken offer, I guarantee some good man would love to guide your son or daughter as a good father would. Hundreds of police forces, sheriff departments, any law enforcement agency have wonderful men in them who would gladly mentor a child. A boy needs to have a man (and it doesn’t have to be his father) to show him how to shave for the first time; how to treat other people respectfully; how to command respect simply with your actions; that you don’t have to resort to violence or crime to deal with a situation. A boy needs a good man to teach HIM how to be a good man. And a young girl needs a good man to teach her that SHE is worthy of a good man; that real men don’t talk with their fists; that SHE doesn’t allow verbal or physical abuse and how to deal with it if it ever occurs. Children don’t accidentally grow up to be good citizens. No matter how hellish that person’s childhood was, WITHOUT EXCEPTION, at some point in that person’s life, they can tell you where someone said or did something that became the defining moment for their future. It might have been one random act of kindness; one pat on the back from someone they respected; or a parent figure who took time to be an example for that person. That’s what “Courageous” is all about…today’s adult generation taking the responsibility to set a good example for the next. As for those people who commented on how they felt like it manipulated their feelings, well…duh…I challenge you to name one single movie, book, TV show, news broadcast, or documentary that HASN’T manipulated your emotions. That’s the point to form of communication. Comedies manipulate you sense of humor; dramas manipulate how invested you get into the lives of the characters; horror movies manipulate your fear factor. Need I go on? I’m manipulating how you feel right now. You either identify with what I’m saying, or you’re closing your mind because you don’t agree with me. A good story, whether fiction or news, lives or dies by how well it manipulated your emotions. The loss of the daughter was THE defining moment in her father’s life, and how he chose to react caused a ripple of defining moments in the lives of people he touched, and the MOVIE was a defining mement in thousands of viewers’ lives… You very obviously manipulated the emotions of the readers of your review. I encourage you to watch “Courageous” again and not focus on the death of the daughter, but on the admirable way the father (and the rest of the family) finally learned to cope with her death. The father grieved horribly, he had a crisis of faith, he was angry at God and the world, but he had good people helping him when he was ready to accept it, and he took his beloved daughter’s death and not only made himself a better man, but through mostly example he changed thousands of lives so that THEY didn’t have to lose a loved one to realize they’d been lacking in their relationships. Yes, he got up and spoke at church, but he was courageous in making that public promise, in publicly admitting to his flaws and what was in his heart, to using the words in the Bible to redefine the man and father he had chosen to be (in a world that increasingly smirks at and avoids any reference to a Devine Creator and His Son). Courageous is the adjective that describes how he dealt with his longtime friend who was stealing and selling crack; how the Hispanic father dealt with the boss who was testing him (and, yes, those kinds of tests happen all the time in the workplace); how the young officer who had fathered a child but never got to know her contacted the mother and started taking responsibility as a father; how the black cop literally risked his life to stop the carjacker who had his baby in the car, and then later reached out to the fatherless boy who was on the path to violence and crime. This movie was about SO much more than the death of a child. Would ANY of the plot been believable if she had just, for instance, broken her leg? Would you have been ok with it if the writers had given her some ghastly disease? Death happens. Unspeakable things happen. Regardless of anyone’s faith or lack thereof, do you know anyone who “realized” they needed to drastically change their life when things were good and life was sweet? With more than six decades of living it under my belt, I can tell you that “Life” is a continuous cycle of crises. You are either entering a crisis, you’re in the middle of one, or you are recovering from one. The amount of “sweet life” you have depends directly on how you choose to deal with each facet of each crisis. Take a look at that movie again and stay open to the multitude of positive messages it imparts. Those people who do will walk away a better person, and they now have the tools to pay it forward. I do hope you never have to learn those messages the way the men in the movie did.

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posted June 21, 2014 at 4:27 pm

Hey Jason,

I don’t know you as you don’t know me, but I can understand your objections to this movie. I myself love action movies and movie violence does noting to me. But when they mess with kids even when I know it is a movie it hurts.

I like you because you still leave on all the comments of people who heartily disagree with you, some even shout is out in caps.

The message of this movie is good, what great. But just like you I thought it to be a bit much on preaching, but hey I don’t go to church so I can handle it in this movie. I have had my portion for them coming weeks or maybe even months, lol.

God bless you and your loved ones. And thanks for your opinion.

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posted June 5, 2014 at 12:43 pm

Mr. Boyett, I agree with every blogger that disagreed with your comments about “Courageous”. That said, I am not going to repeat the many outstanding comments they made in defense of “Courageous”. Together they articulated my thoughts much better than I could do. I am a Christian and about three years ago I started volunteering at a local men’s prison to do a weekly Christian Bible Study. I only have two hours for the Bible study so the technique I use is to show half of a movie and then do about an hour of Bible study and then the next time show the second half of the movie and an hour Bible study. I rotate various Christian based movies along with “Courageous” including “Flywheel”, “Facing the Giants”, “Fireproof”, “Grace Card” and others. There are approximately 450 inmates in the prison and I average about 35 inmates attending in each session with their ages somewhere between 20 and 60.
“Courageous” comes into the rotation about every four months so I have shown the movie about nine times to over 300 inmates. Most of them were on drugs, have had numerous encounters with police, come from fatherless homes, many of them have children, many are divorced and their families are in a state of disarray. Of all of the people that should “hate” this movie are those inmates! After every showing of “Courageous” EVERYONE is clapping and many are weeping. Of all those showings to over 300 inmates not one, I repeat not one, has said anything about the negative comments you mentioned. All of them are appreciative of the movie and the Bible study afterward and say both will have a great impact on their lives when they get out of prison. When I leave the prison around 9:15pm to make my hour drive home, my adrenaline is so high from the positive impact I receive from those inmates that I have a hard time going to sleep when I get home. There is no doubt in my mind that the Holy Spirit gives me as much or more from those inmates than they receive from me. I thank God for allowing me to be a Christian Bible Study volunteer at the prison.

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posted April 24, 2014 at 11:05 am

What does too preachy even mean? I guess the Apostle Paul was too preachy? Peter? James? John? I don’t understand. Aren’t we supposed to preach the good news?

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posted April 20, 2014 at 4:35 am

A very good, very educative, eye opening, the voice of our children. I STAND UP TO BE COURAGEOUS!I Need the transcript especially of the last scene, someone can help me? Thanx to All who support our movie!

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posted December 11, 2013 at 3:54 am

Well I feel sorry for you because you deny the true state of your heart. You have a witness in your heart about what is right to do but you put up a front supposedly showing boldness and political correctness. My friend, please evaluate your life properly and don’t waste it. It takes a life with Jesus to do things right and keep to resolutions. Seek Him today and hand over the affairs of your life to him.
Courageous was a very very good and inspiring movie.
God bless you

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posted November 17, 2013 at 4:36 pm

If you’re not a Believer then you wouldn’t understand this film at all. It was supposed to be a wake-up call to Christian men to be the fathers and spiritual leaders that God expects them to be. The emphasis is on the father, not the mother, because men are supposed to be the head of the house in every way. Christian men completely understand the message of this movie and so do their families.

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posted October 30, 2013 at 11:24 pm

excellent analysis

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posted October 6, 2013 at 12:37 am

Courageous is by far one of the best movies I have ever seen, and every human being should watch it when they are old enough to understand it. So many grown boys think age or some trivial action makes them a man. This movie explains manhood and one of the biggest problems in the world–the lack of real men everywhere whose hearts fail to first love and serve God and their families.

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Kay South

posted August 25, 2013 at 5:03 pm

You need a reality check. Death happens to families every day of small children. The movies was showing the Christian way in which God helps us get thru the death of a loved one.

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Ronald Maturi

posted June 30, 2013 at 2:58 pm

Actually, I feel sorry for you. Because you are not able to handle tragedy and do not believe in God who helps us handle the tragedies of our lives, you want to discourage all others from learning the truly wonderful and beneficial elements of this movie. I encourage all newly married couples to watch this movie to help them plan their lives to be great parents. I am at least twice your age and I am still amazed how strong an impact this movie had on my life. I only wish I had seen this movie before I became a father.

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Bill Bailey

posted June 21, 2013 at 1:44 am

Great you helped bring attention to this movie, and gave it a shot. It’s your opinion. You’re right, it won’t win an Oscar, many of the actors are volunteers from their hometown, but it contains a great message so many men, fathers need…want to hear. I appreciate the series of movies the Kendrick Brothers have made so far. I’ll continue to support their next project.

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posted June 17, 2013 at 2:51 am

I liked this movie…Yesterday night when I was watching this movie..I felt an strong urge to kneel down and pray. People make lots of movies, but to entertain other and earn name and fame and money…Little that this people have done is much more then the thousands of movie makers…I am sure this movie has brought peace in life of many…and I salute the maker of this movie…

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posted June 10, 2013 at 10:53 am

You biasedly watched and judged this film. You have no right to critique it! You openly stated “am not generally interested in purely faith-based films, for reasons of quality and for reasons of not wanting to be preached at. But I went to see Courageous.” Right there you made your mind up that the film would “preach” at you. So, why waste paper and pen and destroy for others what was a good movie? Makes no sense. It would be like me judging you for this one awful review and stating I wouldn’t read your stuff!!

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posted June 9, 2013 at 9:59 pm

Courageous “is” fantastic, I’ve watched it 3 times so far. No one’s perfect except Jesus, I watched With an open mind so I understood quite clearly the structure and points the producers were trying to get over to viewers. Anyone with negative comments about this movie I would have to go with the old cliche “The Truth Hurts” .
The whole world should see this movie! It had a great impact on a lot of men who viewed it and seeds were planted in many lives.

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posted May 25, 2013 at 2:38 am

I really liked the movie. It highlights how most dads are detached from their families and God. Even religious dad’s need to see a movie like this. Going to church on Sunday isn’t good enough. They need to wake up and stop making excuses. If more dad’s believed in God and that inspired them to be more present and available to their families and others, we would have a lot less problems in society. We need more movies like this.

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Jeff Jones

posted May 19, 2013 at 5:30 am

Truly it’s sounds mostly like you simply want a feel good movie so you don’t have to deal with the real issue of life which include your need for a relationship with your Heavenly Father and the true impact that makes upon your role as an earthly father to your own kids and the other kids this world who need a true father figure in their lives. The very impact of this film is its call upon men and fathers to step up and be the Godly role models we are called to be in order to change our society and win back our children. The power and impact of a father is huge and the more men begin to take back their fatherly role and responsibilities the more we will see an improvement in our homes, our schools, and our society overall. Sorry for being so preachy or maybe it’s just impassioned about being a father because I love my kids.

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posted May 18, 2013 at 7:54 am

It was a tough movie to watch, I am a weeper of fathering huge loss spend time with dad, etc movies as I lost my father when I was 9 mos. old and had alot of issues. But I realize now after much wasted energy and pain, that we men needs jolts like this to wake us up. I hated some of the scenes but again that is life. For men to just suggest to go be a good dad, we don’t usually get it, but give me some concepts that it takes other men in your life, that you have to have faith in something vs. someone, well this movie gets it. The reason this movie rocks us is that we KNOW our shortcomings and no one is perfect, and not to get to preachy, if it wasn’t for Jesus we don’t have a chance because if we really believe He’s the way, then I have a chance and a hope and a future. For those that don’t, it’s a choice they make and we’ll see if it comes true one day. I don’t usually write in these, but thanks for the opportunity.
John Scafe Married 31 years and father of 4 sons

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Your Name

posted May 5, 2013 at 6:56 pm

I have never enjoyed the thoughts of seeing or hearing of a child dying or getting killed but you know its a part of life. Sometimes it takes seeing something like this to make you realize that you need to do a little more with your children. Like i said nobody likes the thought of losing a child but it does happen everyday and we cannot control it all the time so just take the time to love themt everyday and to tell them everyday that you love them cuz you never know when your time is up with them. We really injoyed the movie.

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posted April 30, 2013 at 5:42 pm

I LOVED this movie and I wish there were more faith-based movies made. Yes, it was sad when the daughter died, but death is a part of living and sadly it happens every day to children. Not seeing it on the big screen doesn’t mean it won’t one day affect you. The message was an excellent one and I say keep writing faith-based movies.

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posted April 9, 2013 at 8:52 am

I’ve just recently seen this movie. I disagree. I thought the movie was wonderful and would suggest that anyone that is a father, good or bad, see this movie. The reality of bad things happening to good people, was defined in the lost of the child. You can be parent, with a good job, doing all that you know how to do to be a provider, influence and example to your family and unexpectant things (life) happens. And in all honesty sometimes, it is the unexpectant things (life) that will make you aware that doing all that you know how to do may still leaves you not doing that which you need to do. Had the daughter not died, he’d never understood that his son needed a relationship with him that went beyond being just a provider. Had the daughter not died, he’d never compelled other men to take their roles as fathers to heart and realize that the position doesn’t just come with responsibilities but also accountabilities. More than anything this movie taught me to understand that making a decision to commit to the ways of God is easiest when things are well with you, but will you resolve to stand in that commitment when unexpectant things (life) happens.

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Touched by Courageous

posted April 8, 2013 at 3:51 pm

Sorry, but I don’t agree this was accurate review. You forgot to mention how the movie demonstrates the power of forgiveness and the importance
of taking on the responsibility of mentoring fatherless children in need. Pulling on the heart strings is necessary to hopefully inspire men to make a similar resolution. Mothers aren’t the ones absent from most of the homes raising today’s children so focusing on both parents would have not got the point across and emphasized the importance a man plays in the raising of

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posted February 18, 2013 at 12:48 am

There is a difference between a film which celebrates or glamorizes wanton violence (e.g. Bloodsport or 300) and a film which uses it to make a point, especially a moral point. “Courageous” did not celebrate its violence; it portrayed in its tragic dimensions. Some of the allegories are profound: watching a child experience pain shows you what God went through with Jesus. In addition, lest you bury your head in the sand, 26,000 children per day will die of starvation, murder, or preventable disease. And while you shelter your kids and your mind from reality, you do nothing to redeem a fallen world. Face the truth. Grow up.

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Colin wilson

posted February 17, 2013 at 11:16 pm

It worries me very much when us Christians can give away the spoiler and slant not only what happened but the whole Christian message in a Christian movie so Christians don’t go to see it. And look at the word in your title “hated”. I watch courageous and there were cheesy moments and I expect the push in the face of the Christian message moments made you feel uncomfortable. How can anyone who confesses to be Christian hate a movie with a bold Christian message. I watched it in a church and the whole congregation clapped it, they cried and they laughed. There was nothin to hate unless you had Satan on your shoulder.
use the word HATED

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posted February 12, 2013 at 2:58 am

almost of the comments here are disagree with your review. You can’t relate to the movie because it sounds like you have no faith in God.

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Mary Heard

posted February 5, 2013 at 1:59 pm

Quite frankly, I am sad for you that you missed the inherent value of the movie. Since Roe v Wade, men have participated in the destruction of human life by allowing abortion. Where was the massive revolt against this form of murder by the men in our society? Well, a movie about men taking responsibility for their role as fathers is needed. However, we need an emphasis on good Christian men loving their Christian wives. I hope this movie is the start of this dialogue that needs to be discussed!

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posted February 3, 2013 at 8:24 pm

Honestly, I can say that this was one of the worst movies I have ever seen. It felt like every fourth word was either god or the lord. The movie could’ve ended several times in the middle considering the multiple subplots, and it felt like the producers were trying to drag out the length of the movie as much as possible. It lacked a sense of reality. Seriously, how many times has a boss of yours asked you to lie but it turned out to be a test? How many times have you heard of a cop (who is a father and signed a contract not to do this) steal drugs and sell them?

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posted February 3, 2013 at 6:00 pm

I saw this film because it a was a present from my boss and I learned a lot of it, I recommend it widely.

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posted January 29, 2013 at 9:08 pm

I see what you’re saying about violence towards kids, how did The Hunger games not get a huge backlash against parents then. kids killing kids… the whole movie. Regarding your page… it seems that you’re not Christian, since you’re promoting Buddhism. Jesus said, “Whoever is not with me is against me, and whoever does not gather with me scatters.” you can’t be both. You do say you’re Catholic if I’m not mistaken, well Catholics are supposed to believe the bible, although they have inconsistencies with what the bible teaches due to members not reading their bibles and believing all that priests say, the essence of the bible still used by Catholics is that Jesus the Messiah Died for the sins of the world, and salvation comes through Him (changed by the catholic church to salvation comes through being a catholic). It’s Catholics that don’t read their bibles that are mislead, which could very well be most of them, since the priests don’t generally encourage bible reading. They just comment on it. Either way, Catholics aren’t supposed to endorse Buddhism, so you could stop calling yourself a Catholic also. my 2 cents

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posted January 26, 2013 at 5:56 pm

I thought this was a great movie. Yes it was very sad, but as a father I thought the movie sends a wonderful message to all parents about taking more time to be good parents and bring your children up the way God intends us to.

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posted January 23, 2013 at 11:43 pm

Find me a better movie that shows te world what men should be like. You can’t. Stop bashing my only hope that men will stand up and be men. You’re completely contradicting yourself. Your views are not that special. Why waste your time and be like everyone else. Pathetic.

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Philomena Ekhator

posted January 21, 2013 at 11:03 pm

This movie is absolutely beautiful and the message so apt. You may not be a Christian so you may not understand why according to you, “it’s too preachy” Christians preach my friend, that is what we are called to do, that is the essence of our Christian life.

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posted January 15, 2013 at 10:45 am

its an old movie but try to listen to the background songs especially the band called CASTING CROWNS;=)YOU WILL GET SOMETHING OUT OF THEIR WORDS..

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posted January 10, 2013 at 11:39 am

I Disagree totally!! It was a great movie with real possible events. I think that this person writing this review just doesn’t really understand the whole message of the movie or frankly doesn’t whole heartedly have faith to appreciate such a story!

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Karen H.

posted January 3, 2013 at 1:09 pm

I disagree with you. The death of a child is being experienced more & more by parents in today’s society as well as all the other issues touched upon in the movie. This movie showed a healthy example in dealing with it. You may be blessed to live in a community that this doesn’t happen often, I’m black & that happens in our community everyday. I’m a mother that had to raise a daughter without a dad. I see what that absence meant to her. Yes, I did cry, as I forgave and as I celebrated. I thought it was a great movie that I want shared with as many people as I can. Oh, the women in this movie showed love, support & commitment to their husbands/families without saying much which was powerful.

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posted January 3, 2013 at 11:28 am

Movie sucked big time.

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posted December 29, 2012 at 4:35 pm

I am not a father, although my wife has two grown sons, yet as I have (hopefully) matured I have found that I too avoid movies with heartache or violence, even directed at animals.The only part of the movie that I thought needed to be “fixed” was the coppers turning their backs on the doors when they were executing the arrest warrant. I have no idea if that was a plot device, oversight, or simply the way the actors played the scene, but NEVER turn your back when executing a warrant of any type.

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posted December 26, 2012 at 4:53 pm

This movie I must watch at least once a month. It talks about a man who lived his life based on his conviction to his job as a law enforcement officer. In a scene with the father and his daughter and a fellow officer, his daughter asks him to turn up a song she liked and when she got out of the car to dance with her father he refused her. A few days later, his daughter was killed in a accident on her way to a birthday party. Each and every time I watch this movie the movie reveals something new that God has given for me to interpret a message in this movie. It is about being a man, being a father, being a father to your children, a husband to your wife, and how as a man you are responsible for those who fall in your responsibility. The actor Alex was a husband, father, police officer, friend, employer, member in a community, a leader, a role model, a son of the father. It is about your faith, your responsibilities, in the capacities God has placed in your care. I cry sometimes, sometimes not, for me it has been an ongoing lesson from the father of hope and faith. It brought men together to become better men in the communities. I asolutely love these movies. It shows people what and who are important in this life, not anything else; in the end, we all have each other, when we thinkg about it. Face to face people we pass each and every day, but are too busy to see either because we are in a hurry rushing somewhere, on our cell or Androids, computers, doing what? To busy to say hello to anyone these days. Yes, these movies let me know that someone in the world there is reality and families are living whole as one with one another intracting. All of us will have a different interpretation of where things are right now with God in their lives. I look to God, my Lord for the continued hope he brings me to see the goodness in movies like Courageous, not to mention the soundtrack, which I am thoroughly in love with today. There is hope when I see the nation mourn the horrific deaths of 26 people, including 20 young children, killed in Newtown, Conn., mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School being courageous means seeing outside of where you are looking at now. The world is huge and each day brings continued hurts, pains, destruction, love, togetherness, family, hope, beauty and a zillion other things to each of us we just need to take a moment to stop and look around us.

Happy Holidays to all of you and thank you for such a enlightening in the perspectives of what the Movie Courageous . . . to stand up and BE COURAGEOUS!

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posted December 12, 2012 at 9:28 am

I loved this movie and I love my kids. Of course, the sad parts of the movie were, well..sad. I am provoked to be a better dad of my 3 boys and a better husband to my wife. Of course, if you think your life is just great the way it is, you will feel like you are being preached at; which should ring all kinds of alarm bells in your conscience. IMHO.

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posted December 10, 2012 at 11:22 pm

You don’t want to think about a child dying? You can’t handle it?? That’s why you don’t like this movie? Wake up, man! Children are dying all over the world! And worse! You’ll be a much better dad if you face the realities of this fallen broken world (even via a movie that is “melodramatic and manipulative”– something a lot of movies are)and let your heart be broken by it and work to bring the redemption of the Kingdom of God into it in every way you can and lead your kids to do the same, than if you just ignore the brokenness and sorrow and pain and avoid anything that might sensitize your heart to what God is concerned about.

You say, “I don’t want to see a family grieve their child’s death in the same way I don’t want to see explicit violence. Because it sickens me.” I lost my own child to death. Did I want to face that? No. I’m guessing that if I knew you, you’d not have been one of the folks who offered the comfort of Jesus to me, as the whole situation would have made you feel helplessly uncomfortable. And I work with broken kids daily. Kids who live with things I don’t like to thing about either, things that sicken me. As a follower of Christ, can I really just close my eyes and my heart to things that make me uncomfortable, things that “I can’t handle”? Thank God, Jesus didn’t avoid the hard stuff!

I know I’m coming across without a lot of compassion here, and I’m uncomfortable with how this review pushed my buttons. Apparently I have some things in my own heart to look at. But please, Mr. Boyett, just because you don’t want to face the realities of this broken, hurting world, don’t dis a good movie!

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posted November 13, 2012 at 4:02 am

Funny thing is, the part of the movie that gripped me the most and had me sitting in silence, unable to get out of my chair because God was dealing with me straight up in that moment, was during the credits. There’s a still shot from the scene where the cops are chasing a young black kid, and he’s there in mid stride, in the middle of the street, with the police car behind him. Do you know how many young boys are growing up just like him? Who will play out that very same scene at some point in their lives? Millions. And it cut me to the core because for all my Christian spirituality the fact of the matter was that I realized right then that I wasn’t doing a solitary thing about it.

So was it a movie that met the standards of “serious” critics? No. But it had more truth contained in it that 99% of what’s on screens today.

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Emmanuel Melvin

posted September 24, 2012 at 3:52 pm

It’s about a calling for parents to take the right place in society; great movie!

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Katie Smith

posted September 13, 2012 at 2:22 pm

I disagree with the blogger..this was a fantastic movie, striking right to the heart of Dads everywhere. My husband hates sappy movies and he saw this and called his kids and told them they all needed to see it! Our nation needs to know once again what it means to be a Father, a parent. It is okay to make cry movies..they leave you with the message you need to receive. Maybe if you are offended by the altar call, then more than likely that is where you need to be..not judging..just making an observation by your statements..God bless you..just pray about your need for God..He will fill you..

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Dennis McNeal

posted September 4, 2012 at 7:13 am

First of all, I haven’t seen the movie yet, so I should be very un-biased with regards to any opinions or comments here. I just heard about the movie this morning, from my boss at work, who had seen the movie over the weekend and told me he thought it was a great movie. So, with the introductory part out of the way, I just wanted to briefly comment on what I see others posting here in their reviews. Some have stated that they don’t like being subjected to a child tragedy and then watching the parents go through the pain and sadness of losing a child. Then someone else was curious about no mention of “mothers” in this movie and seemed to be implying that there was too much emphasis on “fathers”. So, to sum my comments up as briefly as I can, I can agree with the first person’s comments, because no one wants to see a little child in pain, especially if you are a “parent”, but the fact is that all of us “parents” get a good dose of this almost every day, as one can hardly turn on the news without hearing about another little child tragedy and then having to experience the emotions that come afterward, to include seeing the pain and sadness from the parents as the news media scuffle to get words from them, seemingly showing little concern or respect to what the parents are going through. But, the fact of the matter is, that these things are a reality in every day life, and maybe the objective here is to just offer each person watching the movie a “brief” moment to feel the pain that comes with such a loss, with hopes that you will leave the theatre and try to “do something about it”. What can one do, you say? Well, that’s for you to figure out.
Lastly, I can understand someone’s concerns about such little attention to “mothers” in this movie, but after all the reviews I have read, and then seeing a brief preview of the movie online, I believe it was made quite clear, up front, that this movie was about “fathers”. However, I may not be the best person to offer an opinion on that, because I am a “father” who raised 3 children on my own from the time that my youngest boys were ages 2 months and 2 years old, and my daughter was 7 years old; so I have experienced being a “father” and a “mother” simultaneously. Therefore, when I look at either a father or mother, I tend to see the same thing…….”a parent”. I also seem to be able to relate just as much to one as the other.
In closing, I will make it a point to go see this movie, simply because I love the family oriented type of movies (“Little House on the Prairie” was my favorite TV show growing up, but don’t tell anyone or else…), but most of all, because I am definitely guilty of not spending the time with my children that I should now that they are all grown up, even though my 2 sons still live at home with me. And, that bothers me more and more every day and I hae absolutely no excuses. So, if this movie will help me, through encouragement, sadness, grief, or any other manner, to find the time to spend with my children and get close to them once again as we used to be, then I’m all for it. In the meantime, wish me luck and, even though I’m not the most religious person in the world, I would really appreciate the prayers of anyone reading this, for I can use all the help I can get right now.

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posted August 30, 2012 at 7:31 pm

I’m going to have to disagree. This movie was great it hits close to home so when i saw this movie i was literally in tears most of the movie. I made my dad watch I gave him an ultimatum, if he didn’t watch it by the time i got back (I was out of town) then i would never speak to him again I was joking lol but that’s how serious i felt about it. It makes you reflect about your life and it’s very inspirational. I Loved IT !

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posted July 9, 2012 at 2:37 pm

DISAGREE! The movie was just how people, fathers, mothers, family’s should be like. It’s an overwhelming movie. Truly inspirational, also it’s how you manage your marriage. That’s a movie that you should be proud to see. Not disgrace it. It’s true you will need courage in life.

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posted July 8, 2012 at 8:01 am

I disagree with you. I thought it was a well made movie with a STRONG message that more people need to see and heed. If it made you weepy then maybe it was the Holy Spirit touching your heart. Great movie. Watch it again and actually listen to the message don’t just watch the movie!

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posted July 4, 2012 at 9:53 pm

This was the most awesome movie in years you are crazy for your comment…

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posted July 4, 2012 at 7:33 am

My church just showed the movie, so I’ve now seen it 3 times…and yes, cried all three times. As a Father I don’t like seeing things happen to children either, but for this movie it was used as a wake up call – and very nicely done. The movie did not go into Motherhood much because the film was directed at Fathers. Preachy? Maybe a bit, but an important message don’t you think? A family becomes closer, and has a better chance of lasting till death do us part when God is the center of the Family. Alter call at the end? No, that was not an alter call, that was simply a call out to all Fathers to check themselves and make improvements. I think it’s a must see for all Fathers, and should be required viewing for all young men who will most likely be Fathers one day.

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Steve G.

posted July 2, 2012 at 5:19 pm

I think the whole point was directed at fathers. In single parent families it is invariably the mother who looks after the child. A point I think you are missing is that dad’s are the leaders of the family but a child need both parents.

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posted July 2, 2012 at 12:51 am

Just whatched it on DVD and was cuddling my 2 year old as he drifted off to sleep in my arms. Normally I Put him straight down (well soonish) after he is sleeping, but as I watched this film I cried and I hugged him tight and I kept cuddling him through most of the movie. I agree way too preachy and if you can get through this movie without literally bawling I will be impressed…or rather saddened at the cold hard rock you have in place of your heart!

I wondered about its effectiveness as a tool in ministry, but I certainly agree wholeheartedly with the message.

Some pretty crap story line in places…like the missing evidence ..just way too simplistic and resolved oh so tidely!

Anyway, it made me look at my parenting and my role as a father …but I don’t like the emotional manipulation…I feel a little like I was used for the film makers gratuitous pleasure and I don’t like that.

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posted June 30, 2012 at 10:33 pm


Your feelings are well understood even as recently my first daughter was born to my wife and I.

However, look at it this way: In the movie what was it that caused the father “wake-up” and realize that he wasn’t being a “Courageous” father?

It was the death of his daughter that made him realize that he had been wasting his time, and more importantly that he would actually step into action to not allow that to happen anymore.

Now let’s translate that into application in our lives. What we saw in the movie was indeed “only a movie”, but what will it take for you, or me, to wake-up and realize that we have been doing it all wrong. God forbid that it would take the death of a child. So now, “Gird up your loins like a man!” (KJV), and be the courageous father now; don’t waste your life or that of your children.

Illustrations often need to be given in an extreme way that we might not let actual events of life get to that point, but the reality is for some people these type of events do take place.

Sincerely in Christ,

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posted June 30, 2012 at 6:12 am

Hi sorry to say this but “Get over it”. sadly death of little children happens in real life to – lets face it

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posted June 27, 2012 at 8:39 pm

After seeing a preview for this movie I had a sinking feeling that the girl dies. I wanted to make sure so googling (if that is even a verb) brought me to your review. Thanks you for pointing out this problem in many movies. I too can not handle watching anything that puts a child in harm. There is an amazing part of the heart which opens once a child moves in. I agree with you that the message of great fatherhood could have been made without any hearwhenching. I have seen both “Facing the Giants” and “Fireproof” and thought them mildly entertaining with great messages. Too bad I will not be watching this one. Maybe their next one will work for me. You should give these ones a try. The acting is not top rate, but not too bad to watch. As for being preached at, the messages are to the point. Think of it as all the many stories Jesus told while he was here teaching us.

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posted June 24, 2012 at 7:30 am

I want to support Christian film making. I was told how great this movie was as well. I agree totally that the child did not need to die for me to appreciate this movie. It was way too sad for me and my husband so we turned it off. Your “cliff notes” are the information it sends.

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David jenkins

posted June 24, 2012 at 7:19 am

I thought the movie was great. Who wouldn’t want to be encouraged to be the best father and husband they could be. As men we have the responsibility to lead our families by example and to love them as Jesus loves us. I hope many men wake up and become the men they were born to be. Men of integrity in all things. Our children’s future is in our hands. I am on my knees this morning praying that God will help me to be my best for my kids.

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posted June 22, 2012 at 8:25 pm

I loved thi movie – was it a little preachy sure but so what – it sent a mg that fathers and mothers need to listen to — and the sad part of losing a child, yes it was sad but it is real life unfortunatly and unfortunatly I know exactly what that family went through when I lost my daughter…I think I will find that resolution and have my son and my husband sign it…

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posted June 21, 2012 at 10:45 am

As a retired nurse I think you are being rather close-minded to the world we live in. No one WANTS a child to die. However, it happens every day. Thank God if you have a healthy child; survived all childhood illnesses;if he has not drowned, been killed in an accident or by violence; not been killed by a drunk driver or killed himself drinking. I have seen it all. Life goes on. It is forever changed for all involved but it does go on.
For you to critique any movie on that one aspect is very selfish just because you can’t handle it. Especially since it didn’t really happen! Whatever will you do if a friend or family member ever loses a child? We all want to think if we are Chrisians nothing bad ever happens and we just float merrily through life. Well, if we truly follow God’s will and surrender our life to Him we are going to have both mountain tops and valleys. Just saying.

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Rick Goode

posted June 9, 2012 at 1:12 am

I loved the movie. I found it motivating and inspirational as a father.

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posted June 4, 2012 at 10:06 am

I totally disagree with you. I loved the movie and think that it is exactly what this world needs. Emphasis didn’t need to be placed on the role of mothers because that is not an issue at the moment. Yes, some mothers do need to jack up their parental skills, but this world is churning out too many kids headed in the wrong direction because they don’t have a dad in their life. It’s good for dads to realise that they’re just as important as mom and to stop pawning off their parental responsibilities. My ex is a high profile white collar worker, yet he has absolutely no interest in our two children and hasn’t seen them in nearly 2 years. I pray that he watches this movie and is convicted about the children he’s forgotten in favour of his new family.

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Edythe Wilson

posted June 2, 2012 at 12:44 pm

I accidentally came upon this movie wednesday evening on the stars channel. I thought the movie was wonderful I can’t get over it. Everyday since then I have been thinking about it, I don’t know when I’ve seen a movie that one could enjoy without the profanity about women, and women without clothes on. The movie up lifted my spirits not as much as the Bible, up lifted still. In my opinion a great movie.

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Andre Holtshausen

posted June 2, 2012 at 6:14 am

Having seen the movie, I fully understand the sentiment in this report. A few comments though. Tragedies are real and I think the message of the movie largely gets its impact in this case from the saddest thing that can ever happen to a parent. I think it will be difficult to watch for a parent that has had that experience. This movie is for dads, so therefore the role of the mother is deliberately underplayed. That is not to say it is less important. The alter call at the end is real and intense and will make many viewers uncomfortable, however we have been able to use this powerfully in men’s ministry (e.g. movie evening for dads and boys).

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posted June 1, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Jusr watched the movie last night in my Christian Homegroup. I had mixed feelings toward the movie:
– I loved it’s underlying message

– I Hated having to be subjected to the misery, tragedy and lose of the death of a little girl. I felt that I had been tortured for the night.

– I hated the feeling that as a Womens group, we have need to do a “study” on this movie so we shape up as parents – what about the bible? I think that is the ultimate book to study, not this.

– I hated the fact that some women were tempted to compare the “dads” in the movie to their own husbands and found their husbands lacking. I tried to explain that it is just a movie, not real, and is merely an ideal to aim for, not a measuring stick to hold up agaisnt our husbands.

So in summary, I loved the message, thought the movie was really well acted and directed BUT…I really dislike the emotional manipulation used throughout it!

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Bruce Byron

posted June 1, 2012 at 7:32 pm

I am both a cop and a father. I have been shot at, hit, screamed at and spit on more than I ever thought possible. I am a TOUGH person. I have NEVER cried this much watching a movie. And I believe it was WONDERFUL for me to do so. After I watched this movie I bought copies for my son, and every other father in my life. I think that is the best recommendation I can give any movie.

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Alvin C. Norman

posted June 1, 2012 at 6:08 pm

Totally off-base. This was a great movies with outstanding family values. Yes, it did feature fathers, but the father is to be the head of the housewhole and set the example for his family. I don’t think it slighted the mothers at all. They were all shown as being supportive.

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posted June 1, 2012 at 5:05 pm

I think you went to the movie without an understanding of what you were going to see. It is a faith based movie with a powerful message. I do have two children, twin son and daughter that are 11 years old. This movie had an amazing impact on my life. As a Christian, i have been negligent in how I am involved with my children. I worked too much and traveled too much when they were 1-6, and then I became totally disabled and wallowed in self pity for the past 5 years. This movie woke me up and made me want to be a better father and a better Christian. You said you are thinking about having children, I suggest you watch the movie again when you do have them. My next door neighbors lost their son to suicide when he was 14 and it tore them apart thinking of all the things they should have done with their son. Thankfully they turned to the church to help them. The movie is and was meant to be a wake up call to fathers and they did an excellant job! Thanks, Mike

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Melodee Forbes

posted May 31, 2012 at 12:00 am

Hi Jason,

I appreciate your opinion, and I would like to express my take on my experience with Courageous.

My Dad was extremely moved by this movie and I have met a plethora of other men (dads) many non-religious that enjoyed it as well.

Sometimes, movies aren’t entirely happy, jolly go-lucky, if they were a plot would be seriously missing and most movies really wouldn’t be movies. Maybe you should simply stick with Disney? :)

I understand that you want to watch movies that are not about death. My Mom died when I was 23 and certain movies about cancer patients in hospitals are a bit too much for my emotions.

With that said, what I love about Courageous is that it wasn’t gory, bloody or over the top violent in anyway. They did a great job at expressing impact without overwhelming images.

Life has its share of challenges, regardless of who you are or what beliefs you profess.

Thanks for listening! Peace!

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Hank Osborne

posted May 30, 2012 at 10:22 pm

I loved the movie for the exact reasons that you hated it. Life (and death) happen. That is reality. Too many movies tip-toe around real life where kids die.

And dads need to get off their butts. If an alter call can help shove a few in the right direction then so be it. Anything goes short of breaking laws to get fathers to be more than sperm donors in the parenting process.

I had seen all the other Sherwood movies going into this one so I was not surprised. I was very well pleased. I highly recommend this movie to all.

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posted May 29, 2012 at 3:59 pm

your dumb !! you don’t know what your talking about !! i watched this movie last night and it made my dad realize what type of father he was and yeah maybe because your not a father you wouldn’t understand and if you are i bet you aren’t the most perfect father either !! and if you don’t like it so religious then why did you go bother see it anyways ! i mean c’mon it was clearly made for christian viewers and your a ignorant person alright !

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Cliff Jones

posted May 27, 2012 at 2:39 am


I think it is so unfortunate that you missed the whole point of the movie. If you felt “preached at” if I were you, I would accept that as God’s conviction in my life. To say that the death of the daughter in the movie is “emotionally manipulative is a huge stretch. Bad things happen everyday and we as dads and moms must deal the reality of pain associated with our children. May God Bless and save you, Cliff

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Good Movie I liked it But!

posted May 25, 2012 at 10:32 am

You know who really LOVES this movie? The Devil, Yes thats right. It uses guilt and emotions to get you to come to a conclusion that the way to deal with people is to lock them in jail and the LAW is your friend. And then uses that to get you to sign a covenant, a legally biding aggreement that says “IM GOING TO DO BETTER” another covenant, what happened to the new covenant of Grace you had with JESUS. NOT GOOD ENOUGH RIGHT, so write our own. OH FOOLISH GALATIONS WHO HAS BEWITCHED YOU. Your starting a cult based on a emotional legalist, movie,actors, forsaking the grace that has provided and falling from GRACE. And the reason the Devil loves this is he will use it to club you over the head with when you fail. And you gave him the club just like no man could keep the Old covenant of the LAW, this will surely bring condemnation and death also.

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posted May 21, 2012 at 11:32 pm

Being a former officer, this movie is close to reality as possible for making a movie such as this. Officers are out there everyday putting their lives on the line trying to keep you safe, and the ones that I know would take a beating or a bullet to save you and or your child. If you don’t support your police and want to put your head in the sand, that’s your prerogative. who will you call when you need help, the police and God

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Damon C

posted May 21, 2012 at 9:45 pm

First, I haven’t seen the movie yet. I plan to – it was recommended by someone I admire a lot, and as I was reading up on it I came upon your review. I loved it – thank you.

Second, while I admire your point about not condoning violence in film, especially to guilt us into being better dads, I find it at odds with the Christian viewpoint. We of all people know what death is, and while we that are left behind grieve and our faith is challenged, eventually we understand that there is a reason death happens – and we also know that death cannot separate us.

Like all challenges that are presented to us, it is up to us to respond to them, either in a hateful manner or in a selfish matter. I think *that* is the real message of the film – take a challenge, even a tragedy, and make that sacrifice mean something in your life.

Just as we know we are to do with the ultimate example of sacrifice.

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posted May 21, 2012 at 9:58 am

I just watched the movie and somehow agree with you.I hate watching movies where kids die and the audience is made to grieve for so long. Though I guess its because we dont understand much of what goes on when others grieve since we cant picture their moments alone.Movies like these help us to “see” what happens to those who grieve. I do however think that if the mother’s part is hightlighted here, the target audience could get distracted and the man that needs to “man up” might do a little buck passing. We are being made to see ideal homes where the mothers play their part. (Who Knows?..Sherwood might just make a movie for women- as the Lord leads..) I hope you have recieved Jesus into your life and made HIM your ALL IN ALL.
He is the ONE that can help us be the FATHERS we ought to be.
Resolution making is a starting point.
That’s why Shane failed.

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posted May 19, 2012 at 4:49 pm

I personally loved the movie and think every Christian needs to watch…because of the strength in the message it presents. Yes I cried…and in some parts bawled like a baby. We do not have enough people standing up for what they believe. Our country is being torn apart by the very lack of true courage on all of our part not just the men. We need to decide who will take a stand and live courageously. If more of us committed to this type of life our country would not be where it is today. I can only pray that more people will watch this movie and be touched as I have been and become determined to take the stand to be courageous in every aspect of their lives.

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Just Read!!!

posted May 16, 2012 at 8:39 pm

If you do your history on persons that made the movie and researched the past movies, you would have known what yo expect out of the movie and if you wouldn’t like those then ding ding ding, u wouldn’t like these either. But hey, just like life ppl can be in the same situations and handle them differently. Seems like a good movie to me…didn’t know what I was watching, what it was about, or the directors but saw one character and I knew what to expect.

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J A Pretrorius

posted May 15, 2012 at 7:50 am

This is one of the best movies I have ever seen. If you are a father and Christian, you are again reminded of how important your role as father is in your children’s lifes.

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Rosanne Armstrong

posted May 9, 2012 at 11:19 pm

I label myself a Christian. I am a woman of faith and I am raising three kids by myself. They have a father but he is emotionally absent in their lives. I can see where my kids have suffered because of his negligence, but so far, they are turning out pretty good. Things could be better but they could be worse too. I know of a man who was just like the men in this film…..he was a Christian Dad, was very attentive, did everything with his son and did all the right things, and his son still turned out bad. You just never know. Nothing is a guarantee.

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posted May 6, 2012 at 11:58 pm

I dont agree with Stupid dudes comment, nobody agrees with this stupid dude everyone in the world likes couragous the movie except for that stupid crap idiot bull crap poopy cocky head.

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posted May 6, 2012 at 8:41 pm

If you want a nice night out just watch a comedy. Either way there are websites you can visit that rate the violence of the movie without giving away the plot, or others that explain the appropriateness of the movie. Some movies are meant to bring people to reflect, as for this one, it was meant to lead people to reflect on parenting. The reality is, things like what the movie portrayed happen in real life, thats an inevitable fact that everyone will learn. The movie just showed how to appreciate, grow, and learn, which is healthy.

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Scott C.

posted May 6, 2012 at 10:51 am

Well Jason, maybe your opinion says a little about who you are and your discomfort is warranted. I am not sure if you have or want kids, but having 3 girls and a beautiful that I have not been as good a father or husband the young girl dying is a wake up call. It is the hard cold fact that young girls are sold into slavery of prostitution daily and I bet you would see life differently if it were one of yours.

Furthemore, it is men that are buying into what the world is selling (including teenage prostitutes and more) and not the Christian values the country was founded on. I played golf with an English gentleman who explained to me, after finding out I attend church, howo we have made a mockery of the faith this country was founded upon.

Frankly, my largest concern is for my daughter who is engaging in a relationship with a man that had no father. Men have, for too long, avoided the real, hard and cold facts about their God given role in life.

I agree with some of the others. If men had been doing better to be fathers this country and this world would be a different and better place.

Many of the issues in our courts and society have arisen due to lack of values and standards from men. Therefore, to close this out, I TOTALLY disagree with your analysis. This film is made to make people think! Maybe you are being convicted and should take a step back to see what it is God is saying to you.

I will be praying for you as a brother and a man! That is what we were called to do!

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posted May 3, 2012 at 2:42 pm

This is a free country and everyone has a right to like or dislike any movie; however, the things that you dislike about this movie are exactly the things that make it a great movie. Yes, it is geared toward a Judeo-Christian audience. Your friends that suggested the movie to you should have warned you in advance. But as a Christian who has a mind and uses it I personally believe it would be very close minded of me to go and see a movie whose writers and directors were Buddhist and Buddhism was purported throughout a movie, to leave and bash the movie because the movie tried to persuade or inform me toward accepting the tenants of Buddhism.
Also, you totally missed what the writer/director was trying to get across when the child died in the movie. Believe it or not bad things, like children getting killed in car accidents actually happen. The point of this part of the movie was to savor every second of the lives we share with the people we love on this earth. I have first-hand knowledge of this; 44 years ago, my mother was killed by a drunk driver when I was ten. So yes, bad things happen in this life and it sucks!!! But let me tell you that good came from that horrible thing in my life! I take every opportunity afforded me to tell my husband and two daughters that I love them. I relish every moment of our lives together. So yes, it was a huge tear jerker of a movie; but my husband, who is 6’6” and built like an athlete, loved it and cried. Why, because it motivates you to make sure you value every second of your life with those you love. Sometimes you think you have your whole lifetime to show the ones you care about that you love them until suddenly you don’t. If there was one thing this movie said to me it was “Live your life with no regrets!! Take advantage of every second to show those you care about that you love them. It’s the only life you have; make the most of it!”

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Juan M Gonzalez

posted May 2, 2012 at 11:01 pm

It is sad to see the condition of this nation, how people how turned their backs to God, I can see how much we need a revival in this country, when I read different comments in this website, starting from Mr.Boyett. This nation has forsaken the Lord, it is through God, when we obey Him and His word that we will become excellent parents, excellent husbands and wives. As humans we will make mistakes, but when our desire is to please God, everyday we will strive to be those men God wants us to be. It is because of God that today I can look up to my father, as a man and husband. I hope to be when the day comes, that father and husband, that man of God.

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Melvin Palmer

posted May 1, 2012 at 11:51 am

I watch the movie with my 17 year old son and his 19 year old friend, WE FOUND THE MOVIE TO BE AWSOME,!

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Preaching to the Choir

posted April 30, 2012 at 12:43 am

This film is total bull. It uses the death of a child to guilt people into religion. Fatherhood shouldn’t be contingent on faith. This movie bends over backwards to sell god as the only reason to be a good father. Preachy is being kind. Holier than thou might as well be the title. Manipulative and melodramatic sums up this it perfectly. Thank you for your review.

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Single Dad

posted April 28, 2012 at 9:37 pm

Just watched the movie and was very touched by its message. Sometimes looking at yourself honestly through the lens of the Christian viewpoint is discomforting. I hope more people see this movie and are moved to action.

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posted April 26, 2012 at 3:17 pm

This is something I’ve been trying to explain to people for years as to why I refuse to see “emotionally manipulative” and violent movies. Thanks for giving me good words to use.

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Yannick G

posted April 26, 2012 at 11:38 am

10/10 for this movie! Appealing to both Christian and non-christian fathers who wants to be dads and raise children that count. Wanna watch more movies like this, though I’m not a father yet or married for that matter. Any suggestions?

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posted April 24, 2012 at 12:08 pm

I liked the movie, because it touched my heart as a father. I have 3 kids, all grown, I saw things in this movie, THAT I SHOULD HAVE DONE AS A FATHER, but was too busy. It’s called conviction.
But the good news is my kids forgive me and understand, because I always told them, I am not perfect, will never be, but if I look in the mirror at the end of the day and say I did the best I can, then it is an ok day.
The sadness in the movie, was necessary, because we always assume there is tomorrow, IT IS NOT PROMISED, and sometimes there is loss and hurt.
I liked it, yea there were tears, but my heart is now motivated to help those in my circle who have young children, to help men be better dads………….
And give faith based movies a chance. they are not too bad

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Jared Thew

posted April 23, 2012 at 7:22 pm

I do not agree with you at all about hating the movie. I think that the emotions which are drawn out of the viewers is the real genius behind the makers’ talents. The epidemic they speak of in the movie and in the bible study which accompanies the movie(about fatherless children and absentee Dads) is a “real” problem in society today.
I believe the story, while very sad and, yes, in some parts too sad, awakens emotions in fathers to call them to action – the small group I led through the bible study at our church ended up having 44 men sign up and 19 end up going through the “Resolution” ceremony afterward.
I think the message needs to be said, but I do not think it would have the impact it has without the gut-wrenching sadness.
The last part of your post should be engrained into the minds of fathers everywhere, and I believe steering fathers away from the “SAD” movie is counter-productive to our “society” as a whole.

Just my opinion, I see your points – and you have every right to express them as you please – as do I.
Thank you for the conversational topic, though.

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Your Name

posted April 22, 2012 at 11:21 pm

All of you are so thin skinned people that just need to relax and enjoy life like GOD intended, turn the other cheek. Dont be so judgemental toward one person such as Jason Boyett and keep your comments to yourself and go back to church and repent on some of the post you put. Rob i feel sorry for you for being so offended grow some thicker skin and dont throw a hissy fit over something as simple as a person view on a movie. I cant stand how peoples view a christian movie can make them seem like a bad person HELLO its just a movie grow up and get a life, actually enjoy your own and dont worry about other peoples opinion if it offends you. Im in the military and a chaplin and i cant belive what i am seeing about a movie. God please forgive these people for they not know what they do or say. Amen

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posted April 21, 2012 at 10:36 am

I’ll be seeing this movie tonight at my Church. I was checking around to see if this movie would be appropriate for my children. I have 3 girls, ages 12, 10 and 7, and I will probably leave them home because I don’t think they are the intended audience of this movie.

After reading the blog opinions and comments, I have 2 thoughts:

1) Children dying is horrible. But such unfortunate tragedies occur every day in real-life. I’ll have to see for myself how this tragedy plays out in the movie, but I’d assume it’s a contextual necessity of the story that is trying to be told. So in context, I think “hate” is a bit of an overreaction.

2) I don’t understand criticizing the movie for not focusing on mothers–that could be the focus of another movie, but it wasn’t the focus of this movie. To me, it’s the equivalent of criticizing the movie because it didn’t cure cancer, because that wasn’t the aim of the movie.

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posted April 20, 2012 at 10:36 pm

It’s a movie, no matter what it’s about or why it was made, it’s a movie, and a darn good one, anyone that can say they hate it, well i feel sorry for you.

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posted April 20, 2012 at 9:58 pm

man the reason she dies is because it is trying to make a point that whatever you do there might only be one chance to do it so take that chance. its not trying to really make you sad although it does it is just trying to put a point out and so what if its preachy it is a movie not a tv show airing at a church you just have to listen to what it says and youll figure out it all makes since.

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posted April 20, 2012 at 12:23 pm

I’m a single father of two boys. I’m from a split home myself. While I haven’t seen eye to eye with everything my father does, or has done; he is in no doubt my hero, and the person I look up to more than anyone in this world. I give both him and my mother all the credit for shaping me and how I live my life, and raise my boys.

I understand this movie is “preachy” but that wasn’t the message I took away.

What I did take away from the movie was it re-inforced my job as a father. At 7 and 11 my boys are sponges. They soak up everything; and probably soak up the negative much more than the positive.

It now has me thinking of what changes I may need to make in my life to be a better father, as well as a better son.

I’ve also shyed away from relationships in my life where the other person may have kids because I don’t want to have to spread my time with their kids and mine. But maybe this is the wrong way of thinking. Maybe God ( or fate, or whatever you choose ) has put me in the position to be a role model for someone that maybe doesn’t have one in their life.

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Your Name

posted April 19, 2012 at 7:05 pm

A real nice wholesome family movie with good Christian values. Very well made. We need more films like this. Wow, does that main actor ever look like Dan Ackroyd!
David Maye Montreal, Canada

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Melodie Thomas

posted April 12, 2012 at 12:25 am

I have seen the movie twice now. My son has seen it two times as well. He thinks it is a very sad movie. I think it is very realistic. The fact of the matter is, children die. Our world is full of violence. I would rather see a truthful, scriptural solution to these issues than a worldly, humanistic one. I think the movie is great.

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Daniel Winberg

posted April 8, 2012 at 5:27 pm

I often don’t prefer faith based movies, not because I am against faith, we all use faith every day of our lives, but because faith based movies are often made on very poor budgets and are literally cheesy looking. I am glad that this movie (do to the earlier success’s of the earlier movies) allowed for much better production value. In this movie, the preaching is extremely tactfully done, in line with the lives of the main characters, dealing with (no matter how we don’t like to see children die) the reality that to some people, death does happen in their family, even to children. What can we do with this little fact of life….learn from it, grow from it, ponder the pain of others and the value of our own children and our friends children and our neighborhoods of children. Reflect on making our society a neighborhood of true adults who have great concern for all the children around us rather than succumb to the “besieged island” mentality behind which we lock our doors and huddle in fear. Stand up, be concerned, be an adult, be a Dad (and the movie does not imply mothers are less affected, only it concentrates on the transition of a particular father, and by extension raises the bar of intellectual thought for all fathers) and this is precisely what movies should do for us. A movie that just racks up a body count is valueless to us all, and demeaning to culture as a whole. So buck up there and realize that having feelings, or sensing discomfort over issues that actually are meaningful to life is not an assault against your person, but rather a call to cognitive awareness of the lives around you (not just our self-centered selves) that do indeed have intrinsic value and should be acknowledged and cared about. Not one person who watches this movie can keep an accident from taking their child if life deals that card, but everyone who takes the central message of the movie will better off by far for having changed their lives by it.

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posted April 8, 2012 at 4:05 pm

Not American but whats the bet the funding comes from strong Republican folk.

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Bonnnie Rodriguez

posted April 7, 2012 at 8:49 am

I was born into a family that loved and sheltered me from harm on all levels, physically and emotionally, but from the time I was a small child, I became acutely aware of the cruelty of this world, particularly cruelty to animals, and to this day (I am 62) I find I have to make a conscious effort to not dwell on these things. I just try to make a difference, however small it may appear in this vast universe(I am a chaplain and do a communitary work).

I realize however that I cannot completely ignore the problems of the world so as not feel the pain.

Considering all the violence, blood and gore, aberrant sexual content, etc. taken to the big screen, I found this movie very inspiring and refreshing. It is a fact of life, bad things happen to good people,(even
babies), just as good things happen to bad ones.

The main character was obsessed with his little girl, but completely disconnected to his adolescent son. Had he not lost his precious child, he would not have learned to appreciate the gift of his remaining son. and thus mend their relationship.

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posted April 5, 2012 at 10:52 am

I completely disagree with you. This movie was life-changing for me and my family. It is sad that a child dies in the story, but that’s what touches us most – it made us realise ‘what if my child dies?’ Then it’ll be too late to give attention to her or to support her… My husband and I agreed to each other and GOD that we haven’t been the parents that we should’ve been. We were always too busy with other stuff instead of spending time with the kids and support them…this movie opened our eyes. I think Alex and Stephen Kendrick are doing a great job. I bought all of their movies so far and each one of them has made me a better person, wife and mother… I promise you – never have I been touched by films as I do with Alex and Stephen Kendrick’s films. I pray that God will bless them for their great work and for how many people’s lives they have changed. Keep up the excellent work

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Stan Hannan

posted April 3, 2012 at 10:41 am

You could not be more off base. However its not suprising from someone who has such a predesposed “world veiw” that anything which touches the “chip on your shoulder” is villified by you. This was a well made very sincere film with a message that is badly needed…I can tell you that its a message that should be applauded not castigated….I am very dissapointed in your one sided statements! Very sad.and very ignorant!

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PaulaGail Blood

posted April 2, 2012 at 2:43 pm

I saw the film last night at my church. Im not sure why I showered and put on clean summer dress, I certainly wasn’t going to impress anyone when it was over, and the lights came up, to reveal my swollen eyes from having cried for two hours. Your analysis is spot on about forcing us to endure the violence (even implied) against the beautiful child and the grief it caused. You are also right in saying “weird” about the lack of attention to female parents. I am a single mother with four children. My oldest three have a very present (the good and the bad of it) father, the youngest has a very absent (the good and the bad of that) father. I had a very absent father, and I am a christian. So, nothing about the raw emoition of the film was lost on me. My youngest daughter claimed after the movie, that she didn’t cry. I told her that she either wasn’t watching the movie, or that was something to be ashamed of, not proud of. I only think that it should be recommened to fathers that you wish to “scare straight” like teen programs that take kids to visit a prison for a day…otherwise there’s got to be a better way to help men be better fathers.

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posted April 1, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Just saw moveie today 4/1/12. I took my daughters boyfriend , we both liked the movie.Ive been a firefighter/medic for 26 yrsand dont have to read the newspapers like most people to see whats going on in the world. This movie takes into account so many issues and deals with factors that are real and true. Kudos all around !!

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posted April 1, 2012 at 1:45 am

Loved the movie….

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George Hoyt

posted March 25, 2012 at 6:47 am

I have seen Courageous and disagree 90% with DADEQUATE. My only child, Rich, died of suicide in 1999 at the age of 29 . I was negligent as a father and focused too much on my career. I wish I had seen this movie in 1966. This one quote from the movie should have changed my priorities: “Connect With Your Children On Their Level – To build a relationship with his son, one of the main characters Adam Mitchell, played by Alex Kendrick, takes up running. While his son loves running, Adam literally hates it. Fathers, to connect with our children, we must be interested in what they’re interested in.”


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posted March 24, 2012 at 1:29 am

I think, Jason, that you need to have a sincere relationship with our Father, in heaven. Yes, it is sad, and yes if it happened to my child (like the one dying in the movie), I would be devastated. But, I would also know where that little girl was. Sitting on the lap of her heavenly Father. Being loved, and at peace, and happy. (no more tears)! We, who are left behind to deal with it would be sad. But, if you have a personal relationship with Jesus, then He will take care of you, and you will get to see your child someday. But, that ability to do that is a decision that needs to be made, this side of heaven. I pray for you that you will do that one day. You seem like a great person, and a good father. But, I can tell you from my own experience, that God expects us, as parents, to show our kids the way to Him, so they will get to go to heaven, whenever it is their time to go. I didn’t do that when my kids were young, and believe me it is my greatest regret in this life!

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posted March 20, 2012 at 12:20 pm

When I first read in the subject line that you hated the movie my instinct was to discount everything else you might say. But, I wanted to know why you hated the movie and expecting something like a statement that was anti-Christian I delved into your comments. I am glad that I did. I must say that I enjoyed the movie and was not bothered by the “preachyness” but it was hard to have the little girl die. I work with children of that age and, to put it bluntly, you’re not supposed to bury your kids. I can totally see where you are coming from. I might not agree with all that you said but I think you said it in a way that was not demeaning or inappropriate. Thank you for your comments and honesty.

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posted March 18, 2012 at 9:31 pm

This was a hard hitting movie. Yes, parts of it were “preachy”, but it made sense in the context of the movie. Yes, a child dies, but the movie shows how that grief is turned to something positive.

I wish this movie had been out when my kids were little. My husband watched it and cried, regretting the fact that he wasn’t the father our sons needed. Now they’re grown.

Thanks to Sherwood Pictures for another great film.

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posted March 17, 2012 at 11:13 pm

This was the best movie that has come out in a very long time. It’s time for believers in Christ to stand up and take back our families from the brainless, and morally corupt society that has invaded our homes through the media. This film was a call to action for many men both Christian and none. And I read a post by a woman named Tina Sloan on here that this film made you feel worthless because you could not give your son the father he needs. You got it all wrong sister. Now you know what type of man God wants you to have, so accept nothing less than what the Lord wants to give you. And that goes for all other women, don’t let a man cross the threshold of your doorway if he will not stand up with pride and say “I will”.—–Sorry if I got a little preachy, but when the Spirit moves, the Spirit moves.

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posted March 15, 2012 at 7:33 pm

I have not seen this film for all of the reasons you have mentioned. Since becoming a mother I feel the same way about such situations. I have a hard time watching some network crime shows when the plot involves a child. Movies are supposed to be entertaining. I am not interested in having my heart broken and my thoughts haunted.

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posted March 13, 2012 at 4:20 pm

This is one of the best movies I have ever seen.. watch it yourself, dont take some review and forget it.. judge for yourself.

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posted March 13, 2012 at 3:46 am

The movie is very nice and touching,i was watching everyday one i come from work,full of lessons to learn,Fathers!we have a big responsibility to after our children.

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posted March 11, 2012 at 4:36 am

I thought it was the BEST movie id seen n a long time and although quite sad at times i believe it points out very good what many of us take for granted every day and makes u realize life is not a given. I think it is very strong bit i also think some people don’t take subtle hints. I would give it 5 stars

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Derek Bodycote

posted March 9, 2012 at 5:17 am

Well done a movie that would speak to any man, it’s said “we have weak nations because we have weak men” how true it is and this movie answers any mans inability to stand up and be the leaders in their home come on men we can do it our family needs us this movie we can do it! Take the lead

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posted March 7, 2012 at 8:43 pm

First the positive, I realize they are trying to reach non-churched people. The movie is wholesome and safe for families. I agree for the most part with your take on the movie. We watched it at our church it dragged on so long at one point I almost walked out. The part that I really didn’t like was when they made a written covenant with each other got all dressed up and made it into some kind of ritual before God.
I’m sure the movie has lit a fire under many Men’s hearts to love there children more and mentor them and that’s great. I think the church’s in North America lean to hard on movies and media to do the work of evangelism.

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posted March 6, 2012 at 1:06 pm

I loved the movie! We need more movies like this because I believe every father should have a strong role in their children’s lives and should seek wisdom on parenting from God. It is a shame my own father split before I was born and missed those special moments in my life. However God has been with me every step of the way and I am so grateful for that.

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C. B.

posted March 6, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Yeah, I would say you are way off base. The child dying in the movie emphasises that, at some point, all of us will have something tragic happen in our lives. People loose thier loved ones. Children die. Tragedy is part of life and it can make us stronger. The other “sub-plots” are there to show God works through real events. Your summation at the end however was dead on.

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Trudi van Vuuren

posted March 5, 2012 at 4:12 pm

As a mum, I read the comments on why you hated the movie – the truth is, bad things happen to good people, losing 2 children is a reality for me, pretending, children do not die is not a truthful outlook, cancer is happening to children too, and as the Bible teaches us that children are not ours- we get a time period with them, and that teaches us, how God/Jesus feels about us. We need to see all different aspects incidents pertaining to life. Losing your income, not being able to provide for your children, was a reality in our lives, but being fully realiant on God, brought us through, with His divine provision. It’s still hard for me to watch movies with cancer as part of it, but by Grace God has comforted me, and be able to be a comfort to many people. We cannot dig our heads in a sandpit and pretend, bad things do not happen, it should teach us, extreme gratefulness for the grace that has been bestowed upon us…. Bless you.

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posted March 5, 2012 at 11:13 am

How do you feel about Finding Nemo and The Lion King? Finding Nemo and the Lion King are based on horrific events. In Nemo, an entire family is murdered during a home invasion (seen the news lately?), and in Lion King, thanks to his uncle, a son plays an unwitting role in his father’s murder then subsequently blames himself for the death. How’s that for animated wholesomeness.

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posted March 4, 2012 at 2:42 pm

Jason, I have not seen the movie but I have heard of it from others who have and now you. I lost my son last year and the heartache is unbearable, and all who loved him grieve his loss. Others say it is a must see for all parents to understand that now is the time to hand the torch back to their children so that their loved ones will not be lost. To have the grace and the strength to lead others to Jesus Christ the author and finisher of good works. Praise the Lord for His mighty power and grace for He laid down his life to save us from our sins.

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Tina Sloan

posted March 4, 2012 at 12:00 am

I am a single mom and we were invited by married friends to see the movie just tonight at our church. I actually hadn’t heard of the movie so didn’t have a clue as to its content. On one hand I really really liked the movie. I thought it was very well made (as opposed to the usual bad acting in most Christian films)and I was extremely impressed. I was also very moved by the message that calls dads to step up to the plate and take responsibility. In that respect, I understand how the focus was the “father role”. HOWEVER….As a single mom, I left the movie feeling very alone and inadequate. Although he won’t admit it and tried to hide it, the movie stirred up those “fatherless” feelings in my son. For that reason, I would not had gone to the movie if I had known the plot and my friend admitted that she wouldn’t have asked me to go either if she had known because she’s been there. So in a nutshell, I hated that the mothers role was ignored, loved how they called the fathers out, angered that I now feel like human waste because I can’t provide my son with a father.

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posted March 3, 2012 at 6:03 pm

I’m sorry, but if your not saved and sold out to God then this movie just went over your head. Your comments should not discourage a true christian from watching this movie to see that their God can fix anything in their lives if they will only let Him.

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Rhode Pariscal

posted March 3, 2012 at 3:59 pm

can you please answer my question sir jason. you said that you already watched it right? did you say “I WILL” to yourself when you hear the last part of the movie? because if not i dont think that youre up to that fatherhood thing

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Jay Jay Bernardo

posted March 3, 2012 at 3:50 pm

well i will say this is reality. this happens to everyone but the thing is how you will cope up with it? will you pout and live in darkness blaming yourself because you lost someone because of your choices. im a father of a 1 year and half boy. we live here in the philippines. lots of father doing gambling, drinking alchohol and some of them abusing their children. why? its because its them who taught to their young ones to choose the path or make a decision which they personally like. realizing that your life is not yours even your parents nor your kids, its given from God he let you borrowed it. being a father we must understand and teach our young ones to cherish and livelife to the fullest of God’s desires. Preachy? it sound to you that it is preachy because i think your not living by the word of God and living on your own. im not judging you bro but it is God who made this movie to be viewed for all daddies in the world. Godbless you

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posted March 3, 2012 at 11:01 am

You said that you don’t like preachy films, and you criticies that this one end up with an altar calling. I guess this is why you did’nt mention in your summary, one of the key ideas of the film: we need God in parenting. I admire your possitive actitude about parenting responsabilities, but in my opinion, a good motivation is not enough. We need a loving & faithfull relationship with God for parenting. I think that the film end up with a lot of issues and longer, because of the main theme: the big responsability of parenting. And I don’t agree that the film sugested easy solutions, it shows the basics or fundamentals to face family life.

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Leon vereen

posted March 3, 2012 at 1:03 am

just watched and enjoyed it.

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Justine Eldridge

posted March 2, 2012 at 6:45 pm

I think you had a very good opinion and supported it well. I have to disagree though. I am a sixteen year old female and don’t have any children, but I think the movie was amazing. Yes the little girl does die, but it wasn’t to get a message across about being a bad father, it was trying to show people how fragile life is and how easy it is for us to take it for granted. This was the occurrence in his life that he realized what he was doing was wrong and that even though she was dead, he still had a son. As for the length, I wanted more! it got to the end I wasn’t ready for it to end. I also dont think it was very preachy, but it gave a sense of morals. It was more of a stand up for what you believe in story, and do what is right. They just used God to help them. as for going out to see a movie, you can never be sure what’s going to happen until you see it. Like in The Lion King. You don’t know Mufasa is going to die, but I know every time I watch it and even though it’s a cartoon I cry because that’s the equivalent to a child losing a father. Every movie has it’s good things and bad, but I have to say I would recommend Courageous to any man that is a father, is going to be a father, or finds themselves in a fatherly position.

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posted March 2, 2012 at 8:16 am

This movie was excellent, and I would recommend it to every family…especially, to Dads and Moms. The child’s death was an important part … it’s what started this father searching into his responsibility as a dad (which, until now, he’d never considered.) Also, the child’s death reminds us to “seize the moment,” as death can occur suddenly and unexpectedly.

I’m surprised at the commentator’s saying moms were treated weird in the movie — I didn’t see that at all. As a matter of fact, several mothers are shown in their roles throughout the movie — interacting with their husbands and loving on their children. It was so nice to see healthy interactions between spouses, and men taking the lead in their families and marriages.

I would encourage each of you to see the movie and make the decision for yourselves…you will come away with a different (healthier) perspective on what it means to be a father.

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David Wygmans

posted March 2, 2012 at 6:41 am

Interesting commentary. I really wanted to know whether or not Courageous was on the same schmaltzy, simplistic-solutions tradition of much of faith-based cinema. But for you to not recommend because the movie contains difficult, real-life problems (the death of a child)is really difficult for me. One of the dysfunctions of American Christianity is that we don’t see the kind of suffering that exists in the world, the moment-by-moment suffering of children of the world, in part as a result of our own culture’s activity. As for me, I say we need, like Jesus, to wade out into the sea of human suffering and touch and be touched. But thanks for engaging in the dialog.

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Dee Cantor

posted March 1, 2012 at 11:11 am

I saw this movie a few nights ago with my wife. I heard a few guys friends of mine cried during this movie, they are both fathers so maybe it hit home with them. In terms of movie quality it was a clunker. Acting was bad, dialogue was predictable, plot was all over the place. Agree that ignoring the mother’s place in a child’s was strange. From experience, a mother’s influence over a child’s mental state is equally as vital. Way too preachy for me, but if this movie can inspire bad fathers to be more involved in their kids lives…that’s cool.

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posted March 1, 2012 at 1:38 am

It’s good to equip your children for their future, but short sighted if you are not considering their life after death. A child that dies at an innocent age is a happy child; it’s only us that are left broken hearted. You need to discover your Creator because He wants to help you to help your child have eternal life.

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posted February 28, 2012 at 5:40 pm

Excellent commentary and review of this film! Definitely a tear jerker, and definitely preachy; yet the fatherhood message got through very clear. It was tough, though, to separate the fatherhood message from the “christian” message. One thing that Christians forget about (a lot) is that not everyone is a Christian. I’ll be working on distilling the fatherhood lesson of the movie from the “bible-y” message so I can digested a bit easier.

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posted February 27, 2012 at 10:02 pm

i disagree with it, it was a really good movie..i go to church and seeing this movie had made me do a lot of thinking about how i want to raise my daughter and i want to raise her right…and this is a sad movie. there only one thing i agree on is that the child dies i dont like that bout its part of the movie and it was the wake up call he needed to step up and be a better father to his son cuz he dont want to lose him like he lost his daughter..i love movies that are christian cuz they are so inspiring that it makes you rethink your life…

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Auster James

posted February 26, 2012 at 3:49 pm

I recently saw the movie and your comments are really on the mark.I will not say hate the film but will encourage every man [ whether he is a dad or not] in the world to see it. Some men need to express emotions and if the film does that Bravo. I am a mom and was not offended by the emphasis on fathers.Please men be FATHERS. My husband is a great husband and father and he saw the movie.

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posted February 26, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Saw the movie, loved the moved, would sit through the movie again! Can totally understand why someone who is only “kind of interested” in fatherhood would struggle to like the movie. I respect someone else’s right to not enjoy or be comfortable with the movie, but for me and the family I am responsible for, we will embrace the principles so clearly laid out in the movie.

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posted February 26, 2012 at 9:28 am

I do not think most mothers need the message of this film. Many men are either absent physically or emotionally from their children especially when the children start to turn into young adults. The movie is a wake up call to the men who put their work, a mistress or their sports or other hobby ahead of their children’s nurturing. If a father takes the message of this movie to heart, there will be some powerful and positive changes in the family dynamics.

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Father to be...

posted February 26, 2012 at 5:53 am

Movie was great. I was deeply touched and completely blown away. While it was a bit longer than it need to be the message was made transparent. God bless our families!!

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Hope Taylor

posted February 25, 2012 at 7:13 pm

My husband and I loved this movie. In my honest opinion if you didn’t like this movie then you need to get right with God. Its not a “preachy” movie, its a “life lesson learned” movie. Ok, so a child dies in the movie… God uses things like this in our life to shape us into the person He needs for us to be. Honestly, this movie was AMAZING!! It teaches you that even though bad things happen in life, good things can come from them. Its all about how you look at it. Sorry, you didn’t like the movie… but HATE is a really strong, misused word. Best of luck to you, and God Bless!

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posted February 25, 2012 at 6:50 am

It’s a great movie! go watch it again selfish!

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posted February 23, 2012 at 10:56 pm

I admit that the soul wrenching scenes in this movie where very difficult to watch… but I think the messages in this movie are messages that are not readily accepted… that it takes some serious stuff to make people recognize what is truly important in life. It is the extremes in life that jolt us from our everyday and remind us what we are missing. It is the death of a child or an overdose to the point of death that forces us to consider and make a change… and for the ho-hum individuals (like me) it takes a movie like this to remind me that: yes, we do need positive male figures for our sons and daughters… we are raising a generation on rap videos, jersey shore and sports figures… we need God more than ever and we need to teach our children that… because if we don’t, who is?… Snookie?.

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posted February 23, 2012 at 10:42 am

There is a lot I can say in answer to your message, but I don’t want to judge you for just being you. In answer to your comment that it was weird the movie did not make a big deal of the dity of mothers, it is a biblically sound movie, God calls fathers to be the head of the family, and the mother submits to her husband. Christ is the head of the family.

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posted February 22, 2012 at 1:44 pm

The movie was an excellent step in the right direction. With the deluge of films, multimedia and world influences trying to steal and destroy anything that resembles a family committed to Christ, we need more resources like this. I applaud Sherwood for their efforts and the quality is getting better all the time. To be critical in any way of trying to re-instill core values of family first, a father’s spiritual family responsibility, integrity over relationship and God through the word of God and committed brotherhood is a little irresponsible. I might rethink this post. I don’t like Hymns sung to organ music, but if I’m in the company of those who do, I honor them. Just a thought, love you brother!!

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posted February 22, 2012 at 8:56 am

You are off base. Sad you didn’t “get it.”

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posted February 22, 2012 at 3:02 am

I agree with you… I love God and all but this movie was pretty bad… Waaaay too many side stories and irrelevant conversations. I thought the guy at the beginning was the main character… Nope… I was wrong… I just didn’t like the movie. The point was good but the movie wasn’t good.

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posted February 21, 2012 at 10:03 pm

I love the movie. I am a mom so i literally dragged my husband to watch it. I agree with you that when we became parents something in us changed. It’s like when we see small children hurt we always relate it to ours. But the death of the girl in the movie courageous is important. You see, the hero there, Adam, needs a breaking point in his life in order to understand that his being a father is designed by God to be more than he is offering during the beginning of the movie. It’s difficult with you to deal with death because it’s difficult period. But you see, for us who believes in Christ, we have overcome death by looking at it as a reward more than a punishment. Because for us, to live is Christ and to die is gain. There’s a part in the movie when Adam danced with his daughter in his imagination and then he cried and said a prayer to God thanking Him for 9 years that He has given him his daughter. God have given you and He can also take it back. If there is a father out there who should watch this movie because he will learn about integrity through the character of Javier, he will learn about forgiveness through the character of the police officer who had a bad father, he will learn about mending mistakes and reconciling with his past through the character of the rookie, and he will learn about being doubly accountable through the character of the fallen police officer who stole drug evidence, but he will not watch it because you don’t like the part where Adam’s daughter died and they took your advice since you reveal this spoiler. The blessings and the goodness that you at least felt when you watch this movie stopped to you, you are benefited whether you like it or not and those who were not able to watch it because they were influenced by your opinion did not. To those who decided not to watch the movie on the basis of the death of the little girl which was not even shown in the movie how the girl died, please go and watch it still. Because there are a lot of messages in the movie that will outweigh your qualms over this part. So what if it is preachy, you will not die being told about how you as a father should love your kids. Take those that can add value to you as a father and ignore those that you felt are way over the top. But in the end, you will bring home something after watching this movie and it will not equate those you brought out with you when you watch movies of opposite nature.

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posted February 21, 2012 at 9:00 pm

Courageous has a very strong message for fathers. When 50% of all babies are born out of wed lock and a 50% divorce rate we have a problem with the generation coming up behind us. ALL children need a Father and Mother together involved in their lives if there is going to be a good success in their lives. Yes the movie was made by a Baptist church group because GOD and the church are the only ones that are promoting marriage and togetherness heavily. Try going to church sometime and maybe after a while you will change your mind. I did and I did.

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John Speer

posted February 21, 2012 at 10:53 am

I agree the movie was a little too long, but despite that, I would highly recommend the movie. I thought it addressed some of the really important issues facing our society regarding the jobs fathers need to do.

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posted February 20, 2012 at 12:58 pm

I thought the movie “courageous” was the best out of the four that this group has produced. the acting was better, though not perfect. I am a father, and I cried when the family lost their little girl. I dont like bad things happening to children either, but sometimes they do die in car crashes. And some times those things happen so God can show us things, like it did for this family. I watched the movie at least 3x. I didnt mind the preachiness-in fact, admired that people are bold enough to unashamedly put that kind of message out there. And they challenged you to not just recognize a good message, but to do something about it. I thought it would have been helpful if the contents of the resolution would have been shared so we can more effectively put the message into practice. I agree that the movie got slow in the middle, and had me yawning, waiting for the final result. Other than that, it has inspired life change in my heart, and I am grateful I watched it. I admire churches that are actively putting Christian movies out there and using media to share a healing message in a hurting world. Some healthy kids movies would be helpful too, cause cartoons are going down hill fast. almost all kids movies have kids fighting monsters, or aliens, or witches. Not stuff I’m tryin to raise my kids on. We don’t like to see kids get hurt, but let our kids watch other kids participating in violence, and they are heroes. what’s wrong with that picture?

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Trey Williams

posted February 20, 2012 at 11:51 am

Being a 46-yr-old father of a daughter who is 5, it was very disturbing and unnerving to go through the “grief process” with those parents. I agree with your assessment in that area. And, like you, I don’t want to be preached at. Otherwise, I enjoyed the movie. If the message is condemning, keep it to yourself. However, many dads need to hear the message conveyed in this flick. Kepp up with the good reviews.

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posted February 20, 2012 at 5:51 am

i watched this movie with my wife last night and my two boys, 8 and 10. POWERFUL film and we all got it. Movies can be so many different things to so many people: intense, comedic, adventurous, etc…
The movie was meant to be EYE OPENING! The point was to show the importance of being a father. To see a child passing away is harsh reality. However, that is the reason behind the message! Don’t waste time that you have with your children God has blessed you with! I held my boys tight after watching the film and realized that there is always room for improvement and time to be spent with them. I would highly recommend this film to all families.

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Johnny Wood

posted February 20, 2012 at 2:04 am

I did not see one thing in this movie that made me feel that I was being preached to. The movie, just like God, gives me free will to accept it’s message or not to. If you felt threatened by this movie, you are not a very strong man. Do you not agree with the principles of the pact they made with their children and families. This is an absolute must see for all fathers.

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posted February 19, 2012 at 9:31 pm

I whole-heartedly agree with you. I just watched this film on a United Airlines flight and I am sick from the emotional roller coaster. You put into words, my feelings exactly. Thank you.

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Cindy Bellflowers

posted February 19, 2012 at 2:39 pm

I have seen all the movies made by Sherwood Pictures being as I live about 40 mins from Albany, and I have truly enjoyed everyone of them. With the way the world is today, we need more faith based films in our lives. Something to really make you stop and think about what you are doing in your own life. All of their movies have surely made me appreciate things and people more that I have been neglecting. I would hope that you could look past the “Alter calling” as you call it and look at the true message of the movie.

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posted February 19, 2012 at 9:52 am

My husband and I just watched the movie (rental) last night and I thougth the movie was exactly what it needed to be. I work with families whose fathers are “on the fence” (if not fallen) with being the father that will help their children grow up to be able to break the cycles that have permeated and seemingly concreted themselves into their lineage and that end up opening the door for their children to walk into early sex, divorce, abuse…. you get the picture. This was not meant to be a casual message because it takes more than a casual message to break thru to the heart of fathers that are possibly not bad fathers, but not good fathers in the sense of what their children need. They have possibly been hurt also by the affects of a non-engaged father and yet the need for them to break thru their own hurts to take back by force (and that being a totally sacrificial commitment to that end) their own responsibility is absolute – there is no grey area in this. Trust me, I know. The alter call, as you called it, is simply, but powerfully, a picture of what it will take to turn the stern of direction the families of our country are currently heading towards-putting things in right order with God at the helm and fathers becoming responsible and very supportive to each other in this move to take back their families. I believe the movie was very very good – impactful; I cried and laughed and thought deeply all the way thru it and prayed that any father who watched it would see deeply the need of himself searching for the help to become the father his family desperately needs him to be.

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Nick Rokicki

posted February 18, 2012 at 1:53 am

The movie was ridiculous.

I just wasted a whole night. I should have went to church instead… that’s how preachy this one was.

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posted February 17, 2012 at 8:15 pm

I saw this movie at the Theatre and I loved it! It was the best out of the ones they have made so far. I also liked the message they were telling everyone. My favorite parts are the gun fight and the bloopers!

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posted February 17, 2012 at 11:49 am

You totally missed the point of the movie. A child dies; yes so do they all around the world! This is a movie for fathers. The mothers did have good parts. We men are suppose to be the priest of our home and and these men stepped up to the task. The altar call was very important as we are to lead our home we better get right with God first!

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Frank Llanas

posted February 16, 2012 at 10:29 pm

Disagree entirely. The truth does hurt and tends to offend. To preach is what all christians are called to do always inwhatever we do for it is who we are in Christ. Yes, I understand it is a difficult sunject with the little girl, but it is a true and realistic part of life that does occur often especially in our area of South Texas. It is expected that any film produced by this ministry will include preaching because it is a ministry. Flywheel, Facing the Giants, Fireproof, and Courageous. I do admire your stance on fatherhood for that is the point of the movie for so many men, both christian and not, have not taken their place as true fathers. Our views are different because of the perspectives we have in that it hurts you to see a child die and it may not be something common for you. On the other hand, me as a youth pastor face this often and worse in Mexico across from us so it is a common reality to me so it does not surprise as to you, however it does still hurt me. The purpose of the message in the preaching is to bring the solution of hope in the midst of the pain. God Bless You and your family.

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The Cyclist

posted February 15, 2012 at 8:54 pm

I am not active in any church or faith, but I think this was one of the best movies ever made. The message of responsibility, accountability, leadership, commitment and love should be the ideals of every human, organization and nation. Sure it is hard, but anything good takes commitment and sacrifice. Too many people want a happy life without commitment and sacrifice, I doubt that option exists.

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Donna Weeks

posted February 14, 2012 at 6:52 am

This movie came to move at a significant point in my life. There are many parents in my life who are struggling with their teenagers and “don’t know what to do”. So they give them more, tolerate the disrespect, lack of integrity and basically dishonor. This makes me sad, angry and frustrated. Even though this movie talked about Dad’s and kids living in homes without fathers, in my part of the country, the parents aren’t doing their job fully, they don’t know how. This movie talks about God, faith, trust, honor, love, integrity, respect…key words. Then, the fathers take a pledge, unheard of in my book. If we all stood up like this, in some small way, the world would be a better place for our children and it would teach them how to be honorable and respectful…not selfish and self-absorbed. I also agree with your point of view. I was very sad when the daughter died and thought the acting was realistic…I don’t want that happening to me…but this IS what motivates people to take action…something real and something hard in life….God does have a plan…and I was listening during this movie.

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posted February 13, 2012 at 10:57 pm

I disagree with you. Life is about reality and kids die every day. The point, as I took it, was to become “courageous” enough
to change one’s mind from that viewpoint.
However, I would like to have seen the final
scene, perhaps at another place than church.
Sometimes it never gets outside of the four walls, where it is so genuinely needed.

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posted February 13, 2012 at 6:45 pm

I totally disagree with you there is never enough preaching, but if you dont like faith based movies then don’t watch them I don’t like cussing and violence and perversion so I don’t watch those kind of movies I think hollywood has gotten away from movies that have meaning and family morals so ask yourself would I want my child to watch faith based movies or hollywood’s cussing, drinking, and perversion!

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posted February 13, 2012 at 5:18 pm

Won’t argue with you about the criticisms you have about the movie. But I took away from it so much more from it than the criticisms you mentioned. As a new mother of a 9 month old, I appreciated the spiritual reminders and values the movie attempted to share. I think your summary misses the heart of the movie as well. If I were to summarize the message of the movie, it would be this. “Parents – don’t just try to be a ‘good enough’ parent without a guide. The Holy Scriptures actually has a lot to say about the matter. Read it and have Christ change your heart, and commit to parenting according to God’s standards, which is above all expressing and showing your children how much they are loved and valued by God and you. But don’t do it alone – you need others, a community to help you do it.” I purposely made it gender neutral – cause you’re right in that they focused on the role of fathers only – but I think the movie makers did that intentionally – because I don’t think there is any support out there for fathers.

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posted February 13, 2012 at 10:28 am

To the author: Was the movie melodramatic and manipulative? Yes. But it was treating a symptom, not the all of the ills of the world. Many (if not most) dads are detached form their children because they are still big children themselves. Wisely, I think the Kendricks make this point. Love your kids before you lose ’em – there are few guarantees in life. If that fact of life makes you uncomfortable, good. Jesus said Christians would face hardship. Getting preached at, forced to think and to fell, then have an alter call (the doorway to decision and action) are forgotten fundamentals of the faith. Movies are generally just chewing gum for the brain. Why pan one that actually might provoke men to do the right thing?

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posted February 13, 2012 at 8:58 am

personally, I think this was a wonderful movie. like you, I cried during some of the sad parts. the action was great. the religious theme is something we need it in more movies today. the comedy was great. all of it was woven together to make a great movie.

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posted February 13, 2012 at 7:47 am

a groupn of couples from my church went to see it yesterday..and we loved it!…yes it was very very sad that the little girl died and I wept but (maybe because i have had to deal with grief of loosing loved ones quite early in life)i dotn think that made it a bad movie, it just made it more real. I however do agree that it was too long but it was still worth watching.
im a mum but i didnt find it weird at all that it was directed at just the fathers. In my country (nigeria) men tend to see raising children as just something for the in this movie all us women came out saying to our husbands “thats what ive been tryna tell you” …in africa most men hardly do stuff with their children…and it takes alot to make them see why they need to.

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Richard Quinn

posted February 12, 2012 at 8:11 am

I felt that this movie will help me become more aware of the regrets that I have made in not doing the little things with my children. I already know that God is my life and my first love. Once you have this, then loving anyone or someone else becomes easy.

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posted February 12, 2012 at 7:50 am

Wish I read this before watching. A family member insisted that this was a MUST SEE for all, so never even asking what it was about, I watched. I cannot shake The pain and sadness I FELT when that (spoiler) happened. Yes, there was a great message in this film, but i definitely wouldn’t have watched it had I known about the (spoiler.)

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posted February 11, 2012 at 11:31 pm

All I could say about this movie is that it opens your heart and eyes. I believe that was its whole purpose I give this movie a big 10.

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posted February 11, 2012 at 12:35 am

I have to say I disagree. I loved this movie! But I do know that you have to go into it understanding that faith-based movies don’t run on the the same budget that box office buster movies are. So, of course u aren’t going to have the same quality of filming, acting, … Considering the outrageousness of today’s films, I find it truly refreshing. As far as “forgetting the moms”, I did see less motherly interaction, but it was made clear that the focus was the relationships of men/fathers in the aspect of families & work environment…so I think that balanced everything out! If this movie touched just 1 person who considers themselves “non-religious” then it did its job. Just encouraging an absentee parent to be more involved, then it was a huge success!

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posted February 10, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Unfortunately, this is life. This is a great movie about life and about the TRUE lack of responsibility many men have for their wife and children. Welcome to my world of dealing with death of children and absent fathers. This is just another wake up call for men of America. Every husband and father needs to see this movie.
What really sickens me is when men don’t take responsibility nor interest in their children.

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Bev mitchell

posted February 9, 2012 at 8:37 pm

Get a grip death and tragedy is all a part of life. Is it awful? Yes. We must not grieve as though there is no hope. If we life right accept Christ as our savior, we will live again. The movie depicts real life, it was awesome. Showing it at our church youth night outing.
Myrtle Beach, SC

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molefe mathibe

posted February 9, 2012 at 2:13 pm

I saw the movie and it opened my mind regarding the impotance of family in ones life , I dont have a child , but after watching this movie , i thunk i can make agreat parent oneday.

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Todd Fishkind

posted February 9, 2012 at 1:39 am

Satan and his demons really, REALLY hate this movie.

I would beg you to search your heart very deeply..

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Cindy Treadway

posted February 8, 2012 at 9:40 pm

I don’t like movies that show harm coming to children, either, but you know what, it doesn’t keep it from happening in real life. It didn’t stop my husband and I from losing are son barely seven months ago. I had really no idea that the movie was about dealing with the loss of a child when I put the DVD into my player, and I’m glad I did not. Otherwise, I would have missed a wonderful movie that not only depicted emotions of the father AND the mother that echoed many of the things my husband and I have felt, it showed them staying strong, never losing their faith, and staying together. Yes, I cried throughout this movie, it reawakened some of the pain of losing my son, but I would strongly recommend it.

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posted February 8, 2012 at 4:51 pm

I agree that the movie is too long. I am not sure I agree that it is too preachy; maybe a little. I am very happy though that films of this type are making it to the big theaters and people are watching them. I especially liked Seven Days in Utopia, mainly because I love golf and God, and I thought it gave a good message without being preachy.

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Dan Apthorp

posted February 8, 2012 at 4:37 pm

Just for your information. A lot of men are ashamed to cry but if you talk to mental health workers and councilors they will tell you it is God’s way of cleansing ones mind and gets rid of mental pressures we have no control over. As far as the movie I highly recommend it and hope all who sees it takes to heart the real message.

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posted February 8, 2012 at 8:40 am

I think you are very wrong about this movie and didn’t really get the message at all. I think it was one of the best movies I have seen in a long time and I recomend all to see it. The reall message in this movie is that with God all things are possible and that if you believe in him and put your faith and trust in God, you can get through anything. It is also trying to teach men to step up and be fathers again. To be there for their familes and know what is going on in his house hold. Maybe if more men where involved in their families lives, there wouldn’t be so many kids getting into trouble or in the system. See the movie with open eyes and you will get it.

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posted February 5, 2012 at 7:33 pm

Sorry you missed the entire point…we have blended together roles of boys and girls…and have a bunch of fatherless homes in this country ….either in physical presence or mindless lack of attendance…..children do DIE…it is GUT wrenching….but perhaps the theme of the movie of a lack of REAL fathers in this country would make for more discussion
come on America …wake up….the faith that children live on with our loving God is comfort to many of us who have lost a child…if not…dig deeper to the reasons that many men do not stand up and say I will…and the terrible results that occur after that FACT….
some movies provoke action….and are not easy to watch…this one should as well…

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Rich Williams

posted February 5, 2012 at 1:20 pm

Dude please get a grip. Although your observation of the movie was purely your perception of both fatherhood and what it means to be preachy. The movie overall stuck a chord in the hearts of fathers who are sincere in raising strong, healthy and productive children. In addition, men who are willing and able to take the commitment of being fathers are standing up and cheering for the movie. Inspiration and motivation for change does not come from what we see, hear or know it comes from what we choose to believe and do.

I recommend you choose the message from the movie and not the method.

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posted February 5, 2012 at 6:13 am

I agree. A very long movie! A great message! I did have a hard time watching some of the scenes as I am a single mom of three. I can’t imagine having to endure the loss of a child. I felt as though they did put the comedic parts too close with the intense sad scenes. My emotions were like being on a roller coaster. I felt like the acting was better in this movie compared to the other Christian based movies that I have seen. I loved what the main character had to say in the end, as well as what you said. Too many fathers are not leading the family. Instead they are taking the backseat and allowing the moms or others to lead. Biblically, it is the man that should lead. That’s not to say us moms can’t guide, but we,by Gods word, should not be the leaders. As for me, I am the mom and because their dad left, God is the head of our household . He is who leads us. This movie did make me hug my kids a little tighter. It did make me think about am I doing enough as a mom. I too am guilty of running at full speed. I am so busy that sometimes I miss the little pearls of life. I need to slow down and capture the moments God gives me with my children. This movie may be aimed at dads, but moms can benefit too from it.

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posted February 5, 2012 at 3:12 am

After reading the first few post I almost stopped reading. And then I came down to the last post and saw rejoyce’s comment. I lost a grandchild to cancer in 2010, and it is really hard for my daughter to even think about the death of any child, because it really tears her heart apart. It has been one tough road and faith is really hard to understand, and not wanted by my daughter and her husband. However, I watched this movie tonight for the first time and I think that it is heart wrenching but real. I basically cried through most of it, and the amazing thing about watching it tonight, is that my daughter and I had a conversation about thanking God for allowing us to meet our precious little one, and that we now realize that nothing here on this earth is truly ours, so we must cherish what we have while we can.
I don’t think this movie was made to target women because most, (not all) women take the time to listen and nurture our child(ren). Men are just a little different. Being a father is a lot more than providing and protecting, children need to feel like both parents are there for them at all times.

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cole silver

posted February 4, 2012 at 2:45 pm

I loved facing the giants so when I heard my parents bought this movie and wanted to show it to me and my sister, I was all for it. After the movie was complete, I literally walked away without a word. I thought it was on of the worst movies I had ever seen. It was completely unrealistic, the dialogue from the wives was AWFUL, “You know there are some days I’m glad I married you, and there some days I’m really really glad I married you.” Hahaahahaha, never heard MY mom say that. Or anyone else. A much better example though? The same mom looks through probably soundproof glass at a boy halfway down the sidewalk whose mouth is blocked by her husband’s back. when the dad returns she says with no emotion at all, “I didn’t like that boy. He was very disrespectful.” the most contrived writing I’ve ever heard. the black dad was weird. Chastity ring? and “Hey kid, I don’t know you, and I dont want you seeing my daughter but if you want to come eat a meal with my entire family on wednesday, thats fine. You could be a rapist/killer but I don’t care, join the party!” Oh my god, a piece of paper, thats not good enough to sign as a pact between dad’s. Instead, you HAVE to wear a suit, and there has to be a ceremony. Please. ummmm, what else? oh, I disagree Jason, I thought the action scenes were horrible. If your break it down the entire climax was just a shoot out between two cars, with no chase and no drama. one guy gets shot in the arm twice, then in the ribs, and he runs away just fine with no blood, then there is a largely over-dramatic scene where they force him to the ground with like 5 cops while hes screaming. I started laughing I thought it was so stupid. umm, OH and all the bad guys are black, THATS NOT RACIST AT ALL, and the poor guy? Hes mexican. yeah. A random girl runs out into the middle of the street during a gunfight, because shes curious……………I need say no more. The best part, theres no cursing. Not one word. the realism goes out the window there. there are 3 black guys getting chased by the cops, and they don’t cuss one time. A cop gets hauled off to prison? Doesn’t curse NOOOOO it’s no big deal. and later on what does he do? He’s been taken away from his family and life by his best friend and what does he do? “Please forgive me.” And breaks down in tears. Yeah thats totally realistic, because badass cops are weepers too. In closing, apparently all fathers are incompetant. So all dads are neglecting their children. I love my father, and I don’t look up to anyone more. So if all Dad’s need to make this “pact” then I guess even great dads are bad. hmmm.

So In closing this movie was terrible. I really wanted to see Fireproof but now I’m no so sure. Because Alex Kinberg has made a god-awful flat out bad movie. I’m gonna go watch Facing the Giants again and redeem my faith in religious movies.

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Bobby Awtrey

posted February 3, 2012 at 1:40 pm

Thanks for your point of view …. however, the great thing about this movie … is it is believeable and real.

Most of today’s films are filled with blood, guts and killing … without ever showing what happens in real life … many people are involved (family, Friends, neighbors …even strangers) when a tragic event happens (like a drunk driver hitting a car and killing such precious child) …. many times people do not know how to deal with this …. Courageous points out we all hurt, we all question God and life and fairness …. but at least here we can feel how family and friends (and the pastor) faced this situation (just like real life) …

First you must remember this is a movie, it had to keep people’s interest while still telling a story …. I took a group of teenagers to see this movie (all coming from really bad situations at home) … they ranged in age from 15 – 21 …. most from single parent homes, many from abusive home, two of the girls are expecting a baby (and neither has the father still in their lives)… one young man has agirl friend that is also expecting a child and he had no intention of having anything to do with the mother or child …

After the movie we were able to discuss the storyline … every single one of them … found emotions that made them question where they are in their lives (and not just talking about God or getting saved) … but dealing with the hand they have been dealt.

If one family is healed from brokeness, if one father makes a decision to be better to his family … if one teenager gives second thoughts to the choices they make …. then this movie is a success and worth seeing …. and I recommend it without any reservations

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posted February 2, 2012 at 7:53 pm

To the ones who don’t wanna watch this because of whatever reason…. Jesus Christ died for you and I the harsh truth is is that it was a horrible death they beat him beyond recognition so would you not tell some one of him because it would make them sad? And another thing that’s why people don’t wanna hear it to begin with is because they feel guilty that’s the point CONVICTION is the way Christ brings us to repentance and guess what opinions don’t count with the lord the truth is the truth maybe you don’t agree with this movie but any step towards God is commendable and saying that something is to preachy is another way of saying I don’t wanna hear the truth because it makes me uncomfortable well I will be the first to tell you your uncomfortability doesn’t stop the world from spinning doesn’t stop children from getting killed by drunk drivers or doesn’t change the fact that it will always be that way but having faith in Christ is what you seem to lack hopefully you’ll one day see it the way I do.

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posted February 2, 2012 at 7:10 pm

To preachy? It’s a Christian movie sounds like “to preachy” is what you need. No one asked you to watch it so don’t criticize and mock God because you are unappreciative of what this movie means Ans being a good father is not the only thing this movie is about it’s OK because God still loves you even though you are ignorant and have your priorities mixed up!

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Jason Konas

posted February 1, 2012 at 10:46 pm

DUDE!!!Don’t quit! I just found this blog! I totally agree with what you said regarding the Courageous movie. If it takes a movie, a cheesy one at that, to light a fire under your arse then that just says something about one’s character. i think it’s just lazy. a man should know what it takes to be a man, a man should have men in his life so that when he isn’t being a man at work, at home, or in his relationships, then other men stand up to confront him, correct him, challenge and encourage him to be a better man. A man should emulate one’s life after the best of men, which is, of course Jesus. Go to the Bible if you wanna know what it means to be a real man, not some cheesy, preachy movie.

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jaymes tharp

posted January 31, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Yes you are. Hard to argue with results.

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posted January 31, 2012 at 9:56 am

I have to respectfully disagree with you. I saw the movie last night and thought it was excellent. I am a parent and hate to see children die but that is real life. I’ve dealt with divorce, loss of job, suicide and more in my life and although the movies by the Kendrick brothers are not true stories I find that they are about things that happen in real life and they are a boost to my faith. I am glad you are such a loving father, but if this movie touches just a few men to be better fathers maybe our world will be just a little bit better. No, it wasn’t directed to women but I can apply the same principles to my life and try to be a better mother and person.

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Lori R

posted January 23, 2012 at 10:00 am

I some what agree with you.

You have made some very sound realistic observations IMHO, that the tree huggers always seem to want to avoid.

Please take off your rose colored glasses & and READ in your Bibles …. Sometimes adversity in our lives comes our way to weaken us to make us more dependent on GOD!

Sorry but Fireproof was predictable & the acting was C quality. As for Courageous…
I’m sure they meant well & are tying to send a message to who?? the hardest to reach… Yes the Man the head of the Household. Men are hard to break!!!

I’m glad the people who like this movie do.
But it will take the Rapture of many Christian people off the face of this earth to truly bring many around to believe in Jesus Christ as our Savior. This is a very nice “fictional” film based on facts.

The time has come to Pray that is all we can do.

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posted January 22, 2012 at 6:26 pm

Watched last the movie with my husband, and loved it. We have been fosterparents for 15 years and adopted 4, after our first 3. We had over 35 children as fosterchildren, only 1 was from a married couple. This was such a good positive movie, two of our teenage boywatched it with us through the whole movie. We need fathers like this, who take an interest in their childrens lives.

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Proverbs 3:5-6

posted January 21, 2012 at 10:44 am

As a mother who lost my daughter at the tender age of 12, as a high school teacher who has seen many young unmarried pregnant teens, I highly recommend this movie. It is TIME that young people view movies that have a positive Godly message. It is unfortunate that you can only see the “B quality” of the filming and can only hear the preaching.

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pastor john young

posted January 20, 2012 at 1:09 pm

Do you watch the news do you hide under a rock. The seen were his daughter dies had a very clear purpose and meaning how to not take for grant that we could lose our children to cherish every momentwith them. This movie is an awesome movie and the preacheness you talk about well I sorry to tell you that is exactly what this world needs without God without Jesus Christ people have no hope look around my friend the shape this world is in its this way because people are trying to push God out of everything. They say 80% of america is christian not even close only about 5% are truly saved one saying there a christian doesn’t make it so no more then standing in the woods makes you a tree. This movie speaks loudly to why people need the Lord it shows how christian faith is real how God is real how Jesus Christ is real and also that we as christians aren’t perfect and God knows we are going to make mistakes just as parents we do as well but his love endures for ever and this is how we are to love are children. You are untitled to your opinion I resent that but this is an opinion that you make about something that is obvious you know very little about I pray for you I pray God gets a hold of your heart so you will beagle to truly see God bless you

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posted January 20, 2012 at 12:49 pm

I’m afraid your conclusion of the movie is the problem with Dad’s. Your conclusion is a USA Today news highlight. Unfortunatly that is the problem with masculine parenting. Many are not rolling up thier sleeves and digging into the whole of the high call. Your criticism falls into the very reason this movie needs to be seen. Artistic value aside, I admit some bumpy, not up to Steven Speilburg standard moments. BUT>>>This Message needs to be heard, more importantly needs to resonate with men. I am a coach, 20 years into it. Our boys are not strong nor do they possess true authentic confidence that many had just 10 to 15 years ago. This is something only positive masculine infuence can impart! Men need to be shaken and disturbed Jason, Americas lack of authentic masculinity is epedemic. We are raising Romans. And we all know that sad, sad story. Man up my friend….thanks for the opportunity to share my thoughts on your site.

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posted January 20, 2012 at 1:15 am

While I admire the message that Sherwood Pictures is trying to convey, I will never sit through another one of their attempts at cinema. Courageous was a mess of a movie, a combination of cheesy, cliched dialogue delivered by actors as believable as mannequins. Not to mention the extremely busy and convoluted story, with about forty five subplots and a serious genre identity crisis (Is it a drama? Is it an action movie? Is it a comedy? WHAT IS IT??) Add to that the heavy handed product placement (Buy your copy of the Resolution now at most book stores Christian and not) and zero attempts at subtlety, and you have the perfect storm of mediocrity. The Kendrick Brothers and Sherwood Baptist Church will be better served if they actually spent time learning the craft of film-making from start to finish, screenplay to screen before making another movie, but since they earned 35 million dollars at the box office, they’ll never learn. Bless their hearts, but they’re doing it wrong. I want my two hours and four bucks I spent on the Amazon Streaming rental back.

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posted January 17, 2012 at 10:39 pm

I could understand that it would be very difficult to enjoy a movie when your insides are all bound up with GUILT as your soul successfully receives this message. This movie was not made for your entertainment. It was made to bring this message to you and others like you so youcan do something about that knot that was tied in your

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posted January 14, 2012 at 6:28 pm

I thought this was an AWESOME movie and wish there were more like it. If just one childs life is changed because of this movie, then all the money spent to make it will not have been spent in vain. Some of the comments made here were about how “you” didn’t like it or want to see it because of how it would or did make “you” feel. What about all the fatherless children right here in America? How do you think they “feel”? I hope that every dad that sees this will think about the way they interact with their children and the way it affects them. Just because there is a portrayal of a childs death doesn’t make it a bad movie. There are dads thet reunite with their children and one who steps up to spend time with an absents dads child to improve his life too. So, let’s not just look at what we think is negative. There is way more positive that what others think is negative.

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posted January 14, 2012 at 6:15 pm

My wife took me to see this movie for my birthday. It has totally changed my life and the way I father my children. I think your portrayal of the movie is off base. First of all the main theme of the movie is NOT about the death of a child. It was IMPLIED that their daughter did die in a vehicle accident. It didn’t show the accident or even the child in the hospital, but rather how the family worked through this and became closer. The main theme was about fatherhood. Too many children all across America are being negatively affected by absent dads whether that is due to him walking out or just being too busy with job or selfish pleasures. As for what you call an alter call at the end, I believe this as well to be inacurate. I wouldn’t describe it that way. I felt it was more of a speach to encourage dads to step up to the plate and engage with their children and be REAL men. It was one of the police officers that gave the speech. If it had been an alter call it would have been a pastor similar to the one they used in their ceremony. I thought it was the BEST movie I had ever seen. I have pre-ordered it, told all my friends about it, and am planning to have a movie night at our home and invite some dads to come that haven’t seen it yet. So, to all who read this, I believe his description of the movie is a little misleading in his description of it. Go see it for yourself. You be the judge.

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posted January 8, 2012 at 9:57 pm

Will they ever make a movie that teaches women how to be a good wife and mother ? I have long been taken off the head of the household podium. Women today and there girlfriends make sure of that. Just curious.

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posted January 7, 2012 at 10:34 am

I don’t think anyone would argue that the death of a child is entertaining. And I can appreciate the issue of going out for an evening to “escape and enjoy yourself” and being blindsided by this very deep message. However, to see the movie and understand that the stats they quote about absent fathers and to clearly see they are accurate, I’m not sure how you cannot appreciate the message. Whether you’re a Christian or not, why would you not want to promote a message that might encourage a father not to abandon their family, (emotionally or physically). This deals with an issue that’s getting worse not better with fathers. It does ignore mothers to some degree, but you don’t see mothers dumping and ignoring their family the way you see fathers dong. Yes its heart breaking to see the death of a child, but it is a reality that we often don’t take seriously enough. This movie isn’t the movie to see for your “escape and enjoyment” for sure but it does bring to light how lazy we can be as fathers and reminds us that we don’t always have tomorrow to get it right. For that I appreciated being blindsided even though it was uncomfortable. I feel that I am a “good enough” father, but like in the movie, I don’t want to just be good enough. Great Movie, very inspirational and encouraging.

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posted December 16, 2011 at 12:54 pm

If you are not a Christian,you will not get anything from this movie, but we pray that the movie will touch your heart so that you will know that the Lord loves you and He wants to be part of your life..He is our Creator, and yes maybe you think this was preaching,,but this is a Word from the Lord to help you..GOD LOVES YOU!

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posted November 16, 2011 at 6:36 pm

I disagree totaly. I took my two daughters and their husbands to see the movie. Boy did it open up their eyes on how fast things can happen. They said it was an outstanding movie and would recommend it to everyone. Life is short and can hit anyone very hard at times. I’ve seen all the movies and Pray more come. Wake up people this is life.

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Single Mom

posted October 24, 2011 at 9:39 am

I just seen this movie last night and as a single mother I have to disagree with you. My ex-husband has abandoned our 15 year old duaghter and we are struggling to survive this loss in our family. Maybe it was a 30 mintues too long and a little corny at times but it had a very important message that America needs to hear. You do not walk out on your child’s life!!! I hope it doesn’t take the death of our dauthger or my life for my ex-husband to wake up and see what’s important. It’s not about the job or the hobbies but about family. This movie was about INTEGRITY and maybe every once in awhile we need to see movies like this to open our eyes and remind us all to do what is right by God and to help others see what maybe they cannot not see. My ex-husband will never see this movie but I pray every day that God will touch his heart and heal him and he will find his way home to our family. There’s way to many single parents rising their children alone for this movie not be seen. My father is my hero and I want my daughter’s father to be her hero.

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Dolly @ Soul Stops

posted October 20, 2011 at 3:32 pm

Hi Jason,

I didn’t see the movie but now I don’t think I will because I cry easily at sad movies anyway so thanks for letting me know.

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posted October 16, 2011 at 1:21 am

Your comments are sharp, and no macho guy likes to admit that he too weeped at a movie, but I prefer to experience the impact of going to the movie, let it sink in, because there is much more to this movie than just your summary.

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posted October 10, 2011 at 3:06 pm

The movie was meant to be EYE OPENING! The point was to show the importance of being a father. Yes, to see a movie witnessing a child passing away is harsh reality. However, that is the reason behind the message! Don’t waste time that you have with your children God has blessed you with! My daughters best friend recently past away, and I made a promise that if I died or any of my children I do not want to say ” I wish I would have…..” Try to think of it in that light! Blessings…..

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posted October 8, 2011 at 7:30 pm

youre over thinking…the films holds a beautiful message.Chew the meat and spit out the bone.. I love the movie

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posted October 7, 2011 at 9:16 pm

I certainly do appreciate your review of this movie, as well! I had not yet heard of this movie, but when I learned that it was about a child that had died, that’s all I had to hear. Like ‘Joyce’ commented, “It’s bad enough to watch a child die in a movie when one of your own hasn’t died, but when they have died, it’s awful to be blindsided by something like that when you think you’ve gone out to have a nice evening out.” Why people think watching a child die in a movie is entertaining, I’ll never know. I too, want escape and be entertained. And, like Gregory; Yes, Please do bring on the Science Fiction!

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posted October 6, 2011 at 9:42 pm

I agree completely. Our church recommended this film… yet as a father, I would not suggest this movie.

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Jason Boyett

posted October 6, 2011 at 11:28 am


I totally agree. Sometimes it IS important to see films and consume media that stretches us or makes us uncomfortable. But that doesn’t mean we must consume ALL media that makes us uncomfortable. Despite what might be gained from a film, some people choose not to see it because they don’t want to subject themselves to extreme violence. There are others who feel the same way about movies with excessive sex or nudity. They may see the value of such a film, but still make a personal choice not to see it because they know how those things may impact them. In these cases, you have a decision: is the potential benefit greater than the psychological detriment?

For me, a child’s death and the resulting trauma has every bit the gut-wrenching impact that ultraviolence may have on someone else. We need to be free to avoid that if we wish, while also recognizing the virtues of being challenged — and knowing we might miss out on something important. It’s a balancing act.

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posted October 6, 2011 at 11:18 am

i won’t see this movie either, but i disagree with what seems to be your advice to avoid movies (or stories for that matter) that make us uncomfortable.

are there cases where films exploit our emotions? of course and they’re usually obvious to avoid (which I’m guessing may be the case with this one)

but in many cases, those stories which are difficult/challenging/excruciating to hear or see are the most important of all.

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posted October 5, 2011 at 1:47 pm

I haven’t seen Courageous, but I can report a similar sensitivity to fictional violence against children after having children myself. I have often thought about the taboo of showing a child being harmed or killed in movies. I think the rarity of such scenes show that audiences won’t stand for it.

That’s not to say that I can’t recommend any film that has express or implied violence. Shutter Island and Kick Ass were both worth seeing. Check out Ebert’s scathing review of Kick Ass for more on this topic.

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posted October 4, 2011 at 6:18 pm

Jason, thank you once again for making feel like I’m not crazy! I haven’t seen the film for all the same reasons you mentioned. I am a father of four and share your sensitivity to watching kids experience pain. Also, I’m totally with you. I watch movies to escape and enjoy myself too; does that make us shallow? Who cares, bring on the science fiction!

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posted October 4, 2011 at 1:36 pm

In general I don’t go to see faith-based movies either, for the same reasons you listed. So, I can’t really answer your question. However, as someone who has lost a child to cancer, I appreciated your “spoiler”. It’s bad enough to watch a child die in a movie when one of your own hasn’t died, but when they have it’s awful to be blindsided by something like that when you think you’ve gone out to have a nice evening out. Now I have even more reasons not to see it.

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