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Lady Codependency, a Good Samaritan?

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There is a Bible story that (kind of) goes like this … Lady Codependency was on her way to work one day when a beggar asked her for change. “Come join me for breakfast,” she said, wanting desperately to please […]

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What’s Compassionate and What’s “Street” Stupid?

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I find it interesting to gather people’s opinions on what the right thing to do is when you are hit up for money. One very compassionate person said, “What would Jesus do?” as she gave the beggar a five dollar […]

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How Do New Doors Open?

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Thanks to reader Lisa, who wrote the following note on the message board of my “When One Door Closes …” post: I’m still trying to figure out how/if this applies in my own life. Fall in love at 19 — […]

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Edith Piaf Loved St. Therese Too!

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Here’s a cool blog post (click here) by Wendy Schuman about the singer Edith Piaf, who prayed to St. Therese of Lisieux (whom she credited with curing her childhood blindness). In the movie, she hears Therese’s voice. I’m always intrigued […]

Click for NAMI

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Revolution Health is hosting a health fair on their website to raise money for over a dozen non-profit health companies, such as NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). By clicking on NAMI’s virtual booth, you contribute 25 cents to their […]

My Depression Toolbox

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I’ve shared my twelve depression busters before, but by clicking here you can view a gallery featuring my toolbox that directs me toward mental health, and serves as an emergency lifeline in case I get lost along the way. I […]

Label Me, Please

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For a long while I was afraid to write things such as “I am mentally ill” or “I am bi-polar.” I was afraid of labels. By calling myself a manic-depressive would I trap my psyche in “sick” mode? By accepting […]

Gifted? Autistic? Quirky?

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“Paradoxically liberating.” That’s how Phil Schwarz of Framingham, Massachusetts described his diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome. I just read about his story, entitled “Gifted? Autistic? Or Just Quirky?” in the Washington Post with a dropped jaw because I related to so […]

Eat Dessert First

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Amen to reader Nora, who wrote this on my “Depression or Life?” post: Just the idea of dieting for so long makes me want to eat chocolate. I have never liked vegetables and making myself eat them is like pulling […]

For Sugar Addicts

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Thanks to reader Glaye who posted this note on the message board of my “Addicted? Who, Me?” Post: I am addicted to SUGAR. I have been known to eat over 7 thousand calories a day in candy, ice cream, cookies, […]

Is Your Diet Making You Fat?

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In case you need an excuse to ditch your diet or not go on one, here’s an article from Marie Claire that says dieting makes you fat. Yippie! I’m off the hook. Just like the day I found that article […]

Enlightened Eating

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And finally, just in case you need one more thing to think about before eating your lunch, here’s an interesting article from “Spirituality and Health” on enlightened eating by Deborah Kesten. She offers a holistic alternative to counting calories. Although […]

Early Saturday Morning in the House of a HSF (Highly Sensitive Family)

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2:00 a.m. HSH (highly sensitive husband) goes downstairs to sleep on the couch because he keeps getting awoken by the loud snoring of his HSW (highly sensitive wife), who is having anxiety dreams (she missed her final exam because she […]

Statistics Every HSM (Highly Sensitive Mom) Should Know

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My therapist photocopied for me a page out of the book “When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within” one of those many days I sat on her couch in tears, telling her how frustrated I was with my kids so […]

Suggestions for Highly Sensitive Persons

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So I guess plenty of Beyond Blue readers are HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons)! I loved some of the suggestions found on the posts (“Defining High Sensitivity,” “The Good and Bad News About Being Highly Sensitive,” “Six Strategies to Calm Yourself […]

Six Psychological Strategies to Calm Down

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Because Beyond Blue readers seemed to appreciate the physical strategies I listed on my “Six Strategies to Calm Yourself Down” post (based on the suggestions Elaine Aron gives in her book, “The Highly Sensitive Person“), I thought I’d offer her […]

More Highly Sensitive Advice?

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Several Beyond Blue readers–like Lisa, Jackie, and Becky below–wanted even more suggestions. Anyone have further advice? I hear you loud and clear…I am having so much “stress” in my life right now, mainly because of a grown daughter with lots […]

For Highly Sensitive Husbands/Wives: Four Ways to Relate to In-Laws

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Thanks to reader Anonymous who wrote the following note on the message board of my “Six Strategies to Calm Yourself Down” post: How do you “get out of the situation” if you have to be around in-laws that talk about […]

Mr. and Mrs. Happy’s Advice on In-Laws

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I absolutely love “The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook” by co-host of “Fox and Friends” Steve Doocy and his wife. Here are a few universal truths he says about in-laws: 1. You were not their first choice to be their […]

Back to the Basics: Easy Does It

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My doctor’s visit today felt a tad bit like confession. “So how are you?” “To tell you the truth, I’ve been feeling a bit fragile. Nothing like last summer when I awoke each morning fighting feelings of wanting to be […]

Caffeine Is Not Your Friend

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Here’s a helpful article by Karen Schroeder, MS, RD, on why and how to cut back on caffeine. It came into my e-mail box a few weeks ago, and I made a point of not reading it because I didn’t […]

Who Is Mentally Fit to Vote?

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New York Times reporter Pam Belluck’s article, “States Face Decisions on Who Is Mentally Fit to Vote” sort of reminded me of the tougher, revised Chinese laws on adoption–one stipulation being that no one taking antidepressants gets a kid. I […]

Fear Busters: A 21-Day Program

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Of course you don’t have to swim in a muddy pond or try to run across a really high bridge to confront your fears. Here’s a cool 21-day program–“Fear Busters”–to banish the fears that are plaguing you. To read the […]

I Did It! (And Don’t Ever Have to Again)

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In order to be discharged from the inpatient psych unit at Laurel Regional Hospital, all patients had to make a list of goals that they would work on once they got to sleep in their own beds. Three top goals […]

Personal Goal Setting

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The following article might be helpful in getting you started on setting goals. But some of this goal-setting stuff can go way too far. So if it makes you breathe harder, skip it. Click here to read the full article, […]

Remember Your Containers

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In her book “The Highly Sensitive Person,” Elaine Aron talks about how highly-sensitive persons often have difficulties with boundaries (phew! I thought it was just me). “Many HSPs [highly sensitive persons] tell me that a major problem for them is […]

Happy Father’s Day!

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A very happy Father’s Day to all male Beyond Blue readers! I know that I tend to address women’s issues more often than men’s, but I’m cognizant of Beyond Blue’s male readers, and I’m trying to do a better job […]

Borchard vs. CareLast

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If a person weren’t mentally ill before dealing with health insurance companies about her mental health benefits, she surely would be after a phone call or two. Marbles start rolling out of the noggin a second after the back-stabbing representative […]

“Sicko” in My House

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Producer Michael Moore could have used my conversation this afternoon with a CareFirst representative for his documentary “Sicko“: Me: “I just want to know why I received an explanation of benefits 18 months ago that said the patient responsibility was […]

“Sicko” at Cannes

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From a “Washington Post” article on Michael Moore’s “Sicko” which got plenty of buzz at the Cannes Film Festival: The movie asks, very pointedly: Why does one of the richest nations of Earth have a health-care system that leaves 50 […]

What You Don’t Know Can Kill You

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Speaking of health-care issues and our medical system, a great book to check out is “What You Don’t Know Can Kill You” by physician-author Laura Nathanson. The book is dedicated to the memory of her husband, Chuck, who died in […]

What “The Secret” Can and Can’t Do For Depression

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Thanks to reader Larry Parker who wrote the following message on my “Oprah at Wellesley” post: Creative visualization, or “The Secret,” or the Law of Attraction–or whatever you want to call Oprah’s philosophy–is not inspiring for those of us with […]

Dan Baker’s Six Happiness Tools

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Because I’m out of the Black Hole (for the moment), the six happiness tools listed below by Dan Baker in “What Happy People Know” provide a few useful hints. I have to be able to read them without saying between […]

A Call for Prayers

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I don’t know how to respond to the following notes posted on various message boards other than to say that I pray for you and offer you my sincere condolences and support. And I ask all readers out there to […]

Many Roads to Recovery

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Thanks to reader Eddie who wrote the following on the message board of my “A Dozen Addiction Zappers” post: This all sounds good, but when you are as depressed as I am, it sounds just like a bunch people talking […]

Addicted? Who, Me?

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On a lighter note, this article (click here for the full Q and A) was somewhat intriguing for a person like myself with both soft and hard (light and heavy, round and square) addictions. Judith Wright, co-founder of the Wright […]

On Defending My Faith

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About twice a year, I feel like I’m back on the set of the show “Politically Correct,” sitting across the stage from the beautiful Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman (Jane Seymour) and of course the irreverent and sarcastic host Bill Maher […]

My Response to the Priest Scandal

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I wrote an op-ed that ran in the “Baltimore Sun” and other papers shortly after news broke about the Boston priest scandal in winter of 2002. Here are excerpts from that piece: I almost wiped off the black smudge from […]

Defending my Faith on Sirius

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I will discussing my post, “On Defending My Faith,” on Sirius Radio, the Catholic Channel, Tuesday morning at 6:40 a.m. If you’re up, tune in!

Paris Hilton: Depression Isn’t a Rich Disease

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If I could avoid it–and exit the grocery store without accidentally reading tabloid headlines–I wouldn’t follow the details of Paris Hilton’s life. And even if I was one of those people truly fascinated by her, like my sister is, I […]

Therapists puzzled by “Sopranos” Dr. Melfi

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In another pop-culture new item, all “Sopranos” fans will want to read this interesting article by The Associated Press about TV’s most famous therapy relationship, and the ire it’s earning from therapists after the title character was unceremoniously dumped by […]

For “Star Wars” Fans: Diagnosing Darth Vader

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This morning I found a critical bit of news on my keyboard (left by Eric). Our house is obsessed with “Star Wars” as of late. So I was fascinated by the following article published by Wired.com. (What was especially shocking […]

Defining High Sensitivity–Two Facts to Remember

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If you tested positive as a highly sensitive person in the self-diagnosis I posted yesterday, you may benefit from knowing more about the HSP. Here’s a good start (from Elaine Aron’s book, “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When […]

Six Strategies to Calm Yourself Down

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Here are some physical strategies Aron mentions if you find yourself overaroused and about to have a meltdown (like I did in Toys-R-Us). She offers psychological methods, too, but I’ve found it more helpful to start with these physical suggestions. […]

Perverted Elmo and the Gospel of Luke

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Note to self: Do not enter Toys-R-Us after 7 p.m. or when fatigued. For a highly-sensitive person (HSP as defined by Elaine Aron in her bestseller “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You“) with sensory-integration […]

When One Door Closes…

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Thanks to reader, Jean, who wrote the following message on my “The ‘We’ Pronoun” post: My husband died suddenly, 3 days shy of our 15th wedding anniversary. I was 36, with children aged 9 and 13. Someone at the funeral […]

Oprah at Wellesley

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Click here to read Oprah’s entire 1997 commencement address to the graduates of Wellesley College. For more inspiring words for graduates, check out the gallery Beliefnet put up yesterday, based on the quotes I compiled in a previous post.

Share: What Worst Things Turned Out to Be the Best?

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What are some of the windows God has opened in your life when a door was slammed shut?

The Zen of Potty-Training

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I truly believe that the techniques used by parents to potty-train an obstinate child could, if adopted by the United Nations and NATO, lead to world peace. On a micro level, they can go a far way to tame a […]

Grant Me the Serenity to Potty-Train

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Last time I potty-trained a kid, I relied heavily on the Serenity Prayer, which helps me with all of life’s hurdles. Click here to read an article I wrote a few years ago, when David was the one in diapers. […]

Sandy Slaga: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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A few weeks ago, I launched my series “How Do You Move Beyond Blue?” with an interview with Gretchen Rubin, a fellow blogger who is working on the “Happiness Project.” Now I bring to you the lovely and inspirational Sandy […]

Sandy: Taking a Risk in Plain View

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Here is one of my favorite posts of Sandy’s blog, about her struggle of whether or not to return to a law practice. Sherrie Sisk’s guest post at Susan Carter Liebel’s blog, Build a Solo Practice, LLC, spoke to me. […]

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Seven Ways to Get Over an Infatuation
“Bewitched, bothered, and bewildered am I” wrote US songwriter Lorenz Hart about the feeling of infatuation. It’s blissful and euphoric, as we all know. But it’s also addicting, messy and blinding. Without careful monitoring, its wild ...

posted 12:46:43pm Feb. 19, 2014 | read full post »

When Faith Turns Neurotic
When does reciting scripture become a symptom of neurosis? Or praying the rosary an unhealthy compulsion? Not until I had the Book of Psalms practically memorized as a young girl did I learn that words and acts of faith can morph into desperate ...

posted 10:37:13am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

How to Handle Negative People
One of my mom’s best pieces of advice: “Hang with the winners.” This holds true in support groups (stick with the people who have the most sobriety), in college (find the peeps with good study habits), and in your workplace (stay away from ...

posted 10:32:10am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

8 Coping Strategies for the Holidays
For people prone to depression and anxiety – i.e. human beings – the holidays invite countless possibility to get sucked into negative and catastrophic thinking. You take the basic stressed-out individual and you increase her to-do list by a ...

posted 9:30:12am Nov. 21, 2013 | read full post »

Can I Say I’m a Son or Daughter of Christ and Suffer From Depression?
In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, we read: “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” What if we aren’t glad, we aren’t capable of rejoicing, and even prayer ...

posted 10:56:04am Oct. 29, 2013 | read full post »

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